I was just wondering, do you and you bf/gf have the same group of friends? and how do you deal if not?
Personally I like it better when my friends and his friends remain 2 separate groups -- there can be common friends, but not "he knows every friend of mine and me his". It will get very tacky if there's ever a bad break-up. I wouldn't want to make my friends take sides... Places are the same too -- if there's this restaurant I really LOVE and am a regular of, I will try not to make him a regular there too. Otherwise I may have to negotiate with him to "keep" the restaurant -- considering if he brings his new girlfriend there and me my new boyfriend. But regular restaurants are okay.
it's kinda interesting for me his friends are his friends and my friends are his brother's friends sound weird? it's just more that i met him through my friend he is the brother of my friend i prefer to have the same friends, but he feels differently he makes sure his friends stay his friends and lets my friends stay my friends and in the middle we have a group of friends we hang out with together he's not worried about the whole breaking up thing but instead he feels that way i could have people to talk to and rely on (especially when there i trouble between the two) and the same goes for him it's not really in case of break ups but at least when in time you just need to get away ha ha ha
weird, i've never hear of someone purposefully avoid bringing there bf/gf to a place, in case what would happen if the broke up
Its awkward when you have a shared group of friends if/when you break up. Especially if you don't want to see that person after you break up. But introducing her to my friends, and me meeting her friends is good, so they know who their friend is dating.
^ I guess I am just weird. Of course he will get to meet my friend nominally, but seldom will he become personal friends with my friends. I will need to maintain a support network just in case things get rough between the two -- like you said.
That's why you don't start dating someone whom you've known for 10 years, since in all likelihood he will know the majority of your friends... But on the other hand, no matter how close two person are (before they start going out), they will have their own circle of friends not shared with the other person, THAT is your support network.
then it's all fun n joy when ur dating -sorc -bigclap but if u split up with ur bf ur whole group breaks apart...
i dunno i've always had better relationships with people i've known for a LONG time that did happen to me once me and my bf split we were from the same group and things were just always akward but after a year we became very close again (friends) also i've been in the situation when just me and my best friend got into a HUGE fight that ended up breaking the group i did something wrong and he wouldn't forgive me me and his gf were also really close, but i couldn't talk to her anymore
well... i try to separate them... but seems hard~ he is too sticky~ n he is now so close wif my gang~ i hav nothing bout it, but at least leave us gals, some space!
^ Of course the relationship will be better if you know the person well, but there should be a balance in things. Make it 3 groups of friends, one group exclusively yours (your boyfriend get to know them, but not personally or close), one group common friends, and one exclusively his. I think it's most unwise to introduce every single friend you have to your boyfriend -- thus I don't really understand it when girls bring their newly-met-better-half-without-marriage EVERYWHERE.
well, its ofcourse obvious that..first, it started out as her friends are her friends, then mine is mine...as relationship grows, u bring her along to your outings, and she does the vice versa. so now, each time, either group calls, both of us will appear. and now, the best part is, we are merging best or both worlds. WOW, cant imaging how huge the group will be when hanging out at the malls.
