Guys are more adverse on gays, while most of them think lesbians are sexy @_@b wonder why. But I agree that most girls are more open-minded in this aspect...
Nah... girls are more open-minded, sensual and confident of their sexuality Thus they are not worried abt getting confused being hit on by their same sex.
This is what I think the typical guy thinks: they equate lesbians to mean 2 beautiful women hot and bothered by each other, and maybe they'll let you join them, and 2 is better than 1. Whereas if you approve of gay men then maybe you're gay too. Gay men are stereotypically more feminine, so straight guys want to be as seen masculine as possible. Maybe they are just insecure about how straight they actually are.
studies have been done on guys that say they are homophobic. when they watch gay porn, homophobic men are more aroused than man that aren't homophobic---this research findings suggests that homophobic might just be a a way of denying their own sexuality. keep in mind, these homophobic men were to the extreme homophobic.
Well, I guess we all fear what we don't understand... When attraction "supposingly" should happen between a male and a female, guys finding themselves attracted to other guys disturbing. But strangely enough, they don't seem to understand that most traits girls look for such as compassion and sensitivity are all traits of femininity... Guess one have to wonder why they try so hard to be macho (which is not a particularly attractive trait)
(sigh)...if boys figured that one out, then we wouldn't have to deal with all those jerks. (not directed to all guys, just the jerks, u know who u are) but at the same time, one of my friends dumped her bf because she said he was such a woman (as in, too sensitive, too understanding...). so in all honesty, i just don't think they can win. hahah
Do i detect a deviation of norm in Hiake's orientation with the "supposingly"? -lol Compassion and sensitivity are "supposingly" to be traits of femininity. True compassion and sensitivity knows no gender. And as far as macho goes, guess its just that some guys got it built into them where they have to prove themselves.
^i think u can win. it's a matter of balance. my friend's ex literally would cry over things. that's how sensitive he was. and he was always like "HOW R U? R U OKAY? IS THERE ANYTHING U WANT TO TALK ABOUT? DO U FEEL UNHAPPY ABOUT ANYTHING?" he really was too much.
Nope, no problem for me. And I've never been hit on by a gay guy. But I have been hit on by my gf's friend which is a lesbian. I don't know what that means.
Everything in modesty... @Wind: The "supposingly" was there because most of us were socialized to think that the attractions between a man and a woman is the only type that is authetic (I hate to say, but education is very far from being liberal in that aspect, should not "promote homosexuality" or what not they say) And guys (somehow, it's only guys) find attractions to people of the same gender most disturbing... But to me, attraction is attraction. I can totally be attracted to a beautiful girl instead of an ugly man. It wouldn't falter my sexuality, so why do guys get so worked up about it?
Yea, a guy can think that another guy looks good, but that doesn't mean that he's thinking about having sex with them, but it's hard to distinguish because that's what we do with girls all the time.
@ hiake: Attraction is fine with me, you wont find me complaining anything about it since its only human to be attracted to things of beauty, but "hitting" on is a whole different matter.
^ Differentiate? Attraction = hitting without acting? Because I would say "hitting" stem from attraction, and when one acts upon the attraction, then it's hitting?
^ Attraction to me is more of a personal thought or feeling in which one does not have to act it out. One might be attracted to someone or something, but that attraction do not necessarily generate the feeling of infatuation, love, ... Hitting on is when you literally try to get that person's attention so that he/ she can potentially be your mate.. And yes, hitting on do stem from attraction to some extent.
Attraction to me is the (unexplained) positive feeling toward something... I guess it also has something to do with guys not handling aggression well (being hit on is a strange experience to guys altogether )
i dont mind gays as long as they don't hit on me. I went to boston pizza once and ordered from the kids menu, cuz i like the one root-beer float they have. The waiter thought i was trying to be cute and was hitting on me for the rest of the night. I was like fuck.. i just like this drink, go away.
