How hard can it be? Though we've moved on with our lives.. but STILL!!! Sometimes I wonder "What is the point of making friends, when you going to loose contact with them?" But its true though, you make like loads of friends when you was in like school then you moved to comprehensive/high school/college gets less friend. As they all went to different school. Then as you finished college you will move onto uni. Which you definetly will loose contact with your "friends" if none off you will do the first move. I mean, how hard is it to make the first move?!?! Sometimes I always wonder, why is it always me?!?! Cos I always do it . . . . I text them, call them to see if they wanna meet up. But why can't they text/call me first?! So if I didn't do the first move, i don't think the other person would! So the friendship will be kinder be drifting away.
i had to go through that aswel..in just a couple of months time..i wont see some of my friends again as some of them are going to different colleges..but as we dont want to lose contact with each other..we all make the effort to keep together n meet up over the summer.. So basically, if u want ya friendships to last over time..u n friends hav gota make the effort to stay 2geva/keep in touch otherwise it will just be pointless if its just u thats making the effort..if thats the case..then i just say forget it..make new friends instead..its not fair on u..but in the end its up to u to make the choices..
phoenixgirl is right. other then that, whats the reason of making friendships in the first place? so you have friends during that period of time in your life. so you create opportunities to find lifelong friends so you dont become a loner. lol
just cause you loose contact with friends, it doesnt mean making friends wasnt worth it in the first place, think of all those great times you had and all those memories, imagine not having those if you had not been friends times change people move on, people make new friends. I mean when i went uni, i made a load of new friends, but i still keep in contact with quite a few of my old friends, not all, but the good friends. Its quite hard though when people go their seperate ways to keep in touch and do something more meaningful than MSN If they cant be bothered to make the first move and your fed up, then dont bother, go make new friends and enjoy yourself, dont wait on people
friendship is a risk you take. no one is perfect and sometimes they fuck you over. you both have to work at it.
I think there's a difference between friends and acquaintainces. Friends are the ones who will sitck with you no matter the wherever, whatever, or whoever. Acquaintance is ppl whom you met and just socialize during the periods that you are together, ie school.
^i agree. and i guess to add on to that, it's possible to have friends become acquaintances, if that makes sense? would you still consider a friend a "friend" if they don't want to make an effort in a "friendship"? i really dislike those people and like what dim8sum said, move on. those "friends" aren't worth your while.
I dont think its possible for "true" friends to become acquaintainces. Only thing that can happen is that due to circumstances, you do not talk to each other too often, but friendship is still there nonetheless. But yea, i totally dislike the idea of "friends" when they need you, they'll call you and when they dont, its screwville to you.
LOL, my way of keeping up with friends are via Christmas/New Year/Mid-autume cards (depending on the person)... Dropping a line or two asking about the happenings and such goes a long way And with my contact changing EVERY YEAR, it's nice to let people know of my new contact ^^bbb Otherwise I would just keep on losing more and more friends because they don't have my new contact...
yeah i agree...why must i always be the one who initiates? most of my friends are working already and they are kinda calculative in terms of phone bills n stuffs...how ironic it is saving phone expenses and loose contact with old friends..
aww i agree wid ya there susie Q but its just a way of life....we move on after a while and you make new friends....as the situation changes and you just have less and less to talk about....
yea... do stuff when ever you can... i'm taking summer school classes with some friends for fun... i think we trying to work in a swimming class all together
@brown_bear: so if with a "friend" you grow so distant to the point where you feel awkward talking to them, is that person still considered your "friend"? @wintersky: taking summer school classes for fun?? wow. what classes are they?
