Why does everything seem to come crashing down at me one after the other? Firstly, there's the break up with my ex girlfriend 1 and a half years ago.. and I still feel like utter crap because of it. We continued to have an on and off "relationship" after the break up and up until 7months ago, she just left completely. In a way I knew it would happen soon as we didn't have a healthy relationship even before the break up - after all her flirting with other guys and some physical stuff between her and these guys.. then I messed up by flirting with a few girls and losing her trust in me. (that's why she broke up with me) -dead Then there's my health. I've been back and forth to the hospital and doctors for check-ups, MRI scans etc due to a weird lump internally near the side of my chest area, my severe constant headaches and recently, the area between my left waist and stomach has become really swollen and painful for no apparent reason. My mum tried forcing me to go A&E, but I said no.. I hate going to the hospital. I'm already on a shit load of tablets, I don't need anymore! On top of that, I'm having a stressful time whilst at university due to the workload.. and even worst is that I'm constantly losing more and more friends whilst here at university. It just frustrates me that I'm losing these friends (female friends) for no reason. They end up telling me they like me, and when I tell them I only think of them as friends, they just flip out and become non-existent after that. I've had a few of them complain to me shouting that I somehow lead them on. But the thing is, I don't know how I'm leading them on! I spend most of my time studying. Seriously. I barely even have time to eat sometimes, so how the heck am I leading them on? The worst I managed to do is lose 3 friends in less than a week because of this. ~ I honestly would love to know what I'm doing wrong here. The only explanation I can think of for this is because I call them "sweetie" when I text them from time to time. -bash So basically, I'm now left sitting here with quite a few health problems, a stressful time at university with the stupidly huge work load, feeling depressed and lonely, found out a couple of weeks ago that my ex-girlfriend now has a new boyfriend.. I even read some stuff regarding their sex life. -shock Another thing that frustrates me is that my ex-gf still continues checking my private blog on a daily basis.. but I don't know why. I actually have tried being strong for quite a while and just focus on my degree, past it with the highest possible grade in it.. so far I've done great in every exam I've had. But I just feel so tired and exhausted now. I feel so worn out. Lonely. Socially awkward and I've gained a habit of pushing girls away now. I've still got 2 years until I finish with a masters degree. I honestly can't keep on living like this. I feel the need to escape but I can't. Saying that^, I did meet a girl recently who I became attracted to. She's a friend of a friend. I actually thought it could have been a good change in my life, as the girl is attractive, I love her personality and in a way, we think so alike. We ended up kissing etc on one night.. but the very next day, she went and told our friend about it as she apparently tells this friend everything. For some reason, this so called "friend" of mine accused me of a load of crap I've never even done such as play around with several women and this friend even brought up about the 3 second kiss we had back 4 years ago and says how she regretted it. After all this time of being completely normal around me, NOW she brings it up?! 4 years later?! -what? You could probably guess what happened between me and that girl.. We don't speak anymore. I tried clearing my name from the accusations, but there was no hope.. as my friend is a "best friend" of hers. In all honesty, I have no idea what I'm asking here. I guess I just needed to vent out my feelings.. I hate life right now. I really do hate it.
we all go through the same things in life one point or another and sometimes multiple times in our lives. It easy saying how we live better than a lot of people in poorer countries but we really do. Learn to appreciate what you have and slowly things will go well once you find your life's direction. You know to know your real friends and who will be there for you. Focusing on the past and negative things won't do any good. BTW I only quickly skimmed through what you wrote.
I'm sorry you feel like shit with all the things that are happening to you. We all go through it one point or another in our lives. However, your problems are very minor compare to what is going on around the world right now. If you think your silly girl problems are hard to handle. I can't see how you are going to handle a family later on in live, when you have to work for a living and provide for the family. Have a mortgage payment, car payment, keeping a job and keeping the family in harmony. You think you are stressed now? Boy are you in for a big surprise. Since you are still in university, you have a lot going for you. I know it's tough to not have a gf during this time. But I doubt your parents pay all that money so you can get at girls. I'm happy to hear that you are doing well in school. My advice to you is to continue to do your best in school get good grades and score a killer job when you graduate. With MONEY POWER and FAME, you'll get all the pussy you want later. Focus on your career now and your rewards will be much better than the has been girlfriends......keep your head up and "add oil" to advance in your education and career!!! Good luck!
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Don't give up. When u finish your degree and you got the $$, the ladies will come to you!
Hi there, I'm sorry with everything you're going through. I can only imagine how rough it is for you, especially with your health condition. Before I offer my advice to you, here are a few things I wanted to mention: 1) DELETE YOUR BLOG - especially if it's pretty much a public diary. Not only is it affecting your relationships you have with your friends, it could also bite you in the ass whenever you enter the professional world. 2) Girls are a PITA (and yes, this is coming from me ... a chick). I know you can't help it if you're attracted to someone. It's inevitable. Take your time with them. It sounds like you've had your fair share of cray, so it's all the reason to just take things slowly. 3) Your ex needs to be out of the picture. It seems like you're hurt that she has a new boyfriend and it wouldn't be fair to carry these feelings with another girl you're interested in. Most importantly, DO take care of your health. I am not sure what you are diagnosed with, but your well being should come first. Also, could you take off from school? Enroll part time? Maybe you can take on a new hobby or improve on an existing one to reduce some stress. Either way, I wish the best for your health and your education. Like the other users said: more money, more girls!
First, eat well. Have more greens and fruits. NO to junk/fast food, sodas, beer, smoke, etc. It's bad for you. You know it. Second, finish your Masters Degree. I know. It's TOUGH as hell (depending on the "top" ppl you are with). Eventually, you'll achieve it. Ever heard of "Ladies' nights" or "Girl talk"? Yes, you talk to one, then she passes her "your message" to the other ones. You can be the nicest guy on earth, but in the end, her "girlfriend" is the "judge". Joke. Naive. Silly. Just do what you care the most. Your health, your studies, and your family.
Fuck man I feel shitty too. I'm being destroyed inside out by this bitch that's called the flu. Shit sucks man.
What's with all these girl issues with PA members these past few weeks... First you need to take care of your health, it's the most important thing for any person. Have a proper daily diet and continue with your studies, if your health get any worst, you should think about taking a break from school. As for the girl issues, it sound like you are the problem, from what you said, you are a flirt too, girls hate that as much as guys do. You need to be more serious about it. You and your ex should just end it already, that back and forth will only cause more problems.
ehh if i like you and you keep calling me sweetie ofc id be happy and might thought you also like me back. then telling me you only think of me as a friend, ofc would get a little embarrassed and just wanna walk away. sorry to hear your shitty life bro hope it's better now. relationship is annoying and so difficult to handle sigh, lots of problems...what im doing now is just put it aside
As a serious suggestion, why haven't you tried looking for guy friends? All these girl problems- may not be worth it. Just find guy friends, they won't fall for you and you won't end up doing stupid stuff with them as you have 'apparently' done to the other girls. Seems like a simple answer right? Obviously, make sure you are as healthy as you can be too. Calling girls 'sweetie' by text may be misleading sometimes, it depends how you act around them usually.. perhaps just avoid them all together. Find buddies who you can hang out with, and not get into some weird trouble. You can probably share your problems with them, and they might know why you are always in trouble haha.
skimmed throgh your post and notice these; health, sex, stress, uni, fml. All that I can say is, keep your chin up, try not too care too much..serious and eventually (maybe) things will and usually in most cases or some cases do work out
Honestly, relationships will always have their ups and downs. As long as you can keep yourself together and muster through it, time will wash it all away and you'll look back some day and find it funny that you put so much thought into it at all. Patience!
You DO realize that you're responding to a message left more than a year ago? I guess that's the real definition of patience, eh?
J dot L...it's 2013! How are you doing? Still pissed? I suppose you're done with your studies and you have a wonderful GF!!
Hey guys! Haven't been on PA in such a long time... Update time! It's been slightly over 1 year now and life has become so much better! Time really does heal things eh? First up; Health! Still not perfect and still no reasoning behind some symptoms I've been suffering from, but there has been improvement, which is good. I still have to go back for general health checks from time to time - Had to have 5 bottles of blood taken a few days back. Another MRI scan next month, but so far there has been nothing too serious. University: Things have been going extremely well with my studies. Still have 1 more year to go as I'm doing my masters, but my degree results came out a few weeks back, and having scored a first in all exams, I honestly couldn't be happier. I find studying less stressful nowadays, no idea what it is, but maybe it's because I spend a lot of my time studying now. Friends and girls! Erm.. Quite non-existent in my life right now. For the past year, I've been busy with studying and the start up of my own small business and to say the least, results from both of these have been amazing - But it has meant that my social life had to be sacrificed... I've practically given up on looking for a new girlfriend. I've simply lost interest in the amount of effort I need to put in to keep one happy. I definitely don't think of this as a good thing, because of course, I'd want/need a girlfriend/wife in the future, but for now, I just simply don't have that type of enthusiasm in me to talk/flirt with girls anymore. And with all the previous shit I've received from girls telling me I'm leading them on etc, I've simply given up on talking to them altogether. I would love to change this and somehow have the desire to be flirtatious and talk to girls more often again, but I don't even know where to start. So yes, life has been very dry when it comes to female company... Friends; Not good here either! Since starting up my relatively successful and extremely lucky business, I've enjoyed a much more luxurious life; buying properties (albeit on mortgages), driving a new Porsche (sold 1 month ago), test driving Ferraris (only second hand though) at dealerships, spending money without too much care. It's all well and good to be able to do this at 21 years old, but all of this comes with a downside - The amount of jealousy there is from the people around me makes me want to run away and hide! There has been a lot of talking behind my back for the past year, people coming up to me saying "why are you driving a Porsche to uni, my parents only drive an old car!", "how much money do you make", people wanting to borrow money etc etc.. All mainly from fellow Asians! So I've decided to stay out of people's way and just enjoy life by myself and with family. I think I actually prefer being alone nowadays anyway... Again, it's not healthy, but I'm getting on with life happily like this for now. One step at a time I guess. Conclusion: To conclude, life has been very dry with no female company at all and not many friends to chill with, but with much more money in my wallet now, I guess it makes up for it a bit... But I'm getting on fine now. I'm definitely much more happier than before - I don't think of my ex at all, I'm care free now. Health will hopefully get better in the near future, but so far, there has been nothing which I should be worry about. For now, all of my time will be spent on studying and running my business. I'm tempted to move abroad and away from the UK within the next few years, I really want to move to Asia - I'll have to save up a bit more cash first though - I hear property in HK are stupidly expensive?! -mellow Hopefully once I've moved abroad, I'll start gaining back a desire to get a gf... I wonder what it's like for a BBC to get a girlfriend in HK. -lol To finish off: To anyone out there that is suffering from everything crashing down on you at once... When your friends tell you "Time will make it better", it's true! Time really does heal things.
lol bro, you're buying properties and driving ferrari's at 21? I'm 24 and I have a condo and two lexuses and thought I was well off. Good on you!
LOL damn you assholes! I'm 24 got a decent job and a place to live on my own and I thought I was well off! Anyways good on you man!
if you dont mind me asking, what kind of business is your one? 21yo + buy properties + ferrari = drug business?
