Need Advice: Friend may be in trouble

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by zhizhong, Mar 12, 2007.

  1. zhizhong

    zhizhong Member

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    I was with my friend the other day, and his GF came to pick us up. I talked to her and she asked me about people she knew from my school. We talked a bit about those people and she told me to say hi to one of them. Today I talk to that person and say that so-and-so says hi.

    "How do you know her?" he asks
    "shes going out with my friend" i say
    "How long have they been going out?"
    "about a month or so I think"
    "Really? My roommate at this youth activism meeting slept with her about 2 weeks ago" he says

    So, what should I do? Should I tell my friend that he is being cheated on? I'm afraid that he will become defensive and get mad at me. I'm not saying its ok to cheat, but what he doesnt know wont hurt him right? Any advice appreciated.
     
  2. skid

    skid Well-Known Member

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    well you have to make sure that she did in fact sleep with another person first. Not saying your friend is a liar but with these kinds of things you really should get the facts correct first.

    But lets say it is true, i think maybe you should tell your friend about it, because it's better to let him know early than later, where things may become worst. But yeah i would hate to be in your position.
     
  3. kdotc

    kdotc 안녕하세요빅뱅K-Dragon입니다

    ya tlk to the girl first...wat a hoe if she did.
     
  4. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    No need to talk to her.

    Try to find out first hand :)

    If she stops u then say "so and so said u easy"

    :)
     
  5. kdotc

    kdotc 안녕하세요빅뱅K-Dragon입니다

    ^ then give her my name and number and ill see how easy she is ahhhaha jks...if a girl fuked a guy and goin with a good buddy of mine then that girl will have a really hard time
     
  6. skid

    skid Well-Known Member

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    hah^^ then she'll tell her bf about you and you'll get a pair of new sunnies...black eyes lolz
     
  7. ipepsi

    ipepsi Well-Known Member

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    Tell your friend man, come on
     
  8. eason41

    eason41 Well-Known Member

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    If you r convinced of what your roomate said to you is true, tell your friend now.
     
  9. TreSamurai82

    TreSamurai82 Active Member

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    d*mn thats messed up, and its a tough spot, you got to verify the facst first before bringing it to your friend, it might be hard to swallow, but the guy will understand that you are just watching out for him and that you got his back
     
  10. Vinnie_boy

    Vinnie_boy Well-Known Member

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    Well ask the girl first i suppose or ask the guys room mate. Say to him 'errmm i heard this rumor about you being in bed with so-and-so' and try and be discrete. When you have found out and its true then tell your friend straight. If his a good mate he would understand if he aint he would lash out at you. But try your best not to accuse anyone until you have solid proof.
     
  11. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    dont go to the gf
    go to the guy who she slept with and find out more from him
     
  12. jnetcube5

    jnetcube5 Well-Known Member

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    hahaaaha :D :D
     
  13. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    yea. go to the guy and tell him the girl got HIV or AIDS.

    then see if he goes to a doctor to check out his condition. If he got zits, thern tell him it is a syntom of AIDS.

    LOL
     
  14. shy31279girl

    shy31279girl Well-Known Member

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    tell your friend what you heard and leave it as is
     
  15. saskuro

    saskuro Active Member

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    Definately investigate further before telling the GF or your friend.
     
  16. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    what?
    did i say something incorrect?

    the girl is obviously not going to admit it
    and the guy, he might be oblivious to stuff, so he might spill everything given the chance to brag
     
  17. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    Not all guys brag if it is true. He might brag so he can say he got laid :) which might be a lie.
     
  18. Ryan618

    Ryan618 Member

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    that's pretty serious man, start collecting the facts man cause the sooner you collect the facts, the faster your buddy knows and the faster he'll be rid of her if she really is two-timing him or she's just that kind of a girl....and if she is your buddy is better off without her.
     
  19. mindyoox3

    mindyoox3 Member

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    tell your friend what you heard form the other friend so then your friend can ask the gf and if the gf "tells' the ruth then i guess she is truthful =] but then again.. if she really did, and she was hiding it from him then she isnt.. x_x
     
  20. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    I say tell ur friend.

    Maybe he will get u in on an orgy :) ROFLMAO

    Just kidding.