First I want to say that my English is not the best...but I try to tell you the story as good as I can.. Her name is Thuy and she is vietnamese and I'm Florian, german, she is good looking and 16 years old now, I loved here for more then 8 month. Her parents accepted me as her boyfriend, I learned Vietnamese just to tell her parents that I love her from the button of my heart, even the familys of her cousins accepted me and talked with me very friendly. I liked it. Then we broke up...just because of some little problems....but then she said some extremly mean things... We talked for a very long time like 4 or 5 hours and I forgave her... but it wasn't like it was before...I could't love her as I did before so 2 days ago I broke up with her because I didn't want to lie at her with my feelings. Now there my problem starts. She came to my house just 3 hours ago she said she just would bring my things to my house and then turn around and go...but I didn't trust her so I said she should put the things in front of my house and just go. She didn't listen, she kept ringing the doorbell of all apartments, that's why I needed to come down and talk with her. She handed me my thing over but then she suddenly grabbed my hand and pulled me towards her, she tried to kiss me but I pushed her away. Then she shouted at me, said she would not go until I had sex with her...I thought this was a joke...but it wasn't, then she turned towards the doorbells and ranged at the doorbell of my grandmothers appartment....my grandmother opend and so she came into my house... then she started crying and shouting in the hallway so I needed to bring her into my room..I didn't want to bother my neighbours any longer... in my room I phoned her best friend to pick her up.... In the meantime she destroyed some thing in my room...she really got on my nerves...but I would never mention to hit her so I calmed down... After 20 minutes her best friend came and picked her up... Then I decided to call her brother, I'm not best friend with her brother but we don't hate each other neither. We talked for some minutes and he said me to calm down and so on...didn't helped me at all... and that's my problem...but the next one is coming soon...there is a chua (viet festival) near here on saturday...i need to be there, but she might be there as well...any ideas? EDIT: Before you think I was a bad boyfriend...no I wasn't, we broke up but I never shouted at her or said mean things, never hitted her or something like that.
Sorrie bro, I think this belongs in the relationships section. Anyway she's Vietnamese? What were the the reasons why you broke up with her? Vietnamese girls usually aren't like, I want to have sex and stuff. Well the ones that I know. An advice? I'll say ignore her. If she does anything reckless, like yelling and making a commotion out of it. Just walk away. You've done nothing wrong so you shouldn't feel bad. If she doesn't, I say, just ignore her, don't give her any eye contact. I really haven't encountered such problems, because once I break up with whoever I'm going out with, it's over. If I see them around, I just cover my face and look the other way hehe. Don't be so harsh on yourself. She seems a little crazy if you ask me.
see, she still has feelings for you.. being 16, young and insecure, theyre not used to handle situations like this. not to mention that kids these days think they're adults. she is not crazy. she is EXTREMELY insecure. she is way too young. having sex? seriously. you did right in walking away. its not only better for you, but when she grows up, she'll thank you. thats why i disapprove of young relationships. ive known so many friends like that, and honestly, their immaturity is all to be blamed. they make the most stupid mistakes, such as this girl here. so many surveys show that the vast majority of non-virgin girls (guys dont like answering these surveys) regret they had premature relationships. when young, teens think everything they say is right and adults are wrong. i know, i was like that a few years ago. after maturing more, i realized that my parents we're always right, and i was wrong. kids are stubborn, and pretend to act mature, when their minds are still immature. my advice: hold it. you'll be grateful. and listen to your parents. you'll be grateful too. or else, learn the hard way.
she's just young. i don't think it has anything to do with being vietnamese. u know how when ur a teenager, one bad thing (no matter how small it is) is just the MOST awful thing on earth and ur life is just gonna come to an end and it'll never work out and so on and so on? i'm sure that when we were 16, we reacted and did things that seem so stupid to even think about now. as for this vietnamese celebration, do u really have to go? i just think that if she saw u, she would prob get upset all over again. but if u must, just be on guard i guess. hopefully, over time, she'll figure it out.
Yeah, she's just a teen and you know the stuff, love, feelings etc. Forget her and look for a new girl friend.-scooter And yes, you should post it into "Relationship" I don't know what it has something to do with Vietnamese/Vietnam - because she's Viet or what?
yah u will get more response if u post it in the realtionship section. if i were u, i would go to the veit festival. she is gonna see u and things will happen. Was she drunk at the time?
What I wanna know is.. what's the relevancy between your girlfriend being Vietnamese and your situation?
I guess he thought because she's vietnamese, it could have something to do with our culture? LOL well to clear it up buddie, she's an individual, unless she's like burning incense in your house, then it could have something with her being vietnamese. otherwise... hmmm about the she wanting to have sex with you thing, i guess she wanted to keep you and is willing to sacrifice her virginity (if she is one) for it? or maybe the result afterwards, if she gets pregnant then you're chained to her.
Best advice i can give is to be straight with her. Tell her u guys are broken up and shes not important in ur life anymore. The fact that she caused so much drama and trouble isn't worth it to even know her anymore. So stop talking to her and move on with ur life. If u see her don't even say hi until maybe a year has passed. Be a man and just tell her like it is. If she pulls anymore crap tell her u won't take it anymore. Call the cops if she does something dumb the next time.
That bitch is crazy...!!! plain n simple.. -lol jk.. damn I was hella laughing just at the title.. I bet you can make a movie outta there.. just tell her she's too immature, n that it's over.. ignore her n she'll forget sooner or later.. that is.. not before she breaks yo car windows n light your ass on fire..
in your case, she's 16; what do you expect from an immature girl? As for the title, i have had bad experience with viet girls too.
lol ipepsi wants someone bossy.. -lol.. post a pic of wha?? lol I wonder if the girl is that bubblegum chick.. -lol
ierno i just thought it was funny. lol. I always read these things, but you know a picture makes it more interesting..lol
