I met the best friends in my life during high school. They've stuck to me through thick or thin, and we've kept in touch for the past 7 years we left school. Yeah, true, I'm the one who initiates things thru emails and phone calls, but it's worth doing it just to have them close by. And the funny thing is, with some of them, we don't meet up for years, cos they're scattered all over the world, persuing their studies or doing whatever life leads them to...but once we get together, it's like they never left. And they're always close at heart. waht you say is true. I make lesser and lesser friends now. In fact, where I am, I have no true friends. It's very lonely, but if you can live with it, then it's fine. Otherwise, try making more effort to get to know people. It's worth it, especially when you find that you need company or a listening ear, and you know that there's always someone you can count on
some people say they choose friendschip above relationship since friendschip last forever... but that is total lies.. you can lose a friend so easily.. you can lose a friend just for something tiny... just like a relationship
It's different, friendship and relationship. You will not tell the same things to either party...there will be certain things you share with your friend and certain things with your partner. Both are satisfying in their own way, but generally, a friendship tends to last, because you are not expecting a lot out of it...whatever good that comes out of it is a bonus, where as in a relationship, you tend to have hopes and dreams for your future.
I disagree with the start of that statment me and my bestfriend of high school we dont talk anymore (continue down below) I agree with this statment When it's One sided effort than there is no point I have one friend who never initiates anything i went to high school and college with her i ask her when she goes home, who did you see who did you hang out with she says no one, no one comes and sees her but when i talk to everyone else, they are suprised to hear she was even home you just can't pity people like that, they are just stupid obviously they dont care enough anyways, so let them be alone what about those who USE to stick with you no matter what, but dont anymore? how does that count many believe that even friendships have a lifespan, a life cycle I did something similar that weeds out a lot of people i sent out a mass email after I graduated about where I was, What i was doing i sent it to friends from elementary school, high school, college, work, etc. and those who responded, you know truely care
Honestly i would say a lot of these problems have to do with Social Skills some people just dont know how to do things
Brain, aint i special that u need to reach me for change of plans, but what plans? -what? Are you talking about the same friend there? What do you mean that they are surprised to hear she was even home? Was she lying to you then? As in regards to "used to stick with you", ppl's have different agenda and based on their lifestyle, they also have things of their own to do as we grow older. As much as i would like to keep in touch with my friends, its impossible due to work schedule and all, however, whenever i or they get the chance, we call each other and chat. I dont believe that TRUE friendship will end at all, might be distanced but bond still exists.
no she wasn't lying but she also wasn't informing i knew she went home because i was roommates with her in the dorm, or talked with her other roommates (when we didnt room togheter) so i knew she went home but when she went home, she didn't call up any of our high school friends to hang out she would just stay at home with her mom and read books, or go with her mom for clothes shopping (becuase her mom would pay)
^ I dont think it fair to call her stupid. Everyone's characteristic is different which makes us unique. Friendship is not only based on how we expect our friends to be, if that is the case, i dont see anything interesting about this friendship.
It takes two to tango. Similarly, it takes two to work at keeping the flames of the friendship burning. The other party however, may not have the same intention as you to put in as much effort. In that case, no point 'forcing' the person. If he/she thinks your friendship is worth keeping, then this question wouldn't have bothered you in the first place.
I know the seekrit list rite? But im on that list now? -unsure Would you like to tango with me? But back to "forcing", maybe the person likes some moments to be by herself? Im sure at times, we would like to be by ourselves and think thoughts over instead of being with friends.
It seems as we grow older, we spend less time together with our boyfriends, jobs and school, but we try to get together once in a while to eat dinner and reconnect together, however i agree, me and my friends aren't that close as we were in High School
