Well my life was great. I had everything i wanted. Until today it all hit me. I think its all my fault that this happen today. As of today i am officially alone, without my girlfriend of 2 1/2 year. This all came to be because her dad saw us in the street with my hand over her shoulder. Well now my girlfriend will be going to boot camp or what ever the call it. No phone no nothing, i think we won't see each other ever again. what to do with my life or what can i do about this situation???
she went to boot camp because of the relationship you guys had? honestly.... being an uncle, and caring for an extended niece as much as father daughter, i think that sending a child out to boot camp because of that issue is way ridiculous... btw, im 20 and shes 17... i care for her as much as any adult would.. the only thing i can say to you is that i apologize for your situation... im not going to sugarcoat it.. it will be hard, and you must be courageous and walk forward.. but becareful about what youre going to do in the future. because, when she comes out of boot camp, having no presence of guys, she might still have feelings for you.. and if she shes that youve changed too much, it may be heartbreaking.. so be careful about what you are going to do in the future..
its just retarded because her dad doesn't know how to talk to his kids. its all about money and money solves all problems. he can't fix his problems ,he sends it else where. its not like were doing anything wrong. she goes to school and still gets great grades. i don't take up her time, i encourage her to go to school. i guess its just because i'm a guy.
Yo... I'm sorry to hear that mang... damn that father is strict... I guess you could try n go up to her house n beg the father... but damn.. 2 n half years without her parents knowing.. thas kinda playing with fire right there... funny thing is.. I jus saw ATL yesterday... this like your modern day Romeo n Juliet type of situation...
if you go talk to the father, its like playing with a double-edged sword.. if you explain everything clearly to him, without any provocations, he may turn back his decision.. but then again, he may not. if you are a nice guy, a really likable dude, then just maybe.. but like ecko said.. youre already in the fire.. this is your decision if you want to go up to him and talk about it.. BUT be careful dude, it may just worsen things.. oh and just so you know, because we're guys, our parents dont worry as much as if they had a daughter. my old man told me that if he had a daughter, damn he might just be a hell of a lot stricter than he is with me.
yeh its like playing with fire.. i guess i got burn this time and it hurts. i'm a guy that any girls mother would love. im the down to earth type. i don't drink i don't smoke, i don't even stay out late. so pathetic i am. i can cook, man i can do everything your mother and father and much moreee..
wow.. 2 and 1/2 is quite a long relationship nowadays.. he can't tie her up forever.. so if you guys really share a special bond, then you guys can overcome a period of separation. there's "a time to kill, and a time to heal".. just depends on how you view it.. cheer up~
dude.. pathetic? yo might as well call me pathetic too. theres nothing wrong with taking responsibilities like that. thats the right thing to do. proves that you are responsible. yo some girls dig guys that can do that shit. i know a lot of girls that do. no doubt your girl does too. but see, her old man doesnt know that. youve got to prove it to them that youve got what it takes.. maybe your first mistake was not meeting her family, cuz thats when you would gain their respect. now youve got to do something great to show that youve got what it takes, and convince him. i wont garantee it will work, because ive never met the guy. but thats your call. its like in the past, how guys have to gain the acceptance of the father in order to go out with the daughter. not much difference here... you know, if i asked out a girl, i would want to meet the parents within the first two weeks of going out.. in fact thats what i usually do, cuz you show an immediate impression. you see where im going? but yo, if you dont mind me asking, what are your ages? so i know how the father would react?
well i would go buh i can't because my pocket isn't deep enough with money. well she has a cousin and she's like 22. She still hiding her bf from here dad. i'm only 20 and my gf is like 18 its not gona work..
There's isn't much you can do at this point. Don't go begging the father.. he probably wouldn't let you off easily (he'd rough you up bad!). If you truly want to see her again, the only option would probably be to visit her in the camp. Is it possible? I don't know, you can try. Otherwise, move on with your life. We understand how hard it must be to have a 2 year relationship taken away, but there's no other option. P.S. I'm surprised you actually went 2 years dating without her parents knowing at all.
well.. i dont see how money has got to do with anything... if her father was a decent human being, he would look pass money. i know that if i was a father, money means shit to me. i would look at the fact if my daughter has a good and responsible bf, not some gangster, nor some dude with lots of money. money will only worsen things, cuz the father, if he shares my ideology, might think that youre spoiling her.. so leave out the money.. also, i wouldnt know if the bf is a gangster or not, cuz he has to prove to me why hes good for my daughter... you know? and plus, i guess part of being responsible is to take action and do something about it.. like actually go talk to him? but about that, like i said, im not sure. but before your girl goes to boot camp, she must still have internet and phone right? or did he confiscate them? but rsx: whats he got to lose? if the dad starts roughing him up, all he has to do is escape.. then he'll be sure that theres nothing else to do.. youve gotta use all of the options.. love is hard.. i know if that happened to me, i wanna do everything i can for my girl, until ive exhausted all my options.. thats when i know i have nothing else i can do. and ill make sure that my girl knows that ive done everything in my power to stop this. as long as she knows, it will lighten up a lot.
Switch to white or black girls, their relatives, daddies usually don't give you the cold shoulders and they seldom butt into relationships. It is so much simpler and happier! That's the way, if you want love and affection and none of the combersome baggage that comes with the girl's families and relatives. Just imagine you did not even have a chance to win the affection of her father in just an instant of time..even if you did, then there is the mother, grandma, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunties all judging you how you should be and not there yet! Then there are other hurdles in the way like fengshui, horoscopes, star signs , trips to the restaurant with you footing the bills!
sorry to hear about what happened ipepsi. i am in the same situation as ur gf. and i'm 23!!! ur gf and i should talk. gotta b smart about these relationships. u gotta make plans, schedules, maps, rules etc. haha. sorry to put in a laugh when ur hurting. but don't be so unhappy. boot camp isn't forever and if she's serious about u, then she'll b around after boot camp. (sigh) there is just no sugar coating anything to make u feel better, these situations just suck. but if ur serious about her, just b patient and wait till she gets back.
@dann: I think we can safely assume that if her father took such an action as to send her daughter off to boot camp JUST BECAUSE he saw ipepsi put his filthy hands around her, there isn't much to explain. Thus, all the responsibility is all bullshit talk if you're gonna try to get her back through bargaining with the parent. The only way he can actually "get" her back is by secretively seeing her through the boot camp or something.
but yo... secrecy is just gonna worsen things.. i know, ive had my own share of experiences dealing with secrecy, and let me tell you, it aint pretty.
not trying to be mean or anything; but life goes on. you may think you can't live without her and blah blah blah; but trust me, you'll meet people and you'll get over her. so relax, chill and have fun. look forward rather than looking back.
@dann: hey, ipepsi has been secretively dating the girl for 2 years and everything went fine until the damn dad found out, right? Again.. if his reaction to the "hand around the shoulder" was that big, what are the chances that it'll work out through bargaining? It won't work the legit way!
wow this is WHACk....do u live in the states?...its parents like these that fuk up kids..naw mean...u wonder y kids r involve in gangs and drugs and stuff..its b/c of the parent
rsx: alright alright. but that just goes back to my point that secrecy fails... meh. whatever. im not gonna argue anymore.. yo kdot, it aint much different here in tdot lol except instead of boot camp, its either the reserve, or private school lol
hey.. maybe you can call it fate.. but you could try dressin' up in a $1,000 dollar suit.. go up to the dad n go.. excuse me sir.. I think you've made a terrible mistake...
