Ok i have a best mate named Anton. He goes to a different uni to mine and usually when i have some time i visit him and my other mates at his uni. I crashed into one of his lectures and he pointed out a "hot" girl named Marium. She's half flipino and half australian btw. Anyways, he fancied her quite a bit and not too long ago he took the courage to ask her out. however she declined and said to him 'sorry and i hope we can still be friends. You are not mad right?'. After she declined him, he's been soaking at me, "oh marium this and marium that" and it is annoying the crap out of me. For example "Oh yeh, i helped her in her econs and she didnt thank me". Then i thought to myself, "dude u discussed it toegther its not like you wrote it". -huh As well he's been saying stuff like as if she was into him in the beginning...Damn, i mean he reads into things waaay toooo much. Now, after the rejection it has dented his ego ALOT. He signed up for the gym to build muscles just to pull more chicks and it is gettin abit annoying because he boasts how much weights he can pull off. By the way i aint jealous, im comfortable with my body ty very much. Plus recently he developed some jealousy over me going to an ivy league uni. He even said "jokingly" after i told him that im doing economics which involves calculus and he said "you're gonna fail" as well as doing econometrics. WTF? As well as an asian guy i suffer a bad case of yellow fever thus i love my east-asian girls and anton knows it lol. A week back a group gathering we met a really pretty half-indian chick and anton was there. Me and him spoke to each other and the other day he pissed me off sayin "Stick to your asian girls. She's mine". I was like "ummm....ok..wtf was that?". By the way anton is indian. Are there some insecurities of an east asian finding an indian chick pretty (i used the word PRETTY NOT HOT)? I could easily turned it around and said to him "Leave the east asian girls alone cause they're mine" in regards to marium. He is still my best mate but he is gettin on my nerves....really bad recently.
haha let him and ego go where they want, its gonna catch up to him sooner or later since you got nothing to prove, if he pisses you off, just ignore it, his ego is craving your attention!! if he tries to show off, like how much he can bench or such, just go "huh, cool...." and then start talking to someone else or do something else
Anton is the type of guy that's insecure with himself, probably more so after the rejection from Marium, and he had to make insulting jokes at the expense of you to make him feel better... But Anton is also your best mate... So you have to accept his flaws if you want to remain best friends I'd suggest to have a proper talk with him if you really feel pissed off with his attitude. As for him accepting that constructive criticism from you, or thinking that you are attacking him, that'll be up to him. Good luck!
if i were u i would tell him to stop acting like an ass. tell him just he turned down by an asian girl doesn't give u the rite to talk all this stuff and showing off to me. tell him u don't really care. if he doesn't listen then i would say just don't talk to him for a little bit.
Hook him up with some nice hot girls and it'll make him stop. Joke aside, there's nothing much you can do at this point. i think talking to him might even throw hiim off a bit since he's insecure and he might look at you as being bossy. Just keep your cool whenever he make insulting remarks and be there for him when he vents.
^Altho the guy is ur best mate, doesn't mean u can let him step all over u... -whistle And talkin to him probably will help him become a better person as well.
I say its time to find a new best bud. At this point I don't think he really think you as a best bud, so why pretend you guys are. A best friend would never do that to their friends, unless they have a lot of things on their mind, but they usually apologize afterwards. How long have this been going on? If its close to a year, I say its time to ditch him.
Its true not to let him step on you, but i dont think he's ready to get back to reality yet after teh rejection. There are times even when best of friends hurt each other. Its an eutopic idea that best of friends dont, even within family (a closer bond than anything else), ppl still hurt each other. The only thing to do is to see how to help him best while he's struggling.
Yes, my best friends have hurted me in the past, but its not in their usually nature to. Even when they do, they apologized.
