Thats balls! you poor man! well.....firstly, calm down and think about it... its not over yet. Doesn't she get holiday breaks to come home for vacation? will you be able to see her at those times? Hand her a mobile phone to take with her and tell her to keep it a secret and call her often or get her to call you... Are you sure her dad didn;t plan this before hand? Your girlfriend might need to say somethign herself its not all upto you. If it's because of you then you need to get on her dad's good side. hmm can anyone think of anything else?
its not a matter of getting on her dad's good side or not. He doesn't want anything to have to do with me or any guy for that matter with her daughter. Everyone in her family is like whatever its not a big deal she's old enough. Its just retarded because he thinks he is the head of the house hold, he can do as he please. so set an example or what ever you call it. he never cared for his daughter, i don't know why now. its always been his son this and his son that. What i don't get its that he wants to take the cell phone away, but he doesn't do it he tells his wife to do so. somethings are just so strange . I have no idea whats going on.. The best solution is to run away... to her aunts place
sounds like he is over protective and a big A..H... lol If the rest of the family is ok with it then its really her dad that has to get over it lol her daughter is old enough. I dunno man you have to figure out how to make her dad see you differently than other guys goodluck!
I am sorry that you don't get on with her father. Most of them are like that as you may become one yourself when you get older! Why do I write this?The reason is that it is it is all too common characteristic. It comes from the same trait, are you familiar with these statement: I know what is the best car, what is the best camera, which is the best school, which is the best cognac, where you can eat the best Beijing duck, where is the best school, which brand is the best watch, where is the best and authentic, this is not as good as this place that I know ...so on and so forth and then of course the same person will say I know what makes the best husband for my daughter. Do you get what I mean? Most mums and dads know best. If you let them have their way you will still be a child accused of not knowing what is right for yourself even when you are 50 years of age. Infact nearly all Chinese girls take their boyfriend home to see if he is acceptable to the family. Even if you overcame the short term problem in your favour, long term if you are not accepted then you will get little praise but plenty of scolding and negative comments. Would you want to live with that baggage round your neck for the rest of your life!?
Ahh, good 'ol asian parents. You can't really do much...it's all up to your gf. If she doesn't rebel, nothing will change...The best thing you can do is to show them that you're a nice kid, not some rich brat or gangster! If you have the balls (I mean if you think you're "momma's boy" enough), then go ring her doorbell while her dad is at work and mom is at home. Introduce yourself as the secret boyfriend of 2 years, apologize for not meeting earlier, tell her you want them to give you a chance, let her ask you stuff, give her your cell number..etc,etc. (Usually, if the dad is mean, then the mom is nice) Get on her good side and ask her if you can/should wait for the dad to get home (hopefully she'll send you home, but if she doesn't...help her cook dinner while waiting for dad) Dad will either kick you out or drill you hard, but DON'T argue with him. If he's being negative, try to leave (on good terms) asap. If you're lucky (your special mapo tofu recipe worked its magic on the parents), they will call you within a few days (after a talk with the daughter). And you win! Otherwise, you'll have to pull plan B: If your gf declares a "no cell/internet/bf, no school" to her dad. He'll give in very quickly if she was doing well before. After all, he just wants whats best for his daughter. Even if he thinks he can outwait her, the mom and aunts won't let him test his plan for long. Especially if the family knows you're not some punk/loser. (ps, if her parents call you...tell them you know nothing about the gfs plan and that you are totally against it. If they put her on the phone, you'll try to convince her to stop it at once!) And of course, while she is skipping class everyday, she can be reading her textbooks to keep up =P good luck!
I think it'll probably lead up to that.. next thing you know.. the drugs, alcohol..... britney spears... -unsure oh but uhh.. I dunno.. maybe you should have tea with her parents n settle it! or tell 'em she's pregnant n we gettin married...
It's exactly how I felt from the beginning. If the parents don't want the daughter to date, even if she's older enough, then it's the end of the story right there. There's no negotiating whatsoever.. so I don't really see why you guys keep giving him ridiculous advices to "talk to the mom while the dads gone" or "talk to the dad and maybe he'll come through.." Heck, if I had my daughters boyfriend come knocking on my door asking for a second chance after I told him to shoo, I'd strangle the guy. It simply isn't gonna work .. and like I said before, the only way ipepsi is going to see her or be together with her depends on how willing the girlfriend is going to rebel. If we're gonna talk about a long-term relationship, the girlfriend has got to rebel the whole way through. Depending on the parents, some parents will not accept it and would simply "give up" on the daughter, whereas there are some who will give in, for the safety and love of the daughter. It's really up to your girlfriend, ipepsi. If she's not gonna put effort in trying to see you, you'd best move on. There's nothing you can really do to help her "see" you at this point.
I say go ring the doorbell wit all ur friends and threaten the old guy. Be da gangsta that u r. tell the old fart u r datin the chick no matter what.
oh yes the door bell, problie he'll send someone to kick my ass. He's got the money too. nwais thx everyone with all the advice. But only if things were that simple. Her mom don't care to meet me, because she seen me before and has told her daughter to stop seeing me. The whole time we been together, she knew. Almost everyone one in the family knows just except her dad. Its so funny how everyone is keeping a secret from him, But when all falls threw no one speaks outs..
Talking to the dad isn't meant to work, unless you are somehow more amazing than me (which is impossible)!...it's just to meet them formally and show the parents that you're a good kid! Otherwise, they know nothing about you other than you were being sneaky with their daughter for years... I have friends with very protective parents and the daughters have ridiculous curfews. But for the ones whose parents I've met, some of them actually loosen up on the girl slightly. They can stay out extra late only if I'm there, because the parents are trusting me. But that only works if you can pull off the chinese mature/nerdy/filial son image. But yea, it's really all up to the girl. If she wants her parents to change rules, she has to rebel. If she's too pansie to do it....you're screwed and glued.
This is all bullshit talk. You don't understand the situation.. the father wants ipepsi to be gone, out of his daughters life. NOTHING can change that fact. I am guessing that the protective father thinks it's too early for the daughter to be dating, thus, putting a limit on ALL guys (ipepsi) that wants a chance at her. It's reasonable. There is nothing ipepsi can do that'll soften the dad's intentions if that's his mindset. So stop harping on this "talk to the dad" advice. The bottom line is -- never talk to the parents if they dislike you, it doesn't work and it's plain pathetic and desperate. If the parents dislike you for a reason, it's most likely not going to change unless it's a misunderstanding or some special circumstance.
alrite. alrite. maybe drop a few condoms for the old fart to see. so he would figure he can;t marry off his daughter and stick with u. LOL
The bottom line is...you are screwed =P Now, there's only the question of: do you want to take it like a stupid idiot or take it like the other pathetic losers? I don't think talking to the parents is pathetic or desperate at all...most ppl wouldn't dare do it! You never know, the dad might send someone to kick your ass...lol. Or he might be so surprised about your stupidity of showing up that he might even give you some credit for pulling such a brave stunt! I'd do it just to see his expression when he sees me at the door! You have nothing to lose...and you can tell your friends that you got your ass kicked over a girl! How cool is that! Or then again, you can just not go....and pray (in the safety of your own home) that your gf is a genius! She has to miraculously change her dating age rules AND change what her father thinks of you! Seeing how she doesn't even know how to get her cell/internet back...you may as well say sayonara now. Go ring the doorbell and then tell us what happens!! lol
ahhhh. u could go "old school" bring some shite like oranges etc and give it as a gift to the old fart. he might invite u in. LOL
Rofling some oranges he can throw boxes at me man. I think he's got them orange fish and what ever you can eat on lock. so he's good.
Damn, that's a bummer dude. It's a learning experience tho. I'm not a beg for mercy kind of guy, so I wouldn't be doing what a lot of people recommended in this thread either. If ya need to chat and vent it out tho, pm me. Just chatting about things (instead of looking for a solution) works to clear my head at times. Only consolation I got for you is to meet up with me and I'll introduce you to some cute girls.
ahh man that sucks dude, i can feel your pain....dude well do you happen to have a chance to talk to her at all? and how old are you, well my advice to you is....if your old enough and know what you want in life and the future and you sure you want to be with her i think you should move to where she is...lol thats what im do by the way im 20 years old and i already in the process to my future...im planning on moving near my girlfriend's place soon, she will be going to u c san diego and i will have to move there but is aite because my job is there! lol well dude im sorry to hear this happen to you man i know it sucks but there's always a way i think advices cannot help you at the moment you have to figure it out yourself thats why it will make the relationship stronger in the future when she finds out you put alot of effort into the relationship.
