there is this guy a like but there are several issues i have to get passed first there is this REALLY close friend of mind, who's younger brother who i REALLY like we're kinda in tha stage that we're not bf/gf, but you can see something is going on so let's say the pre-steps to a relationship for a LONG time we kinda hid it from his brother (over 6 months) but recently we were discouvered he (the guy i like) is kinda in the situation where he has to do everything his older brother tells him to do, cause he's living with him, and the older brother has that (i have to take care of you, because I'm the only family you've got in the US now) complex, while the younger brother has the (he's my older brother, i have to be respectful and do everything my brother tells me to do) complex especially since he's borrowing his car, living at his place and everything else (he's going to school right now, so he doesn't quite have the income or the time to go out and REALLY work yet besides a restuarnt job) now the older brother (remember he is one of the friends who i care about the most) doens't like what is going on and is stepping in because nothing has been official, or said outloud, he can't directly talk to me about this and i can't directly talk to him about this either but what i mean he's stepping in is, 1) he invites himself when we're on a (alone time outing) 2) he will not let his brother borrow his car if he knows it is to see me (and the guy i like tries not to lie as much as possible) 3) we use to hang out alot together just the four of us (me, two brothers, and the older brother's girlfriend), just as friends, but now, he refuses to let those 'double dates' happen now i only get to see him if 1) he lies to his brother 2) tells his brother, and i pick him up (but that has caused hostility) 3) we hang out with a HUGE group of friends, which we use to do twice a week, but suddenly after telling the older brother off about his being an ass to me lately, we haven't hung out as such a big group for three weeks now . . . ANY COMMENTS? SUGGESTIONS? ADVICE? SYMPATHY? what do i do about the brother? dont forget, we technically aren't in a relationship (which i will ask another question in another thread later about) so we can't say hey, cut it out, we're dating, so deal. . . . oh sorry, the story goes on, i almost forgot so now the brother is back in teh life preventing all these things from happening we only get to talk on the phone now but not only that, the guy himself is starting to make less and less effort is that not a good sign, or am i just menstrating and freaking out over nothing? in case you guys are wondering how we hid is so well for a long time, was because the older brother was away working in another city of a year
SEEEE!! I knew it!! you're old than the guy!! thas gotta make him feel a bit uncomfortable.. I mean does he introduce you to his friends as his big sister?? -lol
big sister!!! nooooooooooo he talks to him best friend about me alot and i think in a good way his friends are in different states, they only get to see each oher once a year when every one goes home but one time i called him, and he was with his friend (during christmas) and i could hear his friend making fun of him, trying to get my attention inthe background over the phone (cheers, for good signs) he often treats me like equal to him but at the same time, you may be right there has been a few times when talking to him, he would mention, i should know better since i'm SOOO MUCH OLDER than him
yea 3 years... especially when dude is 19.. He wanna go out balling with a 17-18 year old.. and his friends.. I mean they'll do that to any girl who calls a guys cell.. I dunno do you call him often?? cuz that might feel like oh big sis checking in on his lil bro... either he really likes you.. but can't get over the fact you're older than him.. or maybe it's something else.. Keep in mind.. I'm only presenting to you another situation.. by no means am I implying that's what he feels about you..
but the fact that his friends even know about me cause they are far far away i dunno i dunno what to think wahhhhhhhhhh i really like him, but something is not going right
look. if i was that guy, heres what i would do. i would run all the way to the nearest flower shop, buy the prettiest bouquet of flower, run over to your house, dodge all the cars driving straight towards me when i jay walk, flip them for almost killing me, ring on the door bell, run to your room and say "I LOVE YOU!!!" right then. -innocent2
yes.. then they would strip off all their closes and have you tell them that they've been a naughty lil boy. Thus followed by you cuffing him and spanking him with an oar saying.. "who's your mommy"...
i read the story.. ijust gotta ssay that im completely lost. ... like. do u like the little brother and the big brother? or do u like the little brother but the big brother likes u? or like ur a bad personality so the big brother does not like ur influence or someth.
I have a younger brother, and I wouldn't want my brother to date girls around my age. I think the older brother has his reasons for not allowing his brother to get with you. Maybe you should tell the younger brother to talk to his older brother and find out those reasons.
