Hi all, I would like to know your opinion on how to 'fuel' loving long relationship and not let it lessen by time. -chef Any suggestions?
well there are two types of love. most of the love we engage in at the beginning is largely "passionate" love. you know, hand holding, PDA, all that stuff. but the love you really want to work towards is companionate love. passion is only going to last so long, much like a "new" thing eventually loses its novelty. not to mention, you're not trying as hard to get the significant other anymore (you're already going out!). so yeah, commitment to the relationship is important. that doesn't mean "oh, we have to see each other every other hour". sometimes you're going to have "off" periods because you or your significant other are busy with something (e.g. school). one way to keep things interesting is to do something that would "generate sparks" every once in a while (e.g. surprise dinner/outing). hope that helps.
long distance relationships is one of the types of relationships I would avoid. It takes a lot of time, patience and trust to weather through the gaps in between the time you see each other. But if your stuck in one already I think if both are 100% sure they love each other and is willing to give up everything then one of them must move to one of their locations to be together. I think the knowledge that they will eventually be together in the same city will make it last. If neither party is willing to move in the future then I advise they break up since it is a waste of time.
@ dawn : aaawww /hug but i agree to what compliant says.. try to do diffrent stuff.... but just dont be suprised if there will be down times.. just try to avoid down times and sometimes you have to take the fault for something stupid just dont be stubborn and just say sorry
Can $$$$$$$$$$$ fuel the love? I know that it can definitely spark love but not buy love. Thanks for the comments.
Well in relationships there would be down times sometimes, but never tried to avoid it and think it'll go away. The best thing to do is to go through hardships together. A relationship doesn't take one person, it takes two. To make a relationship nice, try to go on nice simple dates together and try out new things ^^
A true love relationship requires both party to give and take. If one person only will to take and not willing to give back then the relationship will not last. I agree will Saber77 that if neither party is willing to move in the future together then the relationship is just a waste of time.
theres the first stage: Honeymoon period - a short length of time during which both of you are totally engrossed with each other. After that the lust and amazement is kinda...dispersed` their flaws start becomin more obvious` i think a realli long relationship not only requires the mental connection, give and take etc, but the presence of sex is important` allows intimate contact and adds a bit of spice to ur relationship...` i ain't experienced but just mai views la =] g'luk love` mon
If you consider you have to SURVIVE a relationship, then probably there's no way you are going to survive. IMHO relationship is something of an accomplishment, you kind of better yourself and her to maintain it. And avoid unnecessary alcohol, specially the overdose type, since it always spells trouble for long term relationship. People rants when they are drunk, and they tend to be ungraceful in their choice of words. Not the best addition to a relationship. Unless of course, it will be perfectly a-ok if you are drinking each other under the table and both got so drunk that neither will remember it afterwards.
This is exactly what people take for granted, long distance or short, all relationships STILL need those things. Sadly there are people who live close by each other who still can't do that or don't have the time see each other. but what your saying about in the long term is true. Preparing to move and be together in the end would be the idea of a long distance relationship...
damn, jst read "men are from mars, women are from venus" tells you everything you need to know for a long lasting relationship
Love her, marry her (if dont wana marry her then dont be with her) and understand that it aint always easy, u will get n each others nerves at times. do you know a friend or family member that has not made you completely mad, its the same for your wife. imo $$$ can spark love/lust as long as the $$$ is around.
how to keep the relationship last long time?? keep do new stuff.. make the feeling new all the time.. try new things, go new places
