OK all you ppl in PA I need some help here just 3 days ago i met a old schoolmate in oxford st he said he's gonna get married on wednesday 8TH OF AUGUST i haven seen him for like 4 or 5 yrs and i do appreciate that he invite be but how much should i spend on the gift WHAT SHOULD I BUY I'M TOTALLY CLUELESS edit ok now the wedding is tomorrow, just bought a card today waht should i write one the card, coz i have no clue about weddings and stuff edit again [just want to let you know wot happened at the wedding] finally got over with the wedding gave them a £50 lai c found something on the web and just copy it , pretty nice well the worst thing about this wedding is that every bloody one speaks mandarin and about 30 of them, small and simple wedding only i cant speak it, doesnt know any1 except the groom and 1 guy went to the registry, took some photo at Tower Bridge went to their home for them to change, then went for a meal after being fed they said thy're goin to karaoke ( i cant read any chinese and there's just no1 i can actually have a chat with) i just went to the groom and congratulate him and left fter the meal hope its not too rude
GOLD is that gonna be expensive?! and all the stuff here in london are expensive if something gold ... is £50 gonna be enough?
^ maybe you can just give a lai see as many people do (not sure if you have to be married though?) Im not very well versed about chinese tradition on wedding presents, so consult the elders
if you got invited you gotta pay minium of 60 pounds as gift for the dinner.. and if its a good friend you gotta give him another present... but its your own decision.. ask you mom.. she would know what to do as chinese tradition
$50 per person if it's an acquaintance or regular friend $100 per person for a good friend A $10-15 ceramic tea set made in China for schmucks who sends out invitations like mad to make money off their weddings. But it really depends on your financial situation and how close you are with this friend. My best friend gave me $1500 for my wedding...but I plan to double the favor when he gets married.....
actually wat i head nowadays is that WEDDINGS R EXPENSIVE...any i think ppl would rather have money than presents....hey ribs...how much was ur wedding??? a lot? so its liek 100 for friend and like 150+ for good friend or relatives
well i really dont know him that well u c just bump into him on street he's an ok guy.. just old school mate, we share the same boarding house he did bother to tell me about it so .... i guess maybe a lai see of £80 is that good u think should i actually make it £100 coz i think 'yat pak' sounds better than 'pat sap'
Yah, the wedding industry is a boom. All the different caterers know that the bride will be super loose with money since all brides want their weddings to be just like their dreams. They either will charge you like crazy upfront if they are nice (and you can try to bargain them down...uh I mean the groom can), or the sneaky ones will charge you a decent price upfront, and on the day of your wedding will tell you to pay more for certain things. At that point you are strong armed into paying more since it's too late to switch people. So be very careful. Our wedding cost about $35k but we only invited a little over 100 people. Initially we wanted to invite 200 people, but the cost was ridiculous for the things that "we" wanted *roll eyes* at the wedding. And yes, couples ALWAYS prefer money over gifts. My wife and I were able to hint that to our friends so that was fine, but our parents friends were not as perceptive. Now I have 6 tea sets, a crap load of crystals, and a bunch of portrait frames sitting in my house storage shack. I dunno what to do with them. I would have loved to elope, get 10k from each side of our families, and spend a month in bora bora. Although that would have only lasted for 20 days at $1k per night.
money is more realistic...they would love red packets anyway...yeah 100 would be good as it means 'yat chai bak tao dou lou' lol...even if you wanna give an item for their wedding you should give it to them before attending the dinner...i mean not bringing it to the wedding dinner....
Give money to the couple b/c that way it will help them to pay off their wedding expenses. How much? Well, that depends on your financial situation. I recently gave 100$ as a wedding gift to a couple this past month. The couple are students, so the money helped them along the way.
$100 should be good considering you dont know him that well. Its the most practical thing you can give instead of house appliances and such.
Actually, it's better if you bring your gift to the wedding imo. Usually the couple will assign one of the groomsman or bridesmaid to be in charge of collecting the gifts and writing down the value or what it is along with the name of the person who gave it so it will be convenient for the couple to write thank-you notes later. If you give it at some other time, the couple may loose it, misplace it, can't find it later, or forget who gave it. The only people who gave us gifts before our reception were the bridesmaids and groomsmen. I gave them my groomsmen and bridesmaids gifts in exchange.
I say...get a china tea set from like the royal doulton or something. ask if they have a gift registry ?
it's not that common in my place...usually if someone gives bulky wedding gifts they prefer to take it beforehand...and attend the dinner empty handed...
