have you ever been in the situation where you invite a friend to do something then your friend invites someone and then that person brings a whole hoard of people and becuase you have to accommodate for all these new people all your plans get changed? does it bother you? or do you not care? or the more the marrier
er i think it depends really......do you know the group of people that the friend of a friend invites? if i never met them and dont know them at all then i'd be super -censored expeically if the meeting is at my house as well or something
well i have three examples 1) when hanging out with the guy (that at the time i was starting with a relationship with) his brother tags along and brings his GF because i am friends with them too alright whatever i have no problems with that but THEN the brother starts complaining about this and that and this and that and trying to change our plans that's when i get annoyed, because i wanted to cook dinner for my guy and cook all these dishes he wanted to eat, but the brother wont stop complaining how cooking will take too long, and they will have to clean up, and that a resturant would just be faster but the whole point of inviting them over was so i could cook this dinner for my guy 2) my friend who i haven't seen in a over a year, we talked about going out to see a movie, and then he's like "you bring your friends and i bring mine" now all i see in my head is, that we will be split up into two different groups, you sit with your friends, i sit with mine i mean it's hard enough to hang out when your sitting in a movie theatre, and now your adding more people and both groups of people dont know each other at all 3)this weekend i went to a festival with a friend (femaleA), we were suppose to go shopping afterwards than i invited another friend femaleB (who knows femaleA) than femaleA invites maleA (her ex bf) than femaleB invites her brother maleC and then her bf maleB (which i think it's alright when it's partners) than maleC invites his cousin maleD and maleD invites his gf femaleD and the whole time it was suppose to be us girls going shopping and chatting about guy problems, but how can we do that now with all these people who we dont know, who then also dont want to do this or that or hang out with us directly because we are soo much younger than them it just became a mess we never even got to go shopping after the festival either
awww...sounds like that you have to earn to say NO sometimes...if you don't want more people to tag along just say so, tell your friend or guy that you really want to spend time with them alone. even if it might sound abit harsch, they will probably understand =)
alotta times its more the merrier but then when it comes to you dont even know who you can talk to or who does what with too much distraction gets into too much commotion
i can't say no once someone has ALREADY been invited that's why in situation 3 i declined before plans were finalized
so why dont you try telling them its just a private thing hang out with each other only like say something like i wanna talk to you privately
well often, such as the dinner, i had no problems with them coming i just had problems with their complaining and for the festival, i dunno, i didn't assume this was something that needed to be said, since everyone knew that SHOPPING was part of the plan but i guess then some people didn't know it was part of the plan or didn't care to join us
Not really, my friends and I always travel deep so it's no big deal. There have been times where we would have to split up into groups of 4-5 and walk like 25 feet away from each other cause the police are strict about things like that here so we'd have like 2 maybe 3 groups on one side and the same on the other. Lots of gang activity around my way so it's nothing new. More people = more fun.
I'd prolly pull my bf sumwhere and explains to him how the situation is.. And maybe try to get him to NOT bring his bro and gf along the next time i wanna haf sum private time with him. Yup sounds to me that I won't be able to do much catching up with my friend if he says that... Then I'll probably suggest to him to have lunch sumwhere then go for a movie; u know.. hinting to him that I want a private outing with him. If he's still too dumb to get it, then I'll just jokingly say to him that why does he wanna bring his friends along when he can have me all to himself? Lol not only you, I get confused just by reading that. Oh well in that case, i would say it's a disaster outing. But what's past is past.. so I can't do anything about it anyway. And i'll probably remind my friends not to invite too many outsiders if we wanna haf some private girly talk.
Generally I do a head count the day of the gathering... since K or dinner or things like that really require reservations... So it seldom happen to me @_@b But personally I don't like hanging out with semi-strangers... Friend of a friend is okay, but friend of a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend is NOT.
Well, basically I would be really pissed if my friend brought anyone else; without first informing me.. lol
Me too, and my friends know better than to try... I can get REALLY hostile and unforgiving when I try (or when I am not even trying) So yeah, never really happened to me... I am just NOT a nice person, you know?
Well, I can just gut them with my subtle knife there and then... One less nuisance to worry about. -devil
i feel that way, but i'm not the kind of person who will go up to them and tell them instead i usually end up just keeping that stuff to myself if it makes my friend happy, and me not miserable,than whatever but last time, that was JUST TOO MUCH besides if you dont meet friends of a friend, than how do you ever met new people i guess for me if it's just one or two than i'm fine with it but when the new hoard is initallly bigger than the number of people i wanted to to go with in the first place . . . .
That's why I said friend of a friend is okay, because I can expect up to like a double number of people instead of ten fold @_@bbb
i haven't involve in such situation but i have a friend who specially brought his gf to the highlands for a nice weekend but when another friend (who is a cheapskate and hated among us) heard it he offered to go..worst still he brought along his gf as well..wat to do with 4 ppl staying in a same hotel room? no privacy at all and my friend ended up being nagged by his gf...later on the cheapo boasted on how my friend invited him to join them and blah blah! we as listeners were of course mad enough at the cheapo for being 'mm sing muk' and d@mn exaggerated!!
