Is there anyone out there who believes that a good relationship can work out without sex?? The thing is I'm turning 20 this year, but I've never really had a boyfriend. I've dated several guys before, it's just that my relationship with those few guys have never gone official. I'm still a virgin, and when I tell that to the guys whom I have dated, they never return any of my calls the next day. I just don't believe in premarital sex, and that seems to be a turn-off for many of the guys. My girl friends whom I've known for quite some time tell me that guys only prefer girls who are experienced. That these days, there's no point in saving your virginity until marriage because 50% of all marriages end up in divorces anyway. Also, guys that are 20+ usually aren't virgins, and the ones who prefer to date virgins are usually hypocrites (meaning they aren't virgins themselves). So my question is, is sex an absolute must for every guy in a relationship? If the girl you are seeing is everything you've ever wanted in a girl, but she doesn't believe in premarital sex, how much would that bother you?
i think sex should always be important in relationships...but its the foundations that lead to it that are always priority no.1 - little things that people can do to get closer together...sharing calls to each other at night - n talking to morning, little moments of hugs, kisses...those little things are really important in relationships...so to guyz n galz - sex should come after that when both parties are ready =D
In a relationship, yes. Plenty of people don't have sex till they're married so if that's what you want or ur just wait'n for the right person, more power to yah. Oh, and guys do like it if a girl is experienced but ask a guy to choose between a virgin or an experienced girl for a wife and you'll most likely get a different answer. So just stick to your beliefs and listen to urself.
p3ps1c0la summed it pretty well ... it really depend on the guys. some guys prefer experience and yet there are those that prefer "the slate clean". personally, a girl with no background vs a girl with multiple partners, i would choose the girl with none. so .. there are pros and cons and either side. mainly, it is base on the type of guys you date ... less outgoing doods are not as 'promiscuous' as others. vice versa (-____-);;
Do what feels right. sex is not all that important but its just a plus in the relationship, for example making out, holding hands etcc.
I think after a certain age, a virgin becomes more intimidating than endearing. I think it puts too much pressure on the guys to perform well because they'd be your FIRST. Or they think that since you've held out that long, you're waiting for Mr. Right (your future husband) to come along, and they don't want that kind of pressure. But in any case, bottom line is that if he's really into you, experience won't matter. Virgin or not, you're just as likely to get a boyfriend as the next girl. You just haven't met the right guy yet. After all, there are still people who don't have sex before marriage.
but ironically, who does she have to compare with? ... so in a sense, that pressure is without point. just poking fun ... nothing serious -cool
a lot of guys don't go for virgins coz they think the responsiblity is too big... they might think wot if the girl ask him to marry her...?? n i have seen relationship working out without sex till they r married... but they r both very dedicated christians... if ur a virgin don't push urself to lose it... just wait till u meet the right guy that deserves all of u not just someone that's looking for sex...
I don't believe in premarital sex until you've met the right guy. How do you know it's the right guy? You see yourself in the future with this guy. Most relationships today are very very superficial, the whole "late night on the phone" "hugs, whispers and gifts" I think are all very superficial. A real relationship doesn't require gifts or happy moments 100% of the time, a real relationship is something you don't ever want to lose, when you can see their goods AND bads and can ACCEPT the bads without wanting to change them.
sex should only come after you have established a relationship, should never be rushed into it... unless you are seeking for just casual sex... that's totaly different. at this age in time, i don't think many guys care if you're a virgin or not prior to marriage...that's just silly...
Sex is an important part of a relationship but if it is or becomes the most important aspect then there is no ''real'' relationship.
Ante up your self esteem! I feel that you are begining to doubt your resolve to stay clean for your husband. Don't lose your courage. The biggest issue is that you shouldn't lose your virginity until your are ready. The first time is a very preciouse experience, and you do want to smile when you think about it later. Your friends are very jaded saying that virginity isn't important b/c 50% of marriages end up in divorce. Have they ever thought of the fact that modern attitude contributes to the high divorce rate (easy sex, easy divorce, easy break up).
Sex is not important... I think the most important thing is have sex with the partner that you love and want to be with for the rest of your life usually meaning after marriage...
sex is important...to an extent. people have needs, you need to satisfy each other...not in a perverted way...but people have needs
Question, do you want someone that really loves you, or just lust for your body. If you want someone who wants lust, the relationship is not going to last. If someone really loves you, they will wait, and ask you to marry him. I think it is important to keep your virginity, for it upholds the relationship. I dont know, but i think most people today doesnt want to take responsibility because they dont wait. And these people usually are the ones that make up the population of divorse mirrage. You should find a guy that will love you for who you are, and not for sex. Sex is pleasurable, but is not the basis in relationship. I dont know about other guys, but if I get into a relationship, I am serious and think of the future. If a guy doesnt think of the future, what chances do you really think that you will actually have a future with him in the first place?
Pervert guys arent worth your time. You should wait for someone that really loves you. And you are not a piece of meet. You should just tell them to jack off if they are really so horny.
