Just a question, would you allow major religious differences to cause you to not be with someone that you love? Or such differences wouldn't matter to you personally?
personally is not matter to me.. just let them do whatever, is not my right to tell them they can not.. but generally, i don't talk about religion or politics with anybody
not really usually i'll find out about someone's religion before there's any lovin going around though lols.
As long as it doesn't have a negative effect on me or the relationship, it's not something I'd worry about. But, as far as children goes, I can see it becoming a big problem unless both parents are open minded about it and allows the child to choose on it's own when it's ready and able to make that decision intellegently.
I used to not care....so naive...thinking...oh love is enough to conquer everything bla bla... but....if both people are very religious it can cause major issues.... one of my best friends has a relationship for 6.5 years now....they havin issues....hes muslim and shes catholic... if they wanna have a future together....then she should become muslim and live like a muslim and their kids have to become muslim to....no compromising.... its not because he wants her to become muslim but its because his parents would never accept her if she doesnt become one...their kids will also learn how to speak arabic which shes unable to speak.... therefore i think u better think twice before u start relationship with someone who has a different religion.
It can cause quite a headache, but if my partner is absolutely open-minded about my beliefs and doesn't try to convert me, then I am fine with the differences. I, on the other hand, believe that everyone is free to have their own religion/belief so I wouldn't try to convert my partner as well. If he respects my beliefs, then we can progress further I guess. As for children I think p3ps1c0la has already said what I have in mind.
Hm, lets go a step further.. say you get married to some woman and have kids with her, would you allow her to raise em in her denomination, even though you dont agree with it?.. lmao -lol nice tip @MissAngieCheeks: Yea, thats sad.. So her husband+his family is raising their children in the Muslim faith, despite their mother being Catholic? @BR: Hmmz, so just keep religion out of the relationship is your "solution"?
Well if I happen to have kids with someone of a different religion, then I think we would have come to an agreement that we can let our kids know about the religion/belief we have and also other religion/belief that the kids might be interested in, then let them decide.
ohh my answer was a personal one.. so i really don't care.. i am agnostic, if you know what that mean.. so if i have kids, they can just do whatever
Uhm, no. In fact religion is very important to determine if I wanna haf a relationship with the guy. But I am saying that I am open-minded and the guy can be of any religion (not incl. those satanic/cannibalistic or other evil cults ) as long as he respects me and doesn't try to convert me, and I'll return the favor.
I am fine as long as my partner doesn't convert me or bother me about it. I want my children to follow what I believe so I will try to find a girl who believes in the same ideas as I do or doesn't mind her children following me.
I see.. Okay -lol hmm okay. lmao BR.. I hear ya. I wasnt insinuating that religion isnt important to you, but some people I have come across, think that way, as in not to talk religion to each other, period. Of which I personally think that's sad.
I share the same sentiment. To me, religion is a MUST topic to be discussed before anything else mostly... because that's part of something I hold important. If you don't wanna talk about it, how would you find out what your partner wants, and what if there's a conflict in the future AFTER you hooked up or worse, get married? As for these shallow people that don't wanna discuss religion or avoid the topic, hah. Well, can't blame them, maybe they are just not philosophical enough. It' one thing to say that you don't care (provided you really don't care) but it's another thing to avoid discussing it.
LMAO. So they are knowledgeable but they don't wanna bring the unnecessary conflict with their partners? That sounded really ridiculous and corny. It's not about avoiding the conflict. That's something inevitable and unavoidable if you hold religion as something important in your life. Sooner or later, you have to face it, so might as well discuss it with your potential partner.
how is it ridiculous and corny?? maybe is not about conflict for YOU, but is may be for others.. not everybody have to think like you do or follow your way
I see.. But you are sharing your life with this girl. Can you really put aside RELIGION out of your life? Conflict or no conflict, you still have to discuss the issue with your potential partner as the question will come up later. To discuss it will avoid the conflict in the future, NOT the other way. If you avoid the discussion, to me, that's just like procrastination and delaying the inevitable. What happens if you hooked up then you find out she wants you to convert into her religion after you get married? <_<
Exactly.. Conflict is one major thing to think about, but also, in regards to marriage, I think that it would be sad to not even talk about religious matters, its like a whole part of your life, something that you deem as important and special, it is held separate from your partner, and vice versa. May sound strange, but I would feel abit lonely in a way, in that situation.
Yeah... As i have said, it's one thing to say that you don't care about religion ie "I don't care what my partner religion is. I don't mind. " but it's another thing to avoid discussing the topic because you wanna 'avoid conflict'.
