emm..i think u r the lucky guy...cos nowadays girl very realistic...but in ur situation i think u shld acept her as ur friend first n keep in touch wherever u go.... A love relationship doesn't happen in a nite....it need time to go along....so give urself n her sometime to be a close fren before commit to each other... hehe..hope can help u little....good luck...
You should definitely be contend with her and consider yourself fortunate. Girls that would stick to guys no matter what are definitely for keepers.
In this case, go for the girl. As long as she thinks you provide enough security and doesn't mind you flying around, then there is really no problem. Temporary long distance relationships can work out perfectly fine as long as their enough trust. Don't miss this chance to get the girl!
heard of "love is blind?" we dont choose who we fall for. yes i agree that a majority of girls want security and is one of the BIGGEST factors in us choosing the guy...BUT, it is NOT the ONLY factor. u obviously don't give urself enuf credit. for me, i find a boy that knows what he wants and works his ass off to attain regardless of the financial debt, hard work, stress etc. that comes with it is incredibly attractive. the other guys u are talking about that are in her life are well off but didn't work for it. why question it so much? it's when u think u use ur mind too much that complicates things.as corny as it sounds, do what ur heart tells u. u like her, she likes u. what's so complicated? good luck!!! keep us posted.
First a question: Is the girl in question financially stable and working herself? I would ASSUME the answer to the above question is yes, if not I'll just post another response to the OP next time. So she's financially stable and worrking... First off, even though girls DO look for financial security in a relationship, if she earn her own keep she shouldn't be too perculiar about the guy's financial status (unless of course the guy in question is bankrupt and have no way to repay the debt in a million years). Otherwise, take it as a blessing that she sees past the facade of wealth (not to mention as an aeronaut, you have GREAT potential there, practically speaking, if you know what I mean -whistle) It is just possible that she like you enough that she doesn't mind waiting a few years with you, toughing these few not-so-cushy years out. So don't reject her, let her know your plan (whatever it is), and if she think the time investment is too big, it's fair game, you won't be guilty of leading her on and wasting her time, and she cannot play the guilt trip card if anything goes wrong... -unsure Or you two should just go get married, like, NOW. -sweat But I bet you take more things into account before making a rash decsision, so there's my 2 cents to it -^_^
Well, firstly you are on your way to your big time career its not like you have nothing, you have ur education (ur flight career) and as a girl i think its more than enough. I would rather go for a guy that knows how to appreciate the things he has. For some guys, things come too easily so they don appreciate it as much. -rolleyes So, if you like the girl and she likes you for who u are, as u said I say go full speed with it, don miss out this one in a lifetime oppurtunity. -innocent2
Maybe the girl likes guys who looks like a combination of sek sau and jacky cheung (ie. ckthepilot)....lol
mmm.. So many responses... It's almost 4am here and I'm just gonna snuggle in my bed right now and sleep. I'll think about it more tomorrow. Thanks for the input!
if i'm the girl u mention...if i really love u n i wan u to be in my life .....i would wait u until u reach ur goal, no matter what....i'm chinese too...but 100% loh..hehe...i'm married...n my husband career also based in different country....now he in US n me in Malaysia waiting him back end of the month...what to do..i love him so much..i'm willing to give up my own career waiting him home n standby anytime he available online chat with me....n most important thing is ..he love me so much too...this is what i'm willing give up my own career... if i'm the girl who really love u n i'm willing waiting u until the day u take me part in ur life.... love ....i think is cant explain why.... cos in this world we really hard to find true love.....a true love that didnt measure any things.....good ...or bad....hard to measure....as long as both of u happy together n no matter problem u have n u both willing to settle or face together....solve together...this is very wonderful love ....important is u guys willing to take it or not....cos nowadays couple together only willing share the happiness....if got problems they try to avoid...n the problem will grow n grow bigger..at the end the result is both of them cant take it n spilt loh....n this is not true love ..the love is not strong enough.... hehe..me too much talking oredi..hehe...hope u understand my english ..hehe...
Wow...i admire u. i dunno if i could ever give up my career for my boy. some ppl have said to me then maybe it means i don't love him enuf. but i know i do. but at the same time, i also love me. shouldn't there be a balance? he's part of my life but i need something of my own too.
well....i have balance in between my career n my husband too before we marry.....but after married i found out ..i got less time spend with my husband but i got my own spare money..... after we considered should we have more time together....of cos in term of money....he earn more than me.....n we decide our time is more than important of money term.....so i decide become his woman behind him....hehe...-smart after i quit my job we both happy for our quality time together...once a month i follow him to work ..of cos sometime we also have bad time but the bad time only happen once awhile...compare to our happy time ....the happy time is much more happen always.....so we can conquer our fight due to our strong love supporting us... yeah, u shld have ur own stuff to do...in my situation i cant have both so i decide to let go my career....n i found without my career..my life all depend on my husband or i should say i'm supporting my husband career...so that he wont feel lonely when he alone in oversea...hehe.. sometime all the matter is depend what u see from which direction...
I agree with you. I don't think I can give up my career either even if I did love her... I just need to find a balance where I can get my career in place while being a (potentially) a good boyfriend. The thing is with me, if I know I can't give 100% towards a rlship, I rather not go forward unless it's something I want to work out.
Let's just say in a worst case scenario, if your hubby leaves you. What will you do...? And keep in mind, you depend on him for finances as of right now...
