so now that i'm out of college and working now i've got back in contact with both college friends, and friends from high school i keep meeting up many of them for catch up dinners or cups of coffee they always end up being one on one meetings and it seems that more than half the time, the guys end up getting some idea that i might be interested in them, and willing to try to make a move on them what am i doing to give off some vibe like that? I am quite open so i talk a lot about personal stuff (that's what one guy told me, he said the stuff i was talking about was kinda heavy, so he thought i was interested in starting a relationship) i like wearing skirts on regularly, so some guys think i'm dressing up for them, trying to impress them so what am i suppose to do, censor what i talk about? dress not like me? any suggestions?
try to get more friends together at the same time cause one on one meetings are usually more intimate.
i would agree wit that.. dont know if (guys) would agree with me.. but i find them overly sensitive..? well i was told by guy frens... if i ask a girl out on a one on one.. n she says yes ... i m like 50% there... and if she allows me to hold her hand... i m like 80% there... n if i could plant a kiss on her.. i m like 99% sure we official.. -surr err i dont know bout some girls.. but i just dont think that way.. for me... a date doesnt mean anything... its not official till i make it official.. like i give a consent or something... i mean not like i want u to ask the question bluntly.. but i guess i will find a way to make it official.. descreetly.. lol.. lol.. i have a similar story to OP's...its not exactly my story.. its my fren's a guy asked her out on a date.. one on one.. n i told her its something fishy... n she was like nah.. doesnt matter.. n then... during their "date" he hold her hand... n she was like wtf? but she was like oh well dont care... n now.. lol.. the guy's like oh yeah.. she's interested .... i am like -ann and my fren's like -dead -lol
so true for me... a date doesnt mean anything... its not official till i make it official.. like i give a consent or something... i mean not like i want u to ask the question bluntly.. but i guess i will find a way to make it official.. descreetly.. lol..l[/QUOTE] this is how i feel i mean i go on plenty of "dates" with friends it's just a naming convention for a outing of just two people like i'll say, i'm going out on a date with my (female friend) or the other night i went on a date with my cousin it's not romantic, it's just slang
there never really is "just friends" between sexes (unless ur gay). with ppl of the opposite sex, there is always that thing in the air. especially with the fact when both parties are single. maybe, also, they get that idea because ur hanging out without another agenda (since u guys are all out of school now)
^ -lol @smallrinlady: well, try to avoid certain topics and don't laugh at their jokes. I dunno...always try to ask another friend to go with you and if your friend leaves, you have to leave too so it won't end up in a 1 on 1 date. Or only talk about your ex(es) if you somehow suspect the guy is thinking you're are interested in him as more than friends, while you just want to have a normal conversation with him.
I think it's normal. Some guys just have a big ego and they think we're making a pass at them or flirting or trying to give them hints, even when we are just giving them a genuine compliment and nothing else.
-flow-flow well said!!! flirting would be.... hey u sexy thing... u look hot in that shirt of urs today.. hmm bet u look hotter without it!... thats flirty!!.. eeks... thats more like r-15 now.. lol.. but anyway... saying ..." hey, ur shirt looks good on u " thats not flirting... not even close... its just a plain compliment...
yeah but in the case of smallrinilady, i can understand why the guy would get the wrong impression. i mean like i said, they are all out of school now and working. and they meet up for coffee to catch up but like she said, it always ends up being one on one meetings. and i do find that girls do have a tendency to flirt without even noticing it. i'll be the first one to admit it. take the case about complimenting the shirt, "that's a nice shirt". i say that but i prob touch the sleeve of the shirt or something. i don't notice myself doing it, it's just reflex. then the guy takes it as something else.
think it is very hard to maintain as just friends if you are with the opposite sex very frequently. Most likely one of them likes the other person but has not made the first move yet..
I think it's the one on one meetings that cause the guys to think you are interested. Stop having those and you'll be fine.
lol... thats true.. well.. u cant help it but to touch!! lol but with my friend.. its different.. the guy kept calling.. so in the end.. she had to say yes.. <_<
Maybe you shouldn't talk so much about yourself and see how the conversation flows. Wearing skirts is not an issue unless it is revealing. Come on, you're 18. Live a little! Enjoy the moment while you can because these events won't last forever.
iono as a guy, i can only speak that girls give out a lot of wrong vibes a lot of time, but that's only cause girls are more flirtious lately (i made that word up) best thing to do is keep the buddy relationship more obvious by having more friends around and avoiding the heavy subjects unless you're with a real close friends
guys like me are suckers for going out with girls even though they are just friends. especially when desperate, any type of sign will seem like flirting.
