i'm dreading the thought of meeting my bf's parents cos i'm scared they wont like me n that will put a serious strain on our relationship but for now fortunately i still got a couple more years b4 i meet the parents..
its fine to meet parents cause most asian parents prefer their child to have a smart gf/bf so as long you dont act dumb or nething its should be fine
Thanks for all of your advice and comments! My friends and I have discuss this issue before and we feel that in some cases, parents are kinda being a bit too controlling on their children. For example, we realized that our parents didn't want us to date until we get out of college, but they expect us to get married shortly after graduating (maybe 2-3 years upon graduation). To me, you can't jump from having no prior boyfriend or any experience in dating and jump into a marriage afterwards. I'm kinda glad I started dating before cuz through my dating experiences, I realized what type of qualities I seek in my mate. I see myself as a responsible young adult and I know academics is my number 1 priority. I just wish my parents would know me better since they've raised me to realized that I am responsible and I know how to manage my studies and a relationship. I think I have the advantage over my parents because I have first hand knowledge of what college life is all about. To me, my boyfriend is also my bestfriend, so having him around definitely help me get through my college years especially since I live in the dorm. So it helps to have someone there for you when you need support or etc. And I think there's no better time to find someone than when you're in college, because you're constantly surrounded by intelligent, attractive, and determined individuals. Through having conversations with my friends who have graduated, they told me that it's harder to find a bf/gf because now everyone(bf/gf prospects) is more spread out rather than being centralized in one area, whether it be your university or other universities. I totally understand, some of my friends are in your shoes and their parents are worried that they can't find a bf/gf and they're getting older. I guess it's not that big of a problem for people who are younger (in their teens) but when you're about to graduate from college or started working already, you'll realized how hard it is to not only find someone who you love, but also love you back at the same time and possess the qualities you seek which you're compatible with as well.
waahh.. you're still very young lor.. but i understand what kind of pressure you are talking about.. how does it make sense to start from ZERO to marriage right after uni?? older generations didn't "date" very long.. some even only see each other one or two times before marry in those superold days.. if you and your parents have super bad feeling on this issue, try to talk to them calmly and patience.. hopefully they will understand how ppl progress in romantic relationships the past 30yrs
Easy. Parents always worry that their children are not with people they COULD be with. This applies especially if ur a gal. The key to it is to use logic. If your parents say,"don't date him, I don't like him", well, that's not a good reason. If your bf says stuff that makes you deliberately displease your parents, don't do it. Basically, use common sense and logic to decide which party is the correct one. Strive to maintain some harmony or at least a level of tolerance between your bf and you parents. They both are important to you and will be with you (you'd like them to at least) for a long time in your life. Ask your bf to help you out by not pissing your parents out. You gotta ask him to make good impressions for your parents so your parents will quit bugging you to break up with him.
