Do you think that people see your appearance/personality the same way you do when you look in the mirror or reflect upon yourself? What words do people generally use to describe you? I think that people can never see us the way we see ourselves. They can't. When we see ourselves, these images are based on our personal history, our attitudes, values, needs, wants, feelings, thoughts and fantasies...and people don't have access to those private material. They see us in a more superficial way and in the context of their own mental processes. Yet, the words that people often use to describe me seem to fit my personality very accurately. "Shy, quiet, stubborn". So it's as if they can't see me for who I am, yet at the same time, they can. lol I realise I'm not making a lot of sense right now, but just something I've been thinking about lately.
i think i kinda get what ur trying to say...kinda.but based on what i think ur talking about. ppl are half right about me. i've been told i look like someone that doesn't let others walk all over me. i guess it's a nice way of calling me a bitch. but i'm not a bitch. i am one of those ppl that don't let others walk all over me. ppl don't scare me. but i really am a nice person. my mom says i'm too nice sometimes. but i don't see anything wrong with that.
I don't think we always see ourselves the same way that others do, because they can't get inside of our minds. It's like how we sound different to ourselves in our head than when we hear ourselves on tape, but not as literal.
There are those people what u wld call "an open book". But i am not one of them... I am kinda secretive and careful with showcasing my emotions. So i guess nope, people don't really see me as i see myself.
The best way to be secretive is pretending to be an open book, once people's curiousity is satisfied and think that you are SO predictable, you are safe (in being secretive) To me, I don't like being totally comprehended by others, there are always secret quirks
haha.. I dun think many of us know ourselves that well anyway.. look at my poll on the qn on which is the real you? half the people polled chose dunno/ dun care. So, unless the people ard you have keen observation, it is hard for people to really know the real you, considering that you might not know it yourself. Or, they might not even bother in the first place. And I believe that we behave somewhat differently infront of different groups of people. So the question will be: Is there really such a thing as 'real you'? Maybe there is, or maybe not..
^ It is true... However, I see myself being not exactly the same around different group of people because not every friend are interested in zombie films/films/music/art/museum etc, so I fine tune it according to the audience. If the person like to talk about brandnames, I can and will talk about brand names with them til no end, but it doesn't mean that I don't like zombie films while I am talking to this person. It's just that the fact I like zombie films is of no interest to this individual... There is only one me, but there are many facets...
Well, certain people really are who they are no matter where they are or who they're with cause they're the ones that say, "this is me and if you don't like me, be gone." They may not truely know who they are but they know what kind of person they're striving to and want to be for the rest of their life. The one's that are still lost in the chaos of life may not have had that conscious choice but some have and you can't put them in the same room as everyone else.
^ Yeh, that's going to be a sweet movie. I've been looking forward to "28 Weeks Later" ever since I've heard rumors of a sequel right after the first one came out.
^ Totally OTing, but I didn't like the looks of 28 weeks later... Not the same director, the style is different (which means not my taste). But I'll still go see it on the principle that no zombie film should go amiss, then go home and rant about it (if it's bad).
I just watched this movie Slither (2006). It wasn't that famous i guess but it's sort of zombie flick except that it's not really a virus but an alien thingy getting inside ur body. I tot it wasn't bad and the dialogue was pretty funny. Lol. Sorry for hijackin this thread -smileb
Slither was such a stupid movie... i rented it for 1 dollar and i was tempted to ask for my money back
Yea.. that is one possibilty. That all the faces you adopt, are all you. But thats cos you dun change much from one face to another. What abt for those who really behave very differently time to time, people to people? Will people tend to believe that there is only one 'me' who puts on a different mask? Or that all the diverse personalities, are all 'me'? And that there is no 'real me'?
@XJ: It really depends on how differently you behave, some degrees of variation in behaviour is understandable (for my case, refraining from talking about religion in certain circle or no zombie talk with freakishly timid people) but it is also how the person perceive him/herself while engaging in these variations of behaviour. I think it is understandable when one's with his/her crushes, it is very tempting to act like one is really good and nice and in turn... fake.
^ lol.. you wish yea.. but haven't you met those who behave really differently? And yet it doesn't seem fake? no examples off my mind.. but I guess if one hasn't experienced that b4 it is hard to judge.
There's people who don't really have an identity of their own, so they change constantly trying to be the person who they think their companion wants them to be. I used to be like that, or maybe I still am.
Dude, I downloaded it and wanted my time back, are you kidding. I knew that movie was going to bomb when I saw the trailer in theater.
So I get the impression that you wanna have one identity to stick with? And that constant change is due to external influences and not self initiated?
