HI I don't know what this feeling means its kinda weird. Well my gf & i we had the biggest fight till current (we've been dating for about 6 months). After the fight we didnt' see each other for a while & i miss her. Later i asked her if she wants to continue & she said yes & so we are back together. But there is this kinda iffyness. Sorta when i hold her hand or when we together don't have the kinda loving feeling. Is this natural for everytime you resolve a serious fight. Eventually everything will go back to normal?
just dump her and get another 1, to be honest you dont like her inside that much but maybe you just want the physical side.
Getting back together w/o resolving the issue is only avoiding the problem.. there must be some kinda thingy unresolved as yet.. try to figure it out.
did u guys fix the issue that u guys were fighting about? if u guys didn't, trust me, it will come back. and also, 6 months seems kinda hard to answer ur question. its not exactly a long time to figure things out in a relationship.
haha.. everyone seems to be doubting joe's relationship now.. haha.. kidding. Time may or may not be the issue here.. but since we dun reli know the problem, can't reli comment. Just make sure you think through the reasons why the fight occurred in the first place and see if there is anything you left hanging..
Thing is my gf & i we've been friends very while b4 we started dating. I wouldnt' say infatuation. I didn't find her attractive at first but when we got closer i started to feel for her more & more. The thing is that with my previous experiences i mainly like a girl at first sight (which i believe is more infatuation) but this to me is more real. Also another thing is that i feel for my gf more than i realise when we go thru problems. Its just recently sorta everything hit us at once, all types of situations. What i believe is that probably its my first time experiencing this that's why i feel kinda iffy. But somehow i believe everything will go back to normal. That's what i believe. Becos i think not all the time do u feel the lovey dovey 24/7. What do u guys think?
lol.. yet again.. we dunno what situations you are talking abt.. but since you believe things will be normal.. why not? haha..
Yes it's common. U get this 'hurt' and 'empty' feeling even when you are back together at first. It even feels awkward. But most importantly, u'll find it gets better if u resolved the issue by talking. Sometimes couples just resolve the fight by saying "I'm sorry" when you don't really mean it. That's when u get that 'we are not so close anymore' feeling. If u just got back together without resolving the fight, then it's just like a volcano.. may erupt at anytime
Just have a chat with her and see how things stand, if she indicates everything is all good, then dont doubt. When u start doubting, things will never work out because ur imaginations will make u go wild.
Yes your are right Babyrain, i sense not just me but her too that we both feel this kinda emptiness. Honestly this is first time both she & i experience these kinda incidents. That why i believe not long everything will go back to normal. I believe its same with friends too, if u have a big fight then when you are back although everything is resolved but initially will feel kinda iffy. But later everything will be fine. That how i see it with this incident.
well realistically speaking, once something happens, nothing ever goes back to "normal" sometimes u2 will get closer... sometimes not... but yes, most importantly is that u2 gotta resolve the "issue" not just avoiding it
Yup! It happens with friends too, esp close ones that you'll notice the difference. If they are jz normal acquaintances, then u won't feel it so much coz after all ur not that close in the first place Don't worry, de feelin will wear off. I have been there!
if thats the case.. dun make things awkward by dwelling on this feeling.. try to get things moving.. like joke ard or sth.. and perhaps the feeling will come back
first off, based on personal experience, when relationships go thru any kind of trouble, it never goes back to the way it was. instead, the relationship evolves to something else. that is a good thing. it's called growing. from what ur saying, u don't seem to have ever had a serious relationship, so that seems to be one of ur issues. u have to realize that relationships aren't always sunny with the birds singing. there are rainy days. maybe u jsut feel weird b/c u've never stuck around in ur previous relationships to find out how it is after the fight is over? u gotta give it some time. and like i said b4, u gotta work out that issue that caused the fight in the first place. ignoring it isn't gonna make it go away. GOOD LUCK!!!
