Are you the same towards everyone?

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by xiaojia, Apr 24, 2007.

  1. xiaojia

    xiaojia Well-Known Member

    Just wondering.. are you the same towards everyone?

    For me, I realise that I'm different towards different groups of people.

    I behave differently towards my parents as compared to friends. Hmm.. most people seems to be like this too.

    But, I'm also different towards Grp A compared to Grp B of friends. What abt you?

    Are you the same towards different groups of frens? And what makes it so?

    If so, are you perceived different by different groups of people? ie. Grp A says XJ is a shy gal cos she keeps quiet in crowds and blends in. Grp B says XJ is extrovert cos she is always in the centre of attention.

    Does this happen to you too?




    As an after thought... are you who you are based on how you are perceived?
     
  2. reno

    reno Well-Known Member

    def diff to diff ppl la~
    of course u do everything u can for ur closest friends, etc etc
    with ur group of friends, u can say not take stuff seriously, play around

    but then say ur at work, diff group, can't play around wor!

    same applies to the person u like =P
    u'd do anything for them too! ehehe
     
  3. mingming2006

    mingming2006 Well-Known Member

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    mmm...hard 2 say really - i cn be diff 2 sme groups, bt the majority i am what i am.
     
  4. edmundteh

    edmundteh Well-Known Member

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    totally agree wit u xiaojia
     
  5. hiake

    hiake Vardøgr of da E.Twin

    Generally I am quite the same to most people I am familiar with, quirky with a whacked sense of humour (meaning not funny -- queen of broken gag =_=b) I am a bit on the shy side when I am confronted with strangers or unfamiliar persons...

    But of course I have changed throughout the years, if someone from my high school sees me now they would have thought I was another person =_=b
     
  6. edmundteh

    edmundteh Well-Known Member

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    no matter how maturity gets the most in you.
    there is still a kid in everyone's heart.
     
  7. im sure diffrent at diffrent group people...
    at school om more quiet and shy.. with friends i feel more at my place and talk alot and make jokes
     
  8. dim8sum

    dim8sum ♫♪♫♪♫♪♫♪♫♪♫♪....

    I act slightly differently depending on which group of friends im with, but its nothing on purpose, its just what your like when your with certain types of people
     
  9. Boss Lady

    Boss Lady Well-Known Member

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    I have split personalities. I usually nice when I'm calm and normal but when I'm PMSing, I get angry and piss off the entire world. My friends know about this and they are aware of it.
     
  10. xiaojia

    xiaojia Well-Known Member

    Yea.. this is what I mean. Specific groups/ types of people.

    Like, when I was in secondary scool and junior college, I spoke Chinese most of the time when I was out with frens. Then when I entered Uni, it was completely opposite. I spoke English all the time. So the funny thing is, people I knew from my previous schools, all knew me as a Chinese speaking person, but those I got to know in Uni, even said I look like an English speaking person.

    So I was thinking that the way we act/ behave to a certain group of people forges an image/ impression of us which is specific to that group and no body else. In other words, who we are, or who we appear to be, is actually a mix of all these images/ impressions that others have of us.

    Or is it just me?
     
  11. goo wak jai

    goo wak jai Well-Known Member

    yeh i'm kinda alike that too, but it's not cuz i'm shy, it's cuz i don't wanna chat to some ppl. I treat my relatives and family different too.
     
  12. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    depends how i fell on a that day.
     
  13. apollon

    apollon Well-Known Member

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    i think it is better that we are not the same with everyone

    imagine ... if you treat everyone as a close friend. how odd would that be?
     
  14. SUSIE-DANG-1988

    SUSIE-DANG-1988 ~ TVB ADDICT ~

    uhh.... well depends innit.
    if you really close to a friend then you would just act whatever... loud/stupid/funny etc...
    but if with a friend that your with and not really that close then obv you wouldn't be the same like when your with your close friend.
     
  15. DuchSauce

    DuchSauce Well-Known Member

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    I'm different around my co-workers and friends, but I'm the same around all my friends. It was hard at first figuring how to act when hanging out with my church friends and non church friends at the same time. My friends are going to be my friends no matter how I act, or else they aren't really friends.
     
  16. Flames

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    I'm different towards a different group of friends xD I tend to be more asian and a bit mature in the asian group of friends and I tend to be a lot less mature and a lot less asian in my group of non-asian friends. But for some reason both group thinks I'm not really mature ==" and say I'm still a kid...
     
  17. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    this is actually a trait that everyone has
    it's just if one notices it or not

    they adapt to provide the most confortable or most efficient personality to fit that group


    such as, you would not act the same way as you would to your child, to your friend's child, to your parents, to your best friend, and to your boss


    there are times you can openly talk about racey jokes with your close buds, about emotional family problems with your family, have to act professional at work, and be studious in school and in front of teachers

    there are parts of you that you hid in front of people
    you wouldn't be scarcastic to your boss, you wouldn't bitch about your dad to your uncle, you wouldn't act like a three year old to you friends (well maybe)

    also there is that cause and effect thing
    your in a room full of quiet people, your additude will suddenly go slient, like in an elevator or a library. but watching people at a ball game, you will soon be filled up with that same spirit to cheer and chant like crazy fans like you have never done before,
     
  18. Flames

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    Been there done that-^_^ -^_^ -^_^
     
  19. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    That pretty much sums it up.
     
  20. chickenutbread

    chickenutbread Well-Known Member

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    there's no doubt that i'll act differently depending on the situation and day and group of people. parents & friends: big, HUGE gap of course in the way i act. for the people who don't know me well or don't see me often, they probably have one perspective of me. however, those that do see me often probably have seen my multiple sides of being both shy/quiet and loud/rowdy. i doubt any one person completely knows all sides of another person. it's just impossible as i don't think i totally know myself either.