have you ever made up an excuse, but really it was to help out your friend out, without directly saying so Well i have this friend who actually believes the excuses and doesn't realize the 'hidden reasons' so in the end she doesn't even realize that they did things for her, and instead thinks that she's just lucky that those people's selfish actions ended up consequently helping her out even more annoying is when i try to explain things to her, she doesn't believe you, becuase she believes she REALLY knows how to read people . . . or that it's their fault for not speaking up and telling the truth story . . . or because they didn't say it, therefore what i say it must not be true, becuase "why would someone" tell you something when they are really thinking something differently, "that's stupid" oh what drives me nutz is when she's makes a comment about me like "oh i know that (smallrinilady) loves this becuase we are such good friends" and in my head i'm like OMG you are so wrong, but instead i just ~smile~ and nodd and let her be happy, and since she's so naive she never picks up on the fact that i hate the presents (year after year) she has spent hours trying to pick out for me or like last night when i was teasing my guy and predicting how he would progress with his homework assignment, and she thought i was talking about her, and she's like "oh (smallrinilady) you know me too well" and i'm just like ~cough~ OMG i know we are close friends, but not everything i talk about is about you (she's done this many times actually) do you know these kinds of people? they are so naive that you feel bad for getting mad at them, just because they are so clueless i mean i love her, but gah just gets on your nerves, makes you ~twitch~ if you have a story, share time
Eh seems like you have a lot of these kind of annoying friends smallrinilady...-ohmy Why don't you tell this girl what's really at your heart? Maybe she's a bad sign reader and you have to spell it out for her. For example picking your presents, perhaps it's an idea to shop around with her and just say out loudly you wished to have this or that as your birthdaypresent?
well she's got a lot of heart in the things she does for me and she really looks up to me we have fun hanging out and junk just well it's a bit of a flaw of hers such as not knowing when things are or are not secrets LOL . . . . can get people into real weird situations this way
you know what it might sounds like i'm really picky and find a lot of flaws in my friends you know what i think it is i tend have a extreme level of tollerance and end up making friends with a lot of people others would avoid HA HA HA
I think your friend prefers to go on the "easy" road. If you think about it, problems are created by other people so I guess there's no point for her to deal with those people. It's more like "it's waste of time to deal with others so why not use the time for your own self?" "The Sky Has Eyes". *heh*
i think it's nice making friends with people who'd be avoided.. and for the picky part, it's not just you. i wouldn't like to call myself picky but of course there's always characteristics i find in a friend unbearable. what makes the friend bearable on the whole is other characteristics that hopefully outweigh the negative ones. i tell them what it is i don't like about them and they know and they've told me characteristics they don't like about me and so we're all fine with it. as long as you can put up with this friend, i'm sure your friendship will be fine. if not and you find yourself blowing up often, i'd really sit her down and talk to her.
tell her how you really feel or if sometimes if it happens, snap at her but in a sarcastic way then laugh... she'll get the hint eventually as for me, i just say it directly to her if we're really close....she'll feel uncomfortable..but it'll only last a few minutes....
i think she's still ok and being a she-thought-she-understands-you-so-well gives you no harm...you just have to tell her frankly what u like and what you don't....because she'll never know what u think...it's just good to tell her or hint to her sumtimes...like when u 2 go out for shopping u give ur opinion and say 'yeah i like this type of earrings and ornaments'...she'll eventually understands you better....
I think you should ditch your friends, no point getting yourself all worked up for just a silly argument.
i want to share my story. my girl friend with me almost 7 year. we love each other so much. but she always drive me crazy, like when i look at another girl. she will hit me. when i talk about my family story, she said it was boring, only her did everything has her own excuse. sometime i know she is lie, but what can i do, we are together so many year. even sometime i feel i am not (myself). but i love her.
Dude, you are so under the spell of your girl...be careful or you'll end up leading a miserable life where your gf/future wife is bossing you around day and night and makes sure you have no self respect anymore. Confront her with what's in your heart, like what you have just posted on PA and don't let her use you as her doormat. @ smallrinilady: oh ok, well if she's a real friend I guess she won't mind if you tell her what you really like (in case of the presents for example) and if she's really looking up to you, you should see yourself as a wise teacher and have patience with her
Shouldn't this be on another thread instead of in this one? Anyways, just to answet you...you need to talk to your girlfriend about how you feel. There's no point in keeping it in cos she'll never find out how she's treating you and reflect. Tell her in a nice way that you feel this isn't the way a relationship should be, and it should be based on trust and understanding. You can't just tie yourself down because you've been going out for 7 years. If she's not the one you're looking for, then it's 7 years wasted. But if you still love her like you said, then sit down and have a good talk. Good luck!
Ha ha ha, she does look up to me a lot i can tell. She's always asking me (in particular) for my opinion and advise before she does things read on i usually try to drop hints but there have been a few times i've done the akward things i've had it go many ways with one friend, she just didn't care, didn't care what i said, just got mad at me (so we ended up drifiting apart, and i wasn't going to care if she wasn't going to care another time a friend got mad at me, saying that i dont understand her, claiming her life is so cham and that all her friends and ditching her and she understands it's her fault, than refusing to talk to me every since then (this is the friend in which i talked about in the thread "no one wanted to celebrate her birthday" and this friend i've had the akward conversations with her a few times and each time, i think it makes our friendship stronger
