Hmm... I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried staying friends with my ex. She's been with someone else for a few months but she just likes him. Her friends say he's just some guy for fun to her... but she doesn't know. She likes him but doesn't think of anything serious with him. That's the situation. For awhile we talked but not too often and hung out once in awhile. I noticed that he went to vietnam for vacation and she's been calling me quite often to go do something. At least more often than before. I know that we're suppose to be friends but I don't know. Part of me wants to get back with her and part of me does not. I can't be mean to her... I care too much about her. I would talk to her but I don't want to say anything stupid again because I have done and said stupid things that I wish I had not about a month after the breakup. It was a mutual breakup at first... I didn't think much of it until she met someone else in a month. Many people told me to cut her off completely and stop talking to her... at least until the feelings are completely gone. That wouldn't help my situation at all if part of me wants to get back with her. She's not a bad person at all, everything happened after the breakup. I wish it had happened before so I can get mad and say fck her. Girls are evil... very manipulative. She told me that she can see that it's possible for us to get back together... just not any time soon. WTF is that?! I understood why she wanted the breakup, I was her first bf and I wanted her to have fun and our relationship became a routine since we've been together for so long. We only get to live once so I was okay with it. This was about some time after the breakup. It's been like 8 months now... I've kept myself busy, hung out with friends, met a few new faces. Got a job... workout, go to school and just try to do anything. Also I thought of trying to get another gf to see if my feelings for her would go away or to see how she'd react but then I'm too nice of a guy to just get another gf for that reason. I guess dating would still be okay... any girls wanna date? =P I should've put this in rant... since that's basically what I'm doing. But if it belongs there, knoc will move it there in about 2 seconds. =)
Lol at the last part.... hmmm i see ur havin a hard time with ur ex girl... the thing is i find it quite weird that ur ex gf is sayin she would wanna have u back but not any time soon.... i mean she has a new bf....thats not normal... if she really likes u that much she wouldnt be dating the other guy...u might not wanna hear this but to me u sound like a "plan b" for her.... an extra option she can have once she is finished with "havin fun" if thats what u wanna be u can wait for her =/ but i wouldnt advise that... its not even for certain she would want u back anyway and who wants to be "plan b" anyway!?! NO WAY RIGHT? abt the get another gf thing.... thats a bad idea...imo because u should give urself some rest and make sure ur over ur ex b4 u start another relationship or things can get ugly for the other "new" girl.... thats just unfair u know... If u were my friend id tell u to move on and forget about it...its hard but whats the use in keepin contact with her if u still have feelings for her and she has a new bf? DONT BE A "PLAN B" WHEEZO!!!! U CAN DO BETTER THAN THAT!! Anyways, GOODLUCK!!!
Whoa Whoa Whoa !!! shes a playa!!!! yeah you should stop talking to her........ same situation as me!! i just ignore the calls or tell some female friend to answer the call haha!!! get her mad!!!
Yea I've heard it all... especially the "plan b" thing. That's the part of me that doesn't want to be with her again. Everyone says stop talking to her, but she didn't really do anything wrong... so she's with someone, but that was what our breakup was for, so she can have fun. In the meantime I should be having fun... but with work, school, workout... I have barely any time to sleep. 19 units next fall... -.- Also I was hoping that another gf would help as well. In a way it might help me move on faster, or at least that's my opinion. So, when are you visiting cheeks? =) I know some girls that like me... but they aren't really my type. That's an interesting idea... although she would never let a guy pick up her phone, otherwise that would be the end of it.
Omg!!!! wheezo i have something to tell you but it might hurt your feelings and we might not ever talk again!!! OMG I FOUND OUT YOUR A GUY!!!!! WHOA!!!!!!
Haha... no harm taken. Now if you were a girl and you just found out I was a guy, then that would be a different story.
Wheezo.......wake up.....! u realize that ur her plan b...thats a good start... she didnt do anything wrong? shes playing it smart i must say! Everything is wrong with what shes doing..... she has a new bf yet she is calling u all the time and tellin u stuff like she might wanna have u back... PFFF WHATEVERRR!! OK......she might not do it on purpose cuz shes "confused" (???? benefit of doubt) but who the hell is she to do u and her current bf like that...come one wheezo.... move on... like aznguy said....shes a PLAYA! And er....when am i visiting eh? U gettin desperate now? I dont like desperate guys! especially the ones who hit on girls on PA
oh haha thanks ^^ How you feeling? EMO? or MORE EMO? or SUPER EMO? or OMG WHAT SHOULD I DO ?? IM CONFUSED?!
This is not as it seems, this was right at the start when she started talking to the guy. She didn't say anything like this recently nor do I ask. Desperate now?? Are you talking down on yourself? It's okay, you're not that bad... haha =) jk I'm not desperate, I like to meet new people. I've met at least 50 new people since the breakup. Friend's friends or friend's friend's friends or classmates or random cute strangers. I am just... "i'm confused... but I'm okay." I know what I'm doing and what's going on, it's just that sometimes I think too much and I like to get it out of my head so I try to talk to people.
stop defendin her ass and second....im not talking down on myself cuz im a super cool chick aight -cool2.... i said it cuz i dont know ur ass....and was just kiddin when i said it anyway u met 50 new ppl? i guess they not that interesting if u havent hooked up with any of em anyway..... get over it wheezo... U CAN DO ITTT!!
haha yea, 50 includes guys and girls... I'd say 30+ guys and 15-20 girls and I'm not really looking to hook up but i dont' mind having some fun, going out and stuff. I knew u were kiddin, I was too. Of course you're a super cool chick, otherwise I wouldn't ask you to visit me. =) haha... Anyway, it's not like I'm trying to defend her, it's just that I don't want people to get the wrong impression of her at first. We've been together for a long time, it was fun... she never did anything bad to me and we trusted each other completely. I wish she did something bad or maybe if we fought more then I could just let this go. It's that we noticed that we're still young and I was her first and she wanted to have fun, go out clubbing and not worry about me. I understood.
having fun ha? yeah we are young do whatever u wanna do before u get married lol!!!!! OK so she wants to get out and have fun without u....then u know enough for the 8293 time move on wheezooo....just dont answer if she calls u..or act busy... after saying no a few times she wont ask u out anymore...it might be hard to say no against ur will but its really better not to talk to her if u still like her...shes gonna bloody confuse u!
Just go out and spend more time with your mates, go clubbing or raves or whatever. Pick up chicks, make new friends, go on dates, just forget about your ex because shes just playing with your emotions. Just let time heal and i'm sure your feelings for her will gradually fade away. Maybe then, you can become regular friends with her again.
wheezo !! i know how you feel !!!! its hard cause your mind seem to think of her at the most stupid time.!!!!. and when you think about it more it hurts!! am i correct = D ?
My plan was to answer her calls less but I'm wondering if she'll still call much when that dude comes back. Just curious. I am moving on, just slowly... =) Even if she wanted to get back with me right now... I wouldn't right away. Honestly, part of me would want to say yes, the other part says no and that I should go out with some other girls first which is probably what I should do right now. Hmm... that sounds like a plan. hmmm... I think I'm over that stage. I'm just confused when I'm with her and I don't know what she's thinking... we do the same things we do when we were together and we act the same way.
do w/e, just as long as u have fun doing it. if youre not having fun, or dont forsee urself having fun in the near future then dont bother. life is too short to be miserable
That's true...I'm actually having fun. I've met tons of people and hung out with some old friends. I've been going out more which I haven't done in awhile. It's just that I think too much at times but who doesn't? so I post my thoughts out here to share with people... in the attempts to think less to myself.
"hmmm... I think I'm over that stage. I'm just confused when I'm with her and I don't know what she's thinking..." I seee you pasted me !!! im stuck there ToT Good keep posting !!! well have fun!!! enjoy life!!! another chapter begins !!!!!!!!!!!!! GO WHEEZO!!!!!
haha so you're stuck there... just listen the advice you've given me plus the advice of these other guys and time will take care of the rest. If you need to talk, I'm here... it's good to talk to someone who's in the same situation because they know exactly how you feel. I've talked to a few people like that and they helped me.
