THis is quite a situation i'm stuck in... for one, my cousin's wedding is comin july and she's also placed me as an usher (which i find a slap in the face, that i get invited and already putting me with jobs to do).. my mom says its an honor but it's getting to me... then i got a Church Mission trip to Fuzhou in which they'll be paying a visit to an orphanage there, just so happens that it lands right on the wedding week... though it's not my first time i still really wanna go.. i can't get over the fact that i'm most likely going to end up staying here and going to the wedding.........................ugh
Wuah... this is a TOUGH decision... A family obligation or doing sth good ... Hmm.... Guess you gotta follow ur heart there... lol If u choose to go to the orphanage; perhaps u can find somebody to replace u as Usher?
Yah I understand.. It's usually tough to reject all these family thing.. Well, I would have to say in dat case; you would haf to forego that trip and hope for the next coming one... Coz after all, marriages are once in a lifetime rite?
yea very true, well i guess that's it... the wedding seems like the most logical, not to mention i'll be saving myself a bit of money.. who knows i might meet someone special come wedding day
awww....though choice...wedding is a once a life time thing for your cousin? and i do agree that the orphanage visit seems nice too... good luck chosing (when i first read the title to the tread i thought that it was either you go to wedding or else they send you to a orphanage (for good)..lol)
well if i were u i'll go to ur cousin wedding and then after that just tell them that u have a wedding in ur family and the people would understand
in the orphanage they wont hate you for not showing up because they dont know who you are but your family will be bitchin and nagging you till the day you get married and then when your cousin shows up on your wedding they will nag you and bitch at you even more think of it that way
i may seem a bit cold because everybody's telling you to go to the wedding.. but i think you should go to the orphanage.. perhaps you'll end up helping a child there who won't be there a few months down the road.. unless you're close to your cousin? in that case i suppose there'd be a lot of hurt feelings and i'd pick going to the cousin's wedding. or, if you haven't already, consult God because i assume that's why you're going on a mission's trip?
^It's his eldest cousin's marriage and a first for everyone... So i guess it's kind of a big deal and everyone would b disappointed with him if he didn't go with the wedding.
I would have no second thought on this matter and would instantly choose to go to the wedding. I volunteer with community service and such too, but I would never choose that over a close cousin's wedding. There's always other community service or orphanages you can be helping during any other days, but this particular cousins wedding only comes around once (I hope). I'm sure your Church would forgive you if you told them you had to attend a cousins wedding, but if you told your cousin that you had to miss his wedding to help out at the orphanage, he'd definitely flip out -- "WTF, you missed my wedding to help kids?! WHATS WRONG WIT CHU!?"
If i was in your situation i would goto your cousins wedding cos family should come first and then when you get married you make your cousin an usher for your wedding ^^
i would say go for the wedding, becuase (hopefully) your cousin will only get married once and you will have a million of opportunites to volunteer especially if you make the time and effort to do it also, you SHOULD feel honoured to be helping out your cousin
