Scenario: Michelle met her ex (Jeff) through her sister and they fell in love immediately. Michelle is clearly a girl that is open to her feelings, she can express her feelings freely to her friends and especially to Jeff which is very important. But Jeff is more reserved person, difficult and times won't open himself to her. But they love each other deeply. Affectionate and in-love. Problem: Jeff is very family oriented and religious. He will put his family and career before Michelle. Communication seems to be one way, Michelle tells him everything and Jeff seems the one who is listening all the time, he does not speak much and he says it's hard to express himself. Meantime, Jeff's has family issues. Breakup: They broke up because Jeff left her along for 2 months without calling and said he had family problems (which is true, no lies there). Michelle was really horrible, depressed and cried endless nights. Bystanders can see Michelle loved him more than he loved her, or maybe Jeff just can't expressed his love apparent than Michelle. As a result, Michelle broke up with Jeff in those reason and for the best choice. Main reason is he can't marry a girl that is not in his religion (even that seem unreasonable, but it still exist today); so if they do not break up now it will be a obstacle in the relationship or they will eventually break up anyways. But Michelle still loves him deeply and can't be with anyone else up to this point or maybe rest of her life. Jeff found new job and taking care of the family. Current Interaction: Michelle and Jeff still keeps in touch regularly, talking and checking up with each other. She tries not to expect anything, other may think she is still waiting for Jeff to clear up his family issues and everything. Question: Should Michelle wait for Jeff? or Why is she still waiting for him? note: she really loves him and she said she can't be with anyone else. Will Jeff come around and realize that he let someone good in his life go? or What is your opinion?
too complicated. Jeff needs to find a new ho, and michelle should hook up with a sugar daddy like myself.
yea... I don't believe... she'll eventually move on... time heals all... and if the religion thing is really a serious issue... then there's really no hope for her anyways...
I guess it's a matter of priority. If Jeff hold his religion holy and think it is inappropriate to marry someone outside of the religion, the happiness resulted in his relationship with Michelle may disintegrate any day with him realizing "I can't be with this girl because I cannot marry her (= sad) and she's not from my religion (= sad)" and the relationship will only end in tears. Michelle's take on the matter is quite natural. Waiting for Jeff, but I guess for her own good, friends should hope that her love for Jeff (which cannot be reciprocated through marriage) will disappate as time goes by. In answer to your overarching question of "is break up really final", it varies from case to case. In this case, because Jeff broke up with her not because he knows he cannot be with her indefinitely due to religious reasons (I am not sure Jeff's religion requires him to be married at all, if he can remain unmarried, there MAY be some slight chance) then I would say it's final. Even if they DID get back together, a parting is only around the corner for the two. I personally think suffering the same pain twice is, you know, twice as painful. So I don't think it would be appropriate for Michelle to get back to Jeff even if the break up is NOT final. Me? I am a heartless person so I probably will not end up in the same situation in the same place, my love is very conditional (in a relationship). I guess there are perks at being a b!tch =_=b
you must be quite hot if you can afford to be a bitch - relationship wise. ugly girls cant be so choosy.
Well, being heartless doesn't mean the female equivalent of a jerk. Just that I do not tolerate being mistreated. Is all. It's more of a "grow a spine, pack and leave" attitude. When you don't plan to get married to the person you date, you consciously know there WILL be a parting sooner or later. Breaking up just make it sooner.
^WORD. Guys seems to have the tendency to overchoose their fantasy then underchoose for their real girlfriend. I've noticed...
^ WORD son... yanah mean?? That bizzle be on a whole nodda lizzlll off that dizzlll... if they really care bout each other... give it 4 months... one will contact the other...
Should Michelle wait for Jeff? or Why is she still waiting for him? note: she really loves him and she said she can't be with anyone else. should michelle wait for jeff? no. because i know how this jeff will act, if hes very family oriented. in fact, he is in the same shoes i am. i gotta marry a viet girl (=_=) and if his family values go first, michelle has no chances... "she said she can't be with anyone else." how old is michelle? no offence, but i think that is really the biggest ... something, ever. im sorry, but if the guy puts his family before, and knows he cant marry her, he wont turn back. agreed he may seem like an ass not calling within 2 months, but michelle should be understanding if he has family emergencies. if she knows he will not be able to marry her, she should know it will not last forever. now waiting for him when hes not coming back, thats just extending the suffering.. theres more fishes in the sea.. hes not the only one. Will Jeff come around and realize that he let someone good in his life go? yes he will realize, but he has no choice due to his dedication to his family values. i might have seem dry answering these questions, but i can understand where jeff is coming from..
i am the asian bruce wayne. the same bruce wayne in that asian batman that shows on the kids channel hahaha
michelle needs to move on. too many problems in that relationship to make it work. first of all, the whole opposite thing. i know that sometimes opposites attract but it seems like michelle is the only one in the relationship that is trying to make it work. jeff is the quiet kind, nothing wrong with that, and family issues can be horrendous to deal with BUT TWO MONTHS without calling ur gf???? no way. that is just insensitive and wrong. and the other issue, the whole religion thing. if his family is as traditional as it states, there is highly unlikely that they'll ever accept michelle. and since he's so family oriented, he's not about to leave his family to be with her. i have friends who were in this situation, and in the end, they usually had to walk away from the relationship. sad...
Hmm... I think break ups aren't final. We hear people coming back together everyday. But that highly depends on the problem. Michelle gives too much and Jeff too little. Since Jeff is a family person he must be a really good guy. If she marries him, she'll be family right? No probs there. But I think religion is the main prob. If Jeff's family is religious and objects Michelle because of her religion, she can't expect Jeff to forget his family and get with her. Probably if they can have a solution for the religion prob and enhance communication skill, it'll work. But definitely not before cuz they'll have to face it some time.
