I've recently run into a situation and will like some advices. I have a friend who I know for like more than 10 years. She's really a good friend and I appreciate her a lot. About 6 months ago she was looking for a job, so we were talking and I told her there might be an available position in my department, so we discussed about it, and long story short, I got her a job and now she's working in the same company. I have a girlfriend, which is a girl from another department, we met here about a year ago. I introduced both of them and it was all cool until my friend started acting weird. I asked her what's going on? At the beginning she was like "Nothing, dont worry", but after asking her a few times she finally told me she was jealous of my girlfriend, cuz I treat her different and like more special, which is obvious for me, since she's my gf. She said that my gf changed me and that I'm not the same person, that my world is around her and I'm not caring about other people. In the end she said that she stopped talking to me because she's trying to "protect herself". I respect her decision but I don't agree with her that I changed, I feel I'm the same person, but with the difference that my priority is my gf now. Anyway after a while I noticed that my friend was getting really close to my boss and she was like trying to help him with anything he need it. Not so long after a few of my collegues started telling me that I should be careful with her cuz she was talking to my boss at my back, even trying to take some business from me. I went and confronted her, asked her if all that was true. She denied it of course, saying that she knows a lot of people are talking about her, but that they have no idea what is she doing, and she started to act like the victim, like how can I believe other people and not her first, she was like it hurts a lot that you believe other people but not an old friend like her. We kinda stopped talking after all these incidents and even if we see each other we ignore each other. It really hurts me, cuz as I said in the beginning I really appreciated her as a friend. Dont know if I should believe her or not. The weird thing is that it was not one or two people who told me this about her, but quite a few. Don't know if that's a conspiracy against her but her acts surely dont help.
Girls are conniving bitches. Your boss should know better. If he realizes she's willing to throw you under the bus, she's not that trustworthy. Sure she's a good friend, but her true colours are starting to show, and she's not a good person.
Yeah I learned my lesson on hooking up friends with a job, I think i'll never work or introduce a job to a friend or relative That's the worst part, she was a good friend, but we never worked together so I never knew that side of her. Besides I believe this is more common with girls, there are far more complicated and they are always making problems out of nowhere. I expected her to support my relationship and hoping she will get a good stable job, but she turns out to be a ungrateful b***tch.
Sorry to hear that. When girls say they want to "protect themselves," they probably had a crush on that person until something "bad" happened, in your case, she met your gf. I'd be really careful... she might be getting close to your boss to make you jealous or sucking up for a promotion or insert reason x here __________. Whichever way, be careful what you say, act civil and hope she doesn't have any dirt on you =/
