SORRY.... it's kind of long =/ okay.. it all started on sunday night, me & my bf were both chatting. he went away for a bit without telling me and when he finally came back, he just said "srry gotta go bye." when usually.. he would tell me "good night" before he signs off.. i kind of got worried because i thought something might have happened.. so the next day, i texted him in the morning asking if everything was okay. he never texted me back. i called him after school but he didn't pick up.. and didn't return my calls either. he didn't call me at all that day either so i got even more worried.. the day after that.. i was talking to one of my friend in class & i asked her if she can tell my bf to call me when he can (my bf's a tutor at a tutoring school & my friend goes there). he finally did call me & he told me everything was okay & why he couldn't come online or call me yesterday.. we just kept talking as usual but i felt somewhat "weird" during our conversation.. like it didn't really seem like the way we usually talk.. so then today, i thanked my friend for asking my bf to call me & she told me that he told her that i needed to stop being too attached to him? so of course then i was just like... "wtf?" i don't understand how that's being too attached...... i duno.. i'm not really mad at him or anything but i just don't understand why he would say that... does it seem like i really am?? -what?
If this is really bothering you, then you should have a proper conversation with your bf, tell him what your friend told you, and ask him why he thinks you are too attached. Remember to stay as calm as possible, you do not want to put him in a spot or he'll start getting defensive and a quarrel might ensue, which would lead to nowhere. Explain to him what happened in your own perspective, that you were worried, etc. (which I think was normal considering how he acted and not calling you back after that) then, ask him why he thinks you are being too attached/clingy. Perhaps something is really bothering him, and he just vented it out on you. That's a possibility. Another possibility is that he really got frustrated and thinks that you are being too clingy by asking a friend to ask him to call you. In that case, you got to explain to him that you couldn't get to him and thus you were worried, that's why you asked your friend to ask him to call. I am sure if he's reasonable, he would understand you.
i think it depends on how long have you been dating him. if you just started dating him, i think yes .. it's obsessively too attached. worry or not ... you don't ask a fren to check on your bf.
You should handcuff your self to him and declare your undying luuuurve. Or handcuff him to the ladyboy.
i think you should talk to him about it like what BR said. she always says what's on my mind before me.. and i don't want to cast any doubt on your friend or anything, but is she a trustworthy source? i mean, i've had friends who have had another friend tell them something about someone else which wasn't true at all. the weird thing? the friend of my friends were pretty close. but after that incident, my friends didn't like the friend who lied so, no more friendship.
Yeah women can't help being bitches. Its true! Get a bunch of so called friends together, and the only 'friend' who ain't there will have lies made up about them. Hence the term 'Chinese Whispers'.
Guys can be equally as fake as well. Spreading lies and fake accusations that is. Just happened to know two in particular on PA...
okay, generally, the good-natured side of you, GMTA! but about the evil side.. -sweat i'd rather decline.
You probably didn't think it was the way you usually talked because you still felt a bit weird about not knowing what went on. It'll go away soon enough. You don't need to worry about it too much. As for the worrying part, it's normal to be a bit worried if he doesn't answer for so long, but if he already explained what happened, then you shouldn't hold it against him and just try to forget about it.
Let's recap: you texted him in the morning, called him in the afternoon, told your friend to ask him to call you in the evening, and IM'ed him before you went to bed. Yeah, that's not too clingy/suffocating/smothering/omggoaway/wowshekeepsbotheringme/etc. No, seriously, from a guy's perspective, you're too attached. And I agree with ab289 about never asking your friend to check up on your bf.
Yeah, you are a lil over doing it. Asking a friend to ask him to call you and stuff is like cramming son. lol.
leave her alone on that she just worry about her bf, once a while we need to do that to check on guy see they cheat or not... lolz
No, it's not just a matter of cheating. What if something happened to him and he needed someone by his side at that time? I mean, he just suddenly logged off after saying a quick goodbye, who knows what could have happened. She never said she regularly calls him like that to check up on him, it was just this one time where she thought something might have gone wrong.
Exactly. The guys just can't see a woman's point of view on this. I mean, come on .. your bf is having a conversation with you when he suddenly said he gotta go (after being away) and then nothing else, no news whatsoever from him. Of course she would be damn worried sth happens and being the caring gf that she is, trying to get in touch with her bf. And the only way she thought of was gettin her friend to pass the msg, since he did not pick up her call or reply to her SMS. I don't think that is too much!
ummm... i don't think ur too attached... i mean u don't seem to b the type that's glued to him 24/7... i think it's just he's not as attached as u r... i know someone who's seeing a doctor... n when she txt him... he would reply asap... sometimes even when he's with patients... n he would call her good night or go n c her no matter how tired he is... i don't mean to scare u... but not picking up n not returning ur calls is a sign of when someone tries to run away from u... n couples don't usually run from each other unless either something's really wrong or he's trying to drop out... but then again... i could b too sensitive...
