Anyone feel like they are used???

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by pinkapples, Jul 9, 2007.

  1. pinkapples

    pinkapples Well-Known Member

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    I knew this guy before and we were good friends at first but when we went into different courses, he kinda became a user. He only txt me or msn me when he needs help with his studies or a favor from me...After that, I would not hear from him until the next time he needs help....So, i decided not to keep in touch and not talk to him..Do you guys think its right that I do that and have anyone here know people like this????
     
    #1 pinkapples, Jul 9, 2007
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  2. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    if hes only using u..don't waste your time with him. simple as that.
     
  3. BabyRain

    BabyRain Doppelgänger of da E.Twin

    I hate users. I have some ex-colleagues and ex-classmates who are users as well. They'll talk to me nicely when they need something, and when they are in a bad mood or they don't need anything from you, they'll be rude with you.

    These type of people, I'll usually keep my distance to avoid them using me haha.. but it's hard to decline when they talk oh-so-nicely to you... sighz.
     
  4. Mystery Otaku

    Mystery Otaku Well-Known Member

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    *sigh* I use to do that to girls in my classes a lot. Maybe its because there are more smart girls than smart guys in my school and I'm born lazy. Then came this one girl that I really did like, but I didn't know how to approach her except asking for her help. I stopped doing that ever since then >.<
     
  5. pinkapples

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    I do know that, but we used to be real good friends so sometimes it feels like -sweat asking urself what happened??? if you get wat i mean
    I have to say he helped me in my assignments every now and then when we were friends but he does not make an effort to keep in touch not even texting or anything. That kinda ticks me off....Maybe i am just being oversensitive god knows....-mellow
     
  6. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    good friends...hes doesn't seem all that good...don't let urself get used...no matter what the past was...it takes two to maintain a friendship....
     
  7. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    Hmm... this situation reminds me of me. When i was at school, i was close friends with 2-3 people but after, with works and stuffs, dont have time... however, occasionally i do try to arrange some get togethers.

    Maybe he could be in the same situation? If not, you definitely should forget about him.
     
  8. pinkapples

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    Fair enough....Darn, sometimes i feel quite stupid to be used like that its like 'what was i thinking?' :(
    Lol...good on ya at least you've changed in my case he changed into a user hahahaha
     
  9. Knoctur_nal

    Knoctur_nal |Force 10 from Navarone|

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    it happens....ya learn n not let it happen again...in the end..we all do a lil using...just gota keep it under control
     
  10. pinkapples

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    I have thought of it that way...but sending a text would not take very long right??? So, I guess you support me of not talking to him right....or shud i confront him??? Ihh...dilemmas >.<
     
  11. wats_blue

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    haha...lol...it's weird when I know EXACTLY who you are talking about pinkapples...just forget/ignore him like you already do most of the time...I see your 'user' every now and then in the library...he talks to me occasionally - sometimes I feel that he's ignoring us just because he is in a 'better' course...and that girl that hovers around him 24/7 plays an important role in taking him away when I talk to him
     
  12. MadeinChina

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    I get used all the time. -_- one day, *writes down the revenge list*
     
  13. wind2000

    wind2000 Self Schemata

    Not confront... be nice and ask him his schedule and see from there. -^_^
     
  14. pinkapples

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    Lol....yeah that girl guards him like a hawk...No one is allowed to talk or touch what she claims is hers....Sigh, nowadays some girls are too protective that they wreck other people's friendship...I wonder if in their dictionary of life there is a word called friendship....<_<
     
  15. pinkapples

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    Lol...I tried that method but he blames me for it...Once in msn he asked me why have i disappeared and that it is not me...I got quite annoyed so i asked him back why does he say that i am the one to disappear and not him ....
    Lol...thats a good idea...I probably should start my own list too hhahahaha Oh yeah what do you plan to do to those in ur revenge list ...??
     
  16. BabyRain

    BabyRain Doppelgänger of da E.Twin

    ^lol, you don't have to confront him but you can put it in a joking way.
    Like for eg, the next time he says, "hey long time no c.. you disappear?"
    Then you can say, "Haih, yeah lor.. someone doesn't even notice i am gone"...
    u know, just try to hint to him that he needs to put some effort into maintaining the friendship as well if he expects a friendship.
     
  17. lee-lee

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    cut him off. friendships are a two way street. why stay friends with someone that doesn't make u feel good? thats what enemies are for.
     
  18. fearless_fx

    fearless_fx Eugooglizer

    i feel used all the time... women treat me like im just a penis on legs :(
     
  19. xmichelly

    xmichelly Well-Known Member

    I used to have a revenge list ... when I was like 10 -^_^


    They don't take the upper body into account?
     
  20. pinkapples

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    Lol...I thought they never happened to guys I guess you're the odd one then...But, don feel bad at least ur not alone and you don wanna know how he treats me accasionally..Let me tell you an example, once we were supposed to meet up and he was 1 1/2 hours late and he did not even apologize...-_-2 So yeap....there are way more foolish people like me compared to you...