hey guys basically i've known this girl for yr and a half now. We were introduced through a friend of ours and we kept in contact through msn and spoke to each other often online. When it came down to school, we couldnt speak as mainly i was too shy because we were usually with our own group of friends. Then like 6 months into knowing her, and enjoying my talks with her and stuff, i asked her out. she asked to think about it and a couple weeks later she brought it up again and said she wants some more time. There was a brief few months where we spoke little and now more recently we started speaking alot again. I was able to get her alone a couple of days ago where we jus talked for nearly 2 hours. I still really like this girl and just wanted to get ne advice. I reguarly see her looking at me or perhaps i'm jus goin crazy, but thats how i feel nefin would b great thnx guys
so you want to get into a relationship with her? if so then you should tell her sometime that you like her and see how she responds to that.
lol damn so many girl troubles lately after valentines day.. maybe she's stalling and just wants to be friends...??
you should at least try talking to her in real life i.e. away from msn more first. then just let it flow from there when you say you were able to get her alone and speak to her for 2 hours, are you talking about face to face talking or online? if face to face then you seem to be heading into the right direction as above^^ don't fall into the friend zone. ask her out sometime casually without putting pressure on you or her.
Of course it's face to face.. dude. By the way.. I don't think it's good news that she actually waited your request off for a couple of months.. and didn't even get back to you. I mean.. if she liked you or would've liked to give you a chance.. she probably would have accepted you, but when someone puts things off like that.. it's either she doesnt want to hurt your feelings or that she wants you to forget. I don't know.. keep going at her and see where it goes. Be straightforward with it and make sure she knows that you're aiming to be with her, not as a friend, but as a SPECIAL friend.
act casual and be like... hey.. you still havent answered my question a long time ago.. but dont act all serious, it has to be very cool and casual
nah that sounds lame.. jus tell her to be honest with you and if she's jus not interested... move on..
emm. it is the best for u to SAY IT OUT .... cause, the more u keep it , the more suffer u will be .... so it is NOW or NEVER
it always seem like that doesnt it?` when u lyk someone...they appear to like u back with all their little gestures or words`` buh then...maybe ur so infatuated that u distorted reality into a way that convinced urself she has mutual feelings`` if shes sayin she needs some time to think bout it`` its either shes not realli into u and just wanna find a nice way to make it obvious`` or shes contemplatin bout where the relationship would lead``dunno..buh i rkn u should keep persisting`` love` mon
thnx for the advice guys some of what u guys have said are correct, i do wanna ask her again, but its just also a friendship that i dont particuarly want to lose either. i'l prob giv it some more time before deciding what to do
No no no!!!...the more time you give it, the worse it is for you! You don't want to be in the "friends zone!" (though, if you don't want to lose that friendship, it implies u already are...) If she put it off for that long already...you got rejected. You're going to have to ask her again! Be a man, don't use that "losing friendship" excuse! Guys don't need friends!! Why would you want to be just friends with someone you like? Everytime you hang out, you'll just be reminded of what you can't have. And then comes the day when she finds a bf and you're supposed to be happy for her =P
I'm with ya on this one. If you wanted more from the girl, and can't get anything going within a few weeks. She's probably just stringing you along. Sad to say, there's no real going back. You messed up already, then come here asking for a fix... sad a lot of things don't work that way. People's emotions being one of them. However, a possible solution: Get your act together like a man should, if she has any interest in you, she'll contact you again. I haven't asked a "you want to go out with me?" in years... To get a girl, your goal is to make yourself known, then attract them in ways to make them come to you... not crawl on your knees and beg the girl.
you've get to act fast and to the point... but from the look of it... it's feb already... anyway, if things are still looking fine (still friends) and you still want her, I would say just go all out, as confident and as spontaneous as you can be. Let it be known that you are after her... you should act so fast she won't have time to consider all those meander little things... slow down as appropriate... string her from time to time, let her wonder... try to catch the rythm and you should be on your way... good luck!
I agree with what Avant had to say... you've got to attract her to you... not the other way round... that way, you get the upper hand... getting that right will help you a lot down the track... at least you will be in control... don abuse it though... do the right thing...
