I would like to know thru others experience if they can answer this question. I have been with this girl for almost 4 months. We have been friends more than a year now and at first i didn't like her like that. But then 1 day i started to feel for her & gradually i'm growing to love her more & more. Thing is we r dating, but she doesn't consider it official cos she doesn't feel for me like that yet. She said that like when she doesn't see me (since we see each other often) she does miss me, but she's not really sure if that is cos we always together or she does have something there for me. She believes that she does have something there but she's not certain. B4 i was like her too, i started to have these feelings 2wards her but i'm not quite sure but now i am confident that i fallen for her. All i'm asking is that do u believe she is having similar experience to me b4?
dude... she's already dating u... of coz she's got the thing for u... just do ur normal things n one day she'll finally realise her feelings... n dun push her into admitting her feelings coz that'll ruin the whole thing
i agree with dawn. don't push her. it's only been 4 months. don't dwell on it, just see how things go. if u keep bugging her, she's just gonna get annoyed. if u guys are already dating, then that means she feels something for u. if a guy i was dating was pestering me after only 4 months of dating on how serious we are, i would probably get annoyed and thinks he's too clingy which will probably lead me to think that he's not the one for me.
tell her to f-o. LOL Seriously, she has issues that only she can resolve. Give her the time to figure it out (girls are slow
thanks for advice thanks for ur advice guys. I understand what u mean and NO I NEVER pressure her. I never ask her do u feel for me yet ect... I told her as long as she's giving me a chance i'm happy & i believe as long as i'm sincere to her 1 day she will fall for me. Sides when something is true it takes time since if its rush rush means it's too easy. Just that i really feel for her & sometimes i get kinda scare that's all so just ask those who have experienced this situation before. like now she is more comfortable with us in public ect... so the progress is going positively.
hmm i've been dating a girl for 4 months too, but i'm still not sure on where we both stand in this relationship as it hasn't really progressed much. In fact we don't see each other as often anymore, but at the same time shes not trying to call it off so i'm not sure what she is thinking. I haven't bugged her about whether we're official yet, so there isn't any committment atm. Anyways sorry to hijack and tell you about my situation. In your case she might just want to let the relationship flow and see what happens. Maybe she doesn't want to get too attached yet in case shes got mixed feeligs for you and doesn't want you or herself to be hurt. ^^ Lee lee i don't think it's clingy at all, i mean the guy just wants to know how shes feeling, but yeah i agree he shouldn't keep pestering her too much. But at the same time the girl shouldn't leave him hanging too much, because if after 4 months she still hasn't sort out her feelings yet, then maybe shes just not the right girl and they are just wasting time goodluck OP
Didn't mean to come off as harsh. sorry if i did. i'm sorta answering from my point of view. i'm sorta in the girls position right now too and the guy is curious about how serious i am about the relationship. i don't think the girl is keeping the guy hanging. she told him that misses him when she's not with him. so that's a good good good sign. but honestly from my point of view, 4 months is just too soon to figure out anything. give it time and see how it goes. Good luck to everyone in the same dilemma!
she's bad news meng. She keeps holdin on til she finds someone better!!! U might as well keep her around and look at the same time just in case.
heh nope you weren't harsh at all, i'm in a similar situation as the OP and yeah hearing a girls point of view in such situations is always going to be helpful
yeah thats what i was thinking too lol, just having the dude as back up and something to fall back on if she fails with other people. those evil girls >.<
i dont want to say i agree but i kinda do well ok, um she may be bad news she may be not just becareful because some girls are like this she might be dating you just cause she's bored maybe cause she's lonely but you have been friends with her for a long time the best way to judge is, do you know how her past relationships were like? i dunno, your really close to getting your feelings hurt if it's been 4 months and she has NO feelings for you? um that's kinda scary she's probebly just in it for fun not putting in a emotional effort maybe a physical let's have fun effort, but not the same maybe she's not ready for that type of relationship but if she says she is, but still has no feelings (ok that's just bad) becareful before you let your heart get deep in i know . . .
Very simple, if a person knows instinctly what s/he wants or an old hand in the game then 4 months is plenty of time. However if s/he is a newbie or rookie in love then the process could be much longer! Something else that you also need to factor in which is the time it takes is the practicality of love since feelings along will not be sufficient to live together and of course as another reader stated there might just be competition around the corner and there is also the question of whether you offer the best value as a lover! You asked if she loves you? Candidly, if you have not read the signals from her by now after 4 months (heart beats, facial and flutter of the eyes, eyes meeting with yours, hot flushes....) then the answer is emphatic NO! Keep working on it though but be realistic and don't expect too much till you read the signals.
Well, sad to say ... but after 1 yr as friends, 4 mos as date ... can't blame you if you feel like she's using you as a spare. I wld too. But i think at the end of the day, you shld know better - how is she treating you, etc.
This is definately something she has to work out. No point in worrying about it, just enjoy the ride.
i thin she does like u but she rite may be cuz u gusy always togeter so she can't tell if hte feeling is love or just friend.. igve it thiem she will knew
hmm.. i think she does feels for u. girls are like that. they need time to really cool down and seriously think about it. =)
Tel u What .. on valentine's day... give ger chocolate and a CARD " INside Put all ur feelings about her " and Give Questions , such as : So Do u Love Me ? or How U feel About me ? See how it goes ... u DARE ???... if u can do it, then surely u don't need to think too much whether she love u or not... cause SHE WILL give OUT the ANSWER
