I have an old friend who's been spoon-fed his entire life. Never worked a real job he got on his own for more than 2 months. He's all on my case right now for not finding a job,etc. I've found all my prior jobs on my own. My last job was being an analyst. I'm in the current process of going back to school in the Fall for another degree. He just recently married some girl from a 3rd world country cause her visa was expiring. Two years ago, his gf at that time was complaining to me about how she wanted to get married to him ASAP. She puts out ASAP, and he's been listening to her ever since. My friend's daddy has been supporting both his failed son, and his wife. They just got a couple of brand new cars, and guess where the money came from. His dad tells him to jump, he would ask "How High?" After getting on my nerves earlier, I told him that he'd be nowhere w/o Daddy. I'd pretty much had it with his lack of personal decision making and bragging about his status right now as a mediocre real estate agent. What to do with this "friend" of mine? Suggestions?
^ well you pretty much told him what you thought, and theres not much more you can do. If he aint gonna try and be more subtle/modest, and you still find him annoying, then you should question whether he is a friend or not.
He pretty much is incapable of really working. Everytime he does some little stuff, he brags that it took alot of effort and hardwork. He's a year older than me, but I've at least a decade more work experience than he has. We've been friends for over 10 years. since before high school.
^ yeh you get people like that, but if he honestly annoys you that much, sentiment should not be what your friendship is based on but if you feel that 10 years of friends ship is too much to loose, your just going to have to bare it, cause people like that are hard to change unless the world caves in on them
The part that gets to me is that he claims that he did everything on his own, even though everyone knows that it was only possible due to Daddy's finances. He brags about that and getting married to a girl who only wants a green card. When he did briefly work at a job he got on his own (less than 2 months), he'd complain about getting stiffed by the owner which was his dad's friend that it was the end of the world and that he'll stick it out. Guess what happened next.
^ yeh sounds like your pretty much fed up with him. Just stay away from him for a bit, maybe it will be better later on
Try to avoid this friend as much you can, if you act coolly towards him, I'm sure he'll get the hint. Or just say you're busy with work and you'll get in touch with him later on. May sound harsh but if this friends dad will cut off any financial help and he can't cope with that he might turn to you to help him out and expect you'll help him out. So if you keep some distance it would be easier for you to say 'no', 'coz he has to learn to make a living for himself. I'm sure Dr. Phil would have said the same.
sometimes, u really don't have to say anything. there are a lot of ppl out there in this world like ur friend-->all talk. all they do is bs about how great they are, how expensive their car is, blah blah blah. other ppl usually figure out the truth. i'm sure we all know someone like that. just don't let it get to u. u urself know ur capabilities and what u have accomplished. isn't that more important than this "yi siy jo"?
^ no.. I wasn't refering to you.. a guy posted some stupid comment and I was refering to him. But his post got deleted.. so the misunderstanding.. I will edit the post
I wouldn't call that a true friend. Sure you might have had a long friendship. But, as you mature you see things that you didn't understand when you were younger. I had some of the same situations - I really told them as a friend to face about it but still nothing changed. I used to have friends who just wouldn't help themselves no matter how hard they tried and would just leech. I ended up just breaking contact because no matter how hard i tried, they wouldn't help themselves and it was not going to be good for me. But try first lol
Just say "Mate your a loser and you have no life cos your controlled by your family" and then walk away and find new friends
i dunno if u really think of him as ur friend and tryin to help him. I read ur first post and it just sounded as though u were bitter and envious of him. The question is, how close is he as a friend?? As in best friend, close friend or just a "FRIEND"? I don't think u need to do anything here, if he doesn't ask for ur help/advice. U just need to let him experience de way of life on his own, but if u really think of him as a friend, then be there when he falls...
I am waaaaay NOT jealous of the guy. He just doesn't want to think for himself. Let's just say that he can't even buy his own clothes. Either mommy buys it, or his wife does. Another reason that is irritating is that he got married, but can't financially support a marriage, thus it was his parents' banquet, inviting all of their friends. He even bragged about how "oh you should get laid, since you haven't had a relationship in a while". He got married to the first girl that put out for him, and he's all trying to brag and act cocky about it.
