hmmm... i would say... used to it? routine? well if u have been with someone for quite some times.. n i mean quite some time like few years.. u get into this routine.. n when love dies.. u r afraid to break this routine.. u r after wot will happen if u venture out... i guess humans are selfish... well there will be some who will stay in the relationship.. n the have a fun oi ching.. thats the worst of the lot... my ex was like that... haih... y m i even bringing him up anymore... y chris? r u in this situation now? well if u r.. i would say.. be fair to ur partner... be honest.. nothing hurts him/her more than u lying..
agreed...i'm the youngest and all my siblings are married...i get bored of my previous long term relationship..i ended it and started a new one and it got screwed again..but this time..its the other way around...im not the one getting bored... im losing the belief of marriage and commitment...so crappy.
aishiteru: i know how hurtful it is..i was once a liar, and well, of cos i had a million reasons to defend myself for the lie. i hurt and got hurt before...well its like a "karma" thing...i dont want to believe this but it is getting to me now.
when you feel that love isn't there anymore, leave. I understand that some people might have kids to worry about and financial status to take care of, but in general if you've lost love towards the other person, there is no need to stay together.
that is a depressing thought...to stay with someone not because u love them but because ur scared of the unknown and like the routine that u have come to be familiar with. really makes me sad. u hug that person not because u want to but because it's routine. kisses don't mean anything but just a reassurance that ur life will continue to run the same course. thinking about that person no longer makes u smile... makes me really sad. i've made it clear to my bf that if we ever reach that point, we both walk away.
no. no way. i know easier said then done. but there is just no way i would stick around knowing i don't love him. as for the cherish memories, it would just hurt me more to think that i'm not in the same place as i was in those memories. and to know one day down the road that he never truly wanted to be with me would just kill me. to know that the person i shared my life was always had the thought of, "there probably was someone out there better for me...."-cry2-dead
nah.. i agree wit ckthepilot.. easier said than done.. or maybe u r very open... but i would say... if u've reached the 3 yr mark.. it would be very hard... cos by then everything would've been a routine... like for me.. i m a person who's afraid of changes... so i will definately not have the guts to break it off... n its true...memories will always be cherished... n ofcourse there will always be someone else out there for u
I used to be in that kind of relationship. Was with the guy for 2 years plus. I'd always ask myself if I really loved the guy, should I go on with the relationship or call it quits? It was difficult and I never knew the answer. It's very difficult to decide if the love is still there or not, because you don't know what you have til you lost it. In the end the guy decided that he'd had enough of the 'companionship', and called it off. It was only then that I knew that I was right for holding on, cos I really loved him. It's not a matter of being selfish. Its just being indecisive about things
