How did it lead to this? Was it out of the blue moon that he said this, or were you having issues already before?
issues... Hmmm... I think I did stress him about his studies. I was worried that he won't do well in his exam if he doesn't start studying. But knowing how guys are, he probably think I just wanted to stop him from having fun or something
It's one of 2 things as most have already said; either he (1) is heading towards the direction of a break up, or (2) needs some heavy duty alone time to do something important and you are slowing him down. If he's a direct kind of guy, then #1 is unlikely because he will most likely tell you to your face he wants to break up. If he is scared of confrontation or the "super nice" type of guy who doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings (the type of guy who likes/tries to please everyone), then #1 is more likely.
See my post above. If your guy is a serious academic or someone who is trying to get into a competitive school/career/field, then scenario #2 is more likely. When I was studying in college for my medical school entrance exams, I found my girlfriend then was slowing me down, sometimes complaining why I don't spend as much time with her. But instead of telling her I needed time apart to study, I would just tell her I had a club meeting, study session, or review session to go to and hide in the library to study instead. Your sig other may just be more straight forward and told you straight out that he wanted some time to himself to get things done. In that case, don't worry....he'll be back to his usual self once he's accomplished his goals.
That's all well and good if one doesn't plan on a long term commitment to the other person (ie marriage); but if a couple even has thoughts about a marriage, they better damn well be able to spend 24/7 of their time with each other before taking the plunge. People are who they are, and people don't change. If one can't stand the other being with them 24/7 before marriage, then they will not stand them after marriage either. The key is to arrange for alone time ahead of time.
Im not trying to scare ya...but honestly...most of the people i know who ask for a time out think there is something wrong or maybe theres something hes going through and he doesnt want to share with u? Not being negative... but thats just my experience.... me and my ex had a little time out before i broke up with him...I asked for a time out because i needed some time to think about "stuff"...
Yes, if you are planning to get married, it is might be good to stay together first (assuming this is what you meant). But that is another issue. Not everyone is into that. The point is, most couples when they refer to 24/7 relationships, it means everything else loses priority, and both parties are expected to be there together at ALL times. And that is not healthy in my opinion. This is also quite different from staying together, which, as a matter of fact, does not mean spending ALL spare time together. A balance should be striked between your love life, family and friends. There is only so much time. Putting it all into one relationship means all else is compromised.
maybe he needs some space, but i reckon u need to clarify what "space" means.. don't wanna put preconceptions in ur head but a lot of the time "space or time out" does a lot of the time mean ur heading for break-up! if the guy is busy with his studies can't he just be straight up?? y say he needs space??
it could just mean ur partner is sick of ur crap...but the still love u so the need some freedom to breath.... it doesnt mean u will break up..... it all depends on why the break was called upon my advice... if ur on a break.... give ur partner thier space....... call em in a week or two to see wassup but dont hastle them when u call....... and in the mean time...go out ... have fun.... enjoy the freedom.....but dont do anything u would regret keep in mind ur on a break...... ur not broken up....
I disagree. Regardless of whether a couple plans to get married or not, if they can't stand being with the other person, it would be hard to maintain any sort of intimate relationship. Besides, most marriages start out with dating or friendship with no prior intention of marriage. So it applies even more to those who take that extra step of marriage that both people are able to spend a majority of the time together. I'm not an unreasonable man, so no, I don't define 24/7 as literally being together every second of every day....that's just impossible. I'm referring to being able to spend the majority of time together, with set "own" time apart for a breather.
for me, I will refrain from him if he says that to me because no one tell me what to do. In fact, he doesnt know what he's missing out on! NEED SPACE = AWAY FROM ME = BREAK UP
Wow, strong words. So are you saying that your bf doesn't have the right to have some alone time to himself if he so desires? What if you wanted alone time to yourself to think, to study, to spend with your girlfriends. Can he say the same thing to you?
break up...not necessary, because sometimes people have some moments that he.she wants to be alone and think things through........if a person is having some sort of his/her problems..... what to do? um.....try to think whether u r beign too tight or not....and act depend on your answer...
Agreed, it just means they are re-assessing their priorities and it may or may not be anything related to you.
