Do you mind your partner have sex with ur friend?

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by adorable_sky_dazzling, Aug 10, 2007.

  1. adorable_sky_dazzling

    adorable_sky_dazzling Active Member

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    Actually i have a short story here...
    my fren have a bf, but this bf was her ex-bf'fren.my fren have sex with her ex-bf before.
    she is now ponder whether she wan to tell her current bf about this matter.
    Do you all think her bf will mind?
    guy n girl...or mostly do you mind tis kind of situation?
     
  2. kevinliu12

    kevinliu12 Active Member

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    people shouldn't be asking about past relationships. as for your friend, she shouldn't bring it up unless she is asked the question. as for the guy, he should be happy that she is now with him. what difference does it make on what she did in her past relationship, as long as she is with him now. however, if she has STD then that is another question.
     
  3. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    well for me

    if this becomes a serious relatinoship than honesty is a must

    but if this is just some casual dating than it's ok to keep it quiet




    although be warned, i have had this happen to me, didn't know my bf knew all along, and occasionally tested me by hinting at things and seeing if i would say it
    after i found out he knew for a long time, i felt really bad, it hurt because i knew that i wa lying to him all along, and even worse that through all that, he knew that i was keeping secrets from him
     
  4. adorable_sky_dazzling

    adorable_sky_dazzling Active Member

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    ya..wat she worry is if she have to answer tis question wat should she reply.
    do guy mind???
     
  5. adorable_sky_dazzling

    adorable_sky_dazzling Active Member

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    ya that is their serious relationship.she is now his gf.
    sometime guy is like tat..even they know the matter d they still pretending and ask some private
    question tat we donno how to answer.
    last time my ex purposely go find out all the thing d then come to me and ask.
    i hate ppl does such stupid.
    they very care about the previous,but be honest..who don have future and for sure every1 also have previous.y stil wanna do such thing to hurt ur partner..
     
  6. Kathleen_Alex

    Kathleen_Alex Active Member

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    N b4 the guy post da question to the gal, he must be willing to accept her answer for whatever it is..
     
  7. nyckeion

    nyckeion ....Boo....

    the past is the past let it go no matter what they did anything when they break up and start a new relationship then its all new forget about the past
     
  8. ab289

    ab289 Well-Known Member

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    you definitely do not tell unless asked.

    then again, i will definitely NOT date my fren's ex. i can never accept that my fren has been there, done that with my current gf. since your fren's bf obviously don't mind ... then maybe he has different opinion.
     
  9. BabyRain

    BabyRain Doppelgänger of da E.Twin

    Tell the truth. If the guy minds, then dump him.
     
  10. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    good point!
    I wish the world did work this way, but it doesn't
     
  11. wheezo

    wheezo Well-Known Member

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    honestly, i would mind... but why would i be dating my friend's ex in the first place?? unless i'm not that close to him... well then if i was dating her, i should be expecting that they had sex anyway.
     
  12. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    u see..thats why i dont go with ex bf's friends/relatives whatever....
    causes too much drama besides that its just not done....
     
  13. mQ123

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    i agree, i would mind too... dating your friends ex-bf is a little weird.. cause you dunno what they've done together when they were dating + you would never know if they'll go back and do things behind your back... its all just so... wrong, unless you dont mind.
     
  14. some ppl call it honesty... n they tell their bf abt everybody they've slept with... others might think it makes them feel better after confessing everything abt their past... but i just think it's foolish to tell when he hasn't even asked... if she tells her current bf that she's slept with his fd out of the blue do u think her bf will ever look at his fd the same way again?? if i was her bf i'd probably end the relationship once she told me... not because of her virginity... but because things r too awkward... if i don't end it right away i might pretend i'm ok with it for a while... but one day i will explode...

    i'm pretty sure things will go bad whether it's ur fd telling her bf or the bf finding out from others... the best way is wot angie said... don't hook up with ur ex's fd/relo... there're plenty of men out there...
     
  15. Phoenix

    Phoenix *~Though she be but little, she is fierce~*

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    of course i'd mind..but if he confesses and tells me the truth then i'd probaly forgive him but if it continues then bye bye baby...-bash
     
  16. fearless_fx

    fearless_fx Eugooglizer

    lol what a funny thread
     
  17. adorable_sky_dazzling

    adorable_sky_dazzling Active Member

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    wan to find a new bf also have to go far far place to get one..
    haha...but sometime life is unpredictable..u really donno when u wil meet the guy u love is ur ex's fren..
     
  18. yumdedumjenn

    yumdedumjenn Well-Known Member

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    i doubt he'll mind, its pretty normal.
     
  19. s0uljae

    s0uljae Well-Known Member

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    i really don't mind if my mates have sex with my friends because nobody stay committed anymore. we are at unfaithful at time
     
  20. skid

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    hmm its a bit hard to say, i reckon your friend should just keep quiet until asked. Besides i'm sure her current bf would have an idea, since hes problably having sex with her as well. But yeah it is wierd to date your mates ex, something i would find hard to do.

    About past relationships, its always gonna be in the back of your mind, wondering how it was and what your partner did with his/her ex etc. Its like you don't wanna know but you have to know sorta thing. Well whatever you ask you should be ready for the answer and not be hurt, its hard but thats the only way to go about it.