okay you've been going out with a girl / really emotional guy (lol) for like over a year. she's still very much in love with you but you don't feel the same way anymore. plus you've already umm... 'been through a lot' of stuff with her. plus she's having a pretty rough ride. final year of school (decides whether u get into university or not) -smartand also has family problems... lol umm... dunt ask me about my private life haha. anyway what would you do? gogogo!!! -clapclap
Is it a trend to start the topic with "What would you do if...."? <_< Anyway, if I am in your shoes, it's a toughie. On one hand, I would want to try to be nice to her, after all, I have 'been thru a lot of stuff' with her, on the other hand, I just want to get away from her because I don't feel the same way anymore. Well, considering that it's a final year and she's having family problems, it depends on how much you can bear with it. You can choose to stick with her until she finishes her exams, or you can dump her right away. But bear in mind that someone can always have problems in their lives, and what if she keeps having family problems or later after graduation, other new problems pop up? The question, is how long can you play the sympathy card with her? I suggest you confess to her that you don't feel the same way anymore. But what is the root of the problem? Do you think it's possible for you guys to have a proper talk and try to work out the problem? Bring back the loving feeling? It might be worth a try if you still want to give it a chance, but if you really don't have any more feelings for her, then I suggest you tell her and have a proper break-up, because it wouldn't be fair to lead her on anyway. You can still be there for her as a good friend though, IF she's able to accept you hehe.
I've actually been in your situation - only, I was the one with the family problems. After realizing I hated the relatidnship, I stayed with the guy an additional 5 months. Worst 5 months of my life. I think you should just say goodbye - fast and painless. There's no point in keeping yourself unhappy and keeping her from who she is really meant for. Also, being the final yr of high school you should enjoy it for all it's worth
I was in a similar situation but it was my first year of college. I have been going out with a girl for almost 3 years when college started for me. At that time I was having family problems, both health and finance. She was also some problems in school but nothing major. I was always in a down mood everyday, so finally we broke up. We lost contact because cellphone and emails weren't popular back then and she moved so her home number changed. Coincidentally I got into a company that her sister was working in, so after 4 years I finally got back in touch her my ex. Its pretty painful now to see her after this long and missing so much of her life. Looking back at it, its probably the thing that I regret the most in my life.
it's a toughie but quite honestly, at the end of the day, if u don't feel it, u don't feel it. end it now. better to end it now then later. the last thing i want to find out from my bf is that he stayed with me out of obligations.
you should end it sooner because the longer you play with her heart, the deeper the heart breaks gonna be.
do u still miss her?? or u just felt sorry u werent there? true.. the longer it is.. the more the pain.. well.. if she's goin uni next yr.. i would say... try to bear with her?? let her get to uni.. then u can let her go... well its almost uni time.. if u break her now.. how if it upsets ur grades? well its ur decision...
wow this a pretty tough subject to talk about well if you dont feel you need to be with her nemore let her down easy and say w/e you want to say and see what her feelings are for you are after that i mean you have to end it sooner or later but better to end it as early as possible before you do something else you regret
Seperate temporary before things gets ugly. If problems gets solved over time you can try again and if it doesn't work it wasn't meant to be.
hehe...been in the same situation too..broke up with him and i think he still mad at me in a way i might sound selfish by saying this but... the most important thing in life is satisfying yourself. If you are not happy in ur relationship then what is the use in holding on... If u stay with her out of sympathy or any other reason than love then whats the point U will stay because u want to keep her happy and because the timing is bad but u cant do it forever so... and there is never a right time to break up i guess....
We did end up getting back together, but we have a few more fun years together, but eventually we grew apart.
perhaps you should wait until she hears from her univ. If she gets in then great, but if she doesn't then i'm sure she'll need a shoulder. Hopefully she'll get in, cuz usually high school sweethearts don't get passed college life anyways. Perhaps she can start a new life when she gets there.
Feelings just die. Even though you have been through a lot with her, but for now, I guess it's just a responsiblity and not LOVE anymore. If it's me, I guess I have to analyze whether is it worth it to continue in this relationship. When I find that the relationship is a burden and not LOVE, I guess I will give up this relationship. No point continuing which in the very end, it will hurt both of us =)
I agree with BabyRain & baybluangel you need to break it off, or else you will be miserable, and the girl can sense it too, and it will freak her out, she will always be worried that something is going on, but of course you wouldn't admit it but tell her that you can always be by her side, to talk and for support but you need to break off the physical stuff for sure
I don't know, I don't like the solution to just run whenever there is something wrong. At least attempt to talk to her about your feelings and ask yourself if its worth it. From my experience feelings just don't die overnight, there has to be a progression. Should have talked about it earlier before it came to this stage. Being together for a year is a significant amount of time.
I would suggest that you lelt him/her go slowly and not too fast or else it will hurt her/him alot more if you do it all in one shot
I say you tell that girl, "Woman! its over!!" JK, but really, if you don't feel the same way don't stay in it with her, reason? I have been in too many of the same situations, and they never ended well.
hmmmm... can't fix her family problem... but i'll prolly sitck with her till she gets the school problem out of the way... i mean u've already dated her for a yr... another few months won't kill u... at least that lightens her pressure a little... n u did all u can to hlep her n u can finally tell her how u feel n step away from the relationship...
i would say talk to her, don't have to suggest breaking up at all. tell her how the situation is like, what's different now? just stuff about ur relationship. then u can see how she reacts and if u could move towards suggesting a break or what not. basically u guys just need to communicate.
