I study in Leeds and I’ll be back home in Taiwan next month. I've been seeing a girl for about a month and I really like her, but I’m scared to get too involved because I’m leaving. I want to do what's right for her and not to hurt her. I know how much a relationship ending hurts as I hurt a girl badly once 4 years ago when I was leaving Taiwan to Leeds. I can still remember how she cried the day before I was going to leave and I felt so bad. So my questions are - Is it worth it? Would you go into anything in my situation? And should I talk to her about it and how? I really have strong feelings for her and I know she has feelings for me too. Help Help. I need someone's advice.
Are you prepared to start AND maintain a long-distance relationship? Have you thought about the cons of a long-distance relationship? Have you talked to her about it? If the both of you have no problems about having a long-distance rlsp, then I don't see any reason why you can't go for it. Usually it takes a lot harder to maintain it though.
you pretty much answered ur own question by telling us your own experience... it's tough.. u can always do long distance relationship..
does she know u'll b leaving in a month?? it's not just up to u... i believe she has a say in this as well...
i guess it also depends on how old u r... if i was 5 yrs younger i would give it a go n give my 150%... coz i was young, naive and had time to waste... n if i did all that n still didn't work out at least i won't look back with a "what if" on my mind all the time... but getting old now la... wouldn't even start anything if he was an hour drive away
Talk it out with her, explain yourself and all the problems you are facing in making a decision. Then come up with a solution together.
I would not start the relationship in this situation. You can try telling her what you think, but I don't think it will make a huge difference since it is a fact that you will have to leave.
since this relationship is still quite new i wouldn't risk it i wouldn't get too involved unless there was EVER a chance of you ever returning or her coming to tawian just be thankful for the time you have left
hmmm u make a point but so does the others.. i guess the decision lies within u n her.. n not solely on u.. well.. my motto is... life's so short to keep worrying how to live it... go with the flow.. hmm... for me.. i would say... heck.. y not? i mean.. i would make it clear to my partner.. i m goin away.. might not come back.. its gonna be really tough... n if she is ok.. i would be yeah y not? i mean make it clear.. that there will be a high possibility u both are just gonna be bye bye... plus... r u 100% u r not gonna return to uk? never never? like u will be in taiwan for the rest of ur life? if its a definate yes.. then i would say.. forget it... there's no point to even try.. cos it will never happen.. u cant get married long distance.. -^_^ i agree with dawn... making the decision solely's just too selfish... she have a say too.. well i guess everyone would agree with that.. but then... some things just happen... does that mean u will be like never? lol.. well.. i would never say never.. lol.. that is an option... lol... r u goin somewhere for the girl or for the food? -tongue2-tongue2
^Hear hear. Have a talk with her and ask her how she views moving to Taiwan with you. Or would you ever consider to return back to Leeds forever? If you answer these questions with a no, I think it's better to keep a distance unless you both don't mind a long distance relationship that wíll get you both nowhere in the end. I mean you can have a long distance relationship but if neither of you are prepared to emmigrate...then there's no point to start this relatiohship.
