This is a friend's problem whom I feel helpless towards cause I don't know what kind of advice to give: My friend is currently dating this guy who already has a girlfriend of 4 years but the only problem is his girlfriend lives in London. They met in California but she was on a visa so she had to go back. My friend got involved with him about 4 months ago, but during the whole time that they were dating, his girlfriend doesn't know or isn't here. His girlfriend is coming back in the summer to visit, what are the possibilities that he will leave his girlfriend to be with my friend. He talks about how he can't break up with his girlfriend over the phone so it has to be in person but yet, he still wants to remain friends with her after all this. Now that we have establish the fact that he is cheating on his girlfriend with my friend, he has also told us that his girlfriend has also cheated on him before. Through all this, my friend knew he had a girlfriend but he had told her numerous times that he will break up with his girlfriend sooner or later. The reason why he is still in this long distance relationship is because he still loves his girlfriend since they've been through a 4 year relationship which has been through thick and thin. But now as my friend and him are getting closer, he realizes that he wants a girlfriend who is physically and emotionally here with him so he wants to break up with his girlfriend now. My friend and this guy spend everyday together, going out and sleeping over so they are pretty much in a relationship except there's no title, so what should she do? Should she believe this guy and wait till summer comes and let him break up with his girlfriend in person OR slowly back out of this love triangle? I personally do not like this guy since the beginning because he had a girlfriend since day one and he had talk so much crap about his gf cheating but yet he is doing the same thing. He has also said soo many times about breaking up but never live up to it so I don't really trust him but I can't be one-sided so my opinion is basically useless, what do you guys think?
love is blind.. and puzzling.. sth 3rd parties find hard to understand. Probably just be there for your fren in case she breaks up or gets cheated..
I think this guy is a dick. what is she doing with him any ways? Seen this type of relationship before. He is just after a screw, when his other gf comes back he will take her back, lie to her. Then once she leaves to the other country, she will be back with your friend. Your friend has to wake up!!!
what... pfftt... your friend needs to ditch that guy... he seems like a player... oh yea my girlfriends back in London so I need to find a new one... pfft... if that guy's got that of an attention span.. then he will surely leave your friend in the future... seeing as how you're a good friend... you should def. just tell her how you feel personally... You gotta do it n try your best to convince her... tell her to leave him before it's too late..
^ its easy to say that.. but there is really not much a third party can do. aini: I suppose as a fren you should warn her of the possibilities and your impressions of him. And hopefully she considers your pts and re-evaluate her relationship.
hmm...i personalli think i wouldnt step into these kind of things...becuz if he could do it to his current gf...then he can do the same to dis one too...so i dun trust these kind of things....and im jus a type of person who dun like getting into these triangle love~ it's jus too much trouble~ and if i am in a relationship, i dun want someone to take ma other half away~ that's jus not nice~
well yea... if she's picking a guy before her best friend.. then maybe that bitch deserves what's coming to her...
lol.. she didn't say she was her best fren.. aini: Anyway.. talking abt asking your fren to ditch the guy.. I dun think its your call. And might just put you out of favor, and affect your friendship with her. Just give her honest feedbacks but dun suggest and course of action? and let her figure it out herself unless she wants to discuss it with you..
thanks for your advice xiaojia but the problem is once i talk to her about it, which i have before about what my personal opinion was, she was encourage to break up from this whole thing but then wen she talks to him about it, Once again, she automatically falls for his sweet, and comforting ways which may be lies or may be the truth, we don't know. I mean don't get the wrong idea, I know this guy likes my friend a lot because if he just wanted to get in her pants, he would not spend every single day with her but it's whether or not he would really break up with his girlfriend or my friend will be the one getting hurt is what I'm worry about most. Guys know how to sweet talk girls and get their heartbeat rate to go fast with their ways. I guess it's charm, but i mean what girl hasn't fell for that before.
well if ainikawaii needs to stay out of it... then why even bother posting for help... and why bother asking for advise...
see even she's considered breakin up with the guy.. so ainkawaii needs to stick with her friend n give her even more encouragement... yea the guys seeing your friend everyday... cuz where else is his ass gonna go?? yall call up his girlfriend back in london n jus talk on the phone... -rolleyes
haha.. thats the pt. She wants to get involved but is not sure. you (the -devil) encourages her to do so. Me (the -innocent) encourages otherwise.. haha.. so let her pick the lesser of 2 evils.. btw.. if you ever tot of getting involved, what abt calling his gf in london? -evil
Ecko, I understand what you're saying just because I did feel the way you did at some point in this but at this same time, I don't think you would wanna see your friend go through a heart break like this and watch her suffer. I also feel at blame for this just because I introduce them as friends which I guess I should'nt have at the first place but I couldn't help it cause he lives next door and he hangs out with my bf a lot and she's like my best friend since HS.
aww see best friends... quit trying to play -innocent xiaojia!! -ann -lol exactly wouldn't want to see her go thru the heartbreak... cuz you know why!?!! cuz she's crying she's gonna go to you!!! then you'll need to spend as much effort to help her recover as you would have encouraging her to leave the guy...
BTW, how long more to summer? haha.. sorry.. but I have no idea abt the seasons.. I guess either way she will be heart broken, whether she breaks up now or later...
also, another factor i forgot to tell you guys is that they're in a inter-racial relationship which means she's asian and he's black and so therefore, thinking about the future-wise, there is less of a chance where they can last just because her parents absolutely would object to this. I mean how many asian parents would accept outside race to their family? Almost all asian parents believe in sticking with your own race so why waste her time trying to make this work when she can't really be with him in the future ritE?
Personally, i recommend to ditch the guy since he's two timing in regardless of whether he's going to break up with his previous gf or not. But in your case, just be supportive to your friend and be her shoulder to lean on in her times of need.
heh. I agree with previous post. he is a cheater. blacks are known to get girls pregnat and leave them in my neigbhood
lol god damn what kinda neighborhood you life in?? 'Single baby mommas projects' -lol like they jus drop 'em off right there... -lol but for reals... call me racist but... don't get wit the black guy!! -lol hahahah.. seriously tho that shit is messed up... gf goes back to London n he hooks up wit your friend... -__-'
