a. Do you see yourself as high maintenance or low maintenance? b. How do you feel about dating someone who is high maintenance/low maintenance? Personally, I find myself in between. On one hand, I'm high maintenance because it takes me a while to get ready in the morning (I'm very self conscious), and because people have labeled me a "neat freak" all my life. I like to keep my personal belongings and living space clean (but not to the point where I'd go crazy if a book is out of place). On the otherhand, I'm fairly easy going, and not a difficult person to get along with. I don't freak out if a nail breaks, or blow my cash away on brand name handbags or accessories. I'm also not someone who likes to complain or whine if things don't turn out as expected or goes my way. So, I would conclude that I'm medium maintenance. As far as dating prospects go, I'm attracted to low to medium maintenance guys. I like guys who are well kept and clean cut. I also fancy guys who know how to dress accordingly and sophisticatedly. Basically what most people would consider "GQ" However, I don't like clingy guys, or guys who care only about themselves. Selfishness is a major turn-off for me. How about the rest of you?
high maintnece .... i dont care if u want me to stay i needa be happy...... (but not material wise) i take care of my women
I am low to medium maintenance most of the time myself (always on a rush and has only 15 mins to get out of the door) though I can act high maintainence if I wanted to look extra fancy (which happens once in a blue moon) =_=b I also have a huge dislike for uber-high maintainence people who wastes others' time. I am SO fed up waiting for others to get ready/ be late. If you know you need 3 hours to get ready, get up earlier! I guess I like people who KNOWS how to be high maintainence but refrain from it ^^b
hmm.. thats the first time i see ppl describing themselves as high/low maintenance in such a fashion. Where I live, we use it to describe mainly girls who require the bf to spend a lot of money on them --> high maintenance.. high spending to maintain relationship.. In my definition.. im low maintenance.. cos i buy my own stuff.. n we go dutch most of the time. In ur definition. which i assume is how much we maintain our own appearance, i consider myself medium for my age group.
It depends on what areas you're talking about. Everyone has different definitions of high/low maintenance. As a GUY, I'd consider myself as: Emotionally, low maintenance. I'm not the clingy or controlling type. I'm also not the type to get jealous. Physically, high maintenance. I usually don't walk out the door without checking myself in the mirror at least twice. I take 2 showers daily, and I like to keep my shoes and clothes clean. I put lotion on my face every morning, and I put conditioner in my hair every morning before leaving the house. Materially, I spend a lot of money on shoes, clothing, and gadgets, so I guess I'm high maintenance in that aspect. However, I think high maintenance and materialism do not necessarily go hand in hand. I've known materialistic people, and I've known high maintenance people and the two are very different. High maintenance transcends the material world and has more to do with emotional dependency and insecurity. I don't classify someone who's well kept and cares about their looks, high maintenance. As for dating, I'd rather date a girl who looks good and takes care of herself, even if it takes hours to get ready, than to settle for someone who wears a ponytail, no make up, flip flops, and throws on a pair of sweats every time she goes out.
I've heard of that other definition of high-maintainance too. But since I fully expect people to pay for their own purchase themselves, relationship should not be high maintainance in general. (for me, it's taking turn picking up the tab and such thing --> I hate the notion of girls being golddiggers) I guess you are right, but there are plenty of people, male or female, who make a HUGE fuss about the way they look. Not only that, their temper will also be affect by the fact that they cannot find the most dashing outfit for a regular meal. Not THAT'S a huge WTF for me.
YUP!!! I hate golddiggers ... but i never give myself to chance to see if they are actual gold diggers because i always have the habit for paying for the girl..... dam me n my gentalmen-like characteristics... -down
hey.. i gotta agree on this.. maintenace also can be emotional. Some ppl require their partners to spend alot of time with them.. or give them alot of emotional support. That is something I rather have as medium. I think bgr shouldnt be everything. Dun expect me to be there all the time..
im high maintenance emotionally & i know it... guys find it extremely unattractive... or rather... it intrigues them & they love to try solve your problems until they realize that once they solve one problem, somehow i manage to come up w another one..... but then again... its human nature to create probelms, then try to solve them.. & once the problems are solved.. they create more problems for themselves... because the human mind just needs to be preoccupied...
if you really like the girl...dating high/low maintenance wouldn't matter...i myself wouldn't mind if she was high maintenance
In the beginning people don't mind high-maintainence (financially and emotionally) partner that much, but then it really grows old when one person feels like he/she's doing all the giving in the relationship (financially and emotionally)... So most high maintainence relationships end up with broken hearts.
a) im a low - medium maintenance. My computer desk is filled with junk and paper and i have books all over my floor. But luckily i just tidied it up. But when it comes to my hair i used to spend hours doing it right but since i left it to grow i spend like 2 minutes doing it. I dont really buy any designer brand to impress anyone i just buy what i personally think looks good on me so thats that. b) i dont know
i would say i'm low maintenance, never really buy clothes. As for girls, i would say low maintenance because i don't want to wait long for her to get ready for a date.
I guess I'm high maintenance when I have to be, as a business man I need to look sharp; the same for when I go out to parties--dress to impress. But I don't mind going out to the store, or running errands in sweats & flip flops, my hair a mess. I'd prefer if my gf were the same way, you don't have to get all dolled up for any and everything you do.
