do you think after you get marry, the next step must be having kids?! how about just enjoy the life just between 2 people and family and friends?!
i think whether to have kids or not depends on the couple. families will definitely expect kids after you get married; just natural thing to do. sure, you can have fun of just each other for a couple of years; but speaking as a guy that wants his own family, after that, i will want kids.
probably should enjoy life first lol, be able to support the kids before you have them, but by the time people get married they should be financially stable and yea some people wants kids and some don't so depends....
i don't think having kids is a must... i mean u can reverse a lot of things... marriage... relationships... but one thing u can't reverse is children... don't have them unless ur really ready for it...
Nope, it's up to the couple. My aunt is married and she doesn't have kids. So it's a personal choice. As for me, I'll prefer to have at least a year to myself to enjoy the married life just the two of us.
i think kids are a option for a married couple. having a kid is a gigantic responsibility and i think some couples aren't ready for that commitment especially if both of them have careers that are in the making and they are going to places with it. Kids take soo much time and energy out of people...i've seen my co-workers draggin their self in on a monday becaue they had to do so many things with the kid like birthday parties, friends house etc etc. and then their are people who i really don't believe should have kids at all....their genes are too horrible for our already messed up global genepool....
-lol... those r just examples of wot can b reversed... 2 seperate things... n i'm not planning on having a marriage at all...
^ Dawn, want to share what do you have against marriage? EDIT: not planning, as in let things happen naturally or not getting married at all?
Yup it depends on the couple if they want to have kids after marriage, whether right away or later on. I wouldn't want to have kids right away after marriage because it'll mean no time to enjoy my marriage life, kids will probably come later in the years ^^
ummm... i don't think i have anything against it... i just don't believe in it... to me marriage is making a life time commitment... an oath you make to ur partner... when you marry someone that persone becomes part of ur family... part of ur life... part of u... like an arm or a leg... when a couple say "i do" i'm sure none of them would b thinking "i'll b divorcing u 18 months time" or "i'll be cheathing on u in 5 yrs" but yet it's constantly happening... if i love someone i don't want to tie him down with a cert and a ring... i don't want to force him to come home every night after work... i want him to come and c me because seeing me will make him happy... i don't want to become his burden... i want to b his joy... if one day i can't bring joy to his life anymore i don't want to tie him in the pool of misery... but i know i won't b able to think this way if i'm married to a guy because i'll b thinking like "oh now that he's my husband he's got duty to fufill" hmmmm... this mite look a bit confusing... i don't know if anyone can understand
^I must applause you Dawn, for you have a very generous mindset when it comes to love. I believe that is a true sacrifice for love on your part, and it's a very romantic notion indeed However, in this modern day, I am not such a romantic anymore, I have learnt to think practical and also skeptical. Marriage to me, is also a legal protection of my rights.
hehe, i read this and it makes me smile. i don't know about everyone else but for me, loving someone is also one of the most miserable things ever. like something i saw the other day in tv, this guy was like, "falling in love is to make them nuts for the rest of your life". to love someone is just so beyond your control. one bad argument and u feel like ur heart is gonna rip. love and misery are a fine line.-tongue2
thanks Rain i wasn't always this romantic for the past 5 or 6 years... but i found out i really can't enjoy the relationship... i had trouble giving 100% ... i felt numb... and i realised it was just my insecurity... the fear of being left behind... but once i got over the fear... once realised i don't need a man for my life to b complete i found my naive side again
and we are slowly towards human extinction lmao....i'll expect him to consider to have kids when we are married....it could be a huge responsibility but it could also be a blessing to have a child....
I dont think its a must to have kids. It all comes down to whether the couple is ready to have or not...
