i have a sad story from this weekend so it was a friend's birthday a friend i use to be VERY close with but she was very "goa fun" with me many times, and well people have a limit right? that i didn't want to celebrate her birthday with her in our group, no one organizes their own birthday, but the rest of the friends do it for them this time, everyone kept asking, are we suppose to be setting up something for her? are we suppose to get her a cake are we suppose to get her presents no one wanted to get her a present while planning stuff we made jokes about cruel things we COULD (but wouldn't) do such as (since we always take them to some fancy dinner and pay for it), but this time we would take her to PHO or buying her presents that she would hate or one friend wanted to buy her a really nice candle, but to make sure she doesn't end up re-gifting it, the friend would also help light her the candle that night i know we sound mean, but she really didnt deserve it and the funny thing is she knows it too, but for some reason she refuses to ever say the words "I'm Sorry"
sounds like a normal b day for me but then if she is that gor fun then truly you guys really dont want to be that close of a friend with her then do you.
yea, i think when i've reached my limit, no one wants to be your friend anymore cause everyone else reached there limit months and months ago with her and they keep asking me, why do you still treat her so nice but about a month ago I've had it with her
well then guess she will deserve wot she got why dont u just give her birthday card and say '' we are good friend eventhough ur make some 'guo fun' remarks on us and make us feel down/irritated, this yr our budget's very tight we will make up for it next yr when we are more coherent'' how bout that, that will sort her out i think
if you ignore her birthday and you guys usually plan each others she will notice big time and she will get the message
'guo fan' in the sense of? wat is so 'guo fan' about her? eventhough she's 'guo fan' but just at least give her a bday wish would be polite enough since u 2 r gd friends... i have a friend(not a close one) who is so shameless and d@mn stingy...we never ask her out or invite her in any of our group outings but she insisted to come eventhough no1 likes her... there's this time when we went out and eat sushi buffet for dinner and to no1's surprise she followed...since the buffet was quite expensive in a high class restaurant, the girl thought it's a waste and not worth her money if she eats too little....then there she grabbed the food as much as she can and started eating...............now to everyone's disgust she 'king yin' stuffed too much and vomit on the table! darn! such shameless girl! to me she's really 'guo fan' la....so many passerby staring on us..damn embarrassed!!!
^dude thats nasty.... she could have doggy bagged her food for later instead of stuffing till she puked
oh that's just bad oh horrible we make plans and she bails last minute (and this happens all the time) or is late, becuase she is too busy buying rice (this really happened) or makes plans with me twice and doens't even call to say she isn't showing up, or doesn't call to say she is sorry either or only says she is sorry, becuase you are yelling at her about being so damn rude, but turns it around on you that your the bad person who is yelling at her and how many times you have to remind her like 5 times before she pays you back often she "forgets" she owes you money well her birthday is only one week apart from another friends birthday and she WILL be invited and she will feel OBLIGATED to come and then she will see how everyone will buy the other girl LOTS and LOTS and LOTS of presents and take her to the nicest restrurant
lol im beginning to feel sorry for her, shes gonna be so depressed, but i dont know her and know the real situation so she could well deserve it
Personally, if i consider someone as a friend, ill stick with them no matter what. Even though they might be guo fan, as a friend, you will help that person out no? Maybe im naive but fighting fire with fire never works. Only time ppl will change is if they experience good for bad then, they would come to realize how mean they were. (at least thats what i believe in) Also, should i ever end up being like the person i hate, i sure hope that my friend will not do that to me, but will help me out of it.
yea i know . . . my friends all know this too but she does deserve it not the being depressed but she brought the situation on to herself she didn't deserve presents from us and the other girl does deserve presents from us you get what you deserve and if you decide to feel sorry for yourself, well that's your own choice
i can't wait for the birthday party in two weeks it will be awesome the brothers are getting her a giant snoopy and i'm getting her a tank top she wants (but refuses to get for herself because it's too expensive) and i'm making her a charm bracelet becuase she is also graduating the same week from university so i'm going to try to find as many things to symbolize this time but i can still so see this as a double whammy on that sad little rich girl
she deserves everything that is coming to her anyways so just ignore her if she calls tell her im busy bye or hell dont even pick up what is she going to do drag you out of your house to go celebrate
Why don't you just give her a simple celebration instead of the whole works. In that way, you don't have to splurge like you always do for others, and you won't make your friendship with her go awry...
