im in love with this girl,we been together for 5 months and been through both thick and thin, happy and sad moments. last month she moved a couple of states away from me because of family issue. we made plans about meeting each other once in a while. when she got home, she told her family about her having a bf a couple of states away. the family strongly disagreed. and also at the same time, she told them what race i am and they became furious. they want someone from their own race. we been having this long distance relationship for about a month now. shes going through alot in her family, they had many arguments. they even took her cell phone, and her laptop, its so hard to talk to her. but we are holding strong. i felt guilty for making her go through so much....she told its all ok and not to worry, but its hard. at times i asked her 'do i worth it? she said yes, but i dont really want to harm her family considering the fact that she is family oriented. i dont know what to do....any ideas?
you really need to ask yourself.. can this relationship continue with how much you see her? long distance relationship doesnt work out most of the time except if you got alot of money to take the plane everytime you want to see her.. do you see a future in this relationship?
honestly, i do see a future in this relationship. but that is just me.... it all really depends on her decision i can withstand not seeing her, all i want to know is her safety and know that shes happy everyday
wow i should be asking the same question too. i'm also having a similar problem. my parents object to my boyfriend cuz they complain that we don't match. but i continue to see him and not listen to him because its your lfie that your living with not theirs. if you both love each other alot then it doesn't matter who tries to separate or get in the way because love will reign if only you believe. for example i believe my relationship bwt my bf would work and it has worked out fine so far besides the arguement with my parents. the thing is as long as we're happy its okay. hope everything is going to be okay! you seem like an amazing boyfriend, so don't lose hope!
yea but your relationship isnt long distance right? also lol its not your parents that decides if you match.. its you
Awww...thats sweet... I feel sorry for her because her family is givin her a hard time.... their just being unreasonable...maybe they will change their opinions about u or accept u later on when they see how serious u guys are. If shes like about 20years old...maybe she can just tell her parents she wants to move out because she wants to be independent... that way she can do whatever she likes without "fan meen" with her parents Anyway, Wish u guys all the best! <3
im 21 hehe ^^ i know im naive, hoping everything will go according to plan but all i wanted is to be with her, her parents are making things more complicated. i really want her to be happy and most of all i want to be the cause of that happiness.
I want to take care of her and keep her happy, and if that involves marriage, then i really do want to marry her, although im quite young xD
when ur in love your never to young to marry -bigclap its really hard choice tbh.. but in the end its her choice who she gonna choose... for you .. or for her family.. maybe she can convince her family but i dont think so... :( not really helping am i? >.< from where does her parents come from?
xD i really really do love her, to be honest, i see her as my future wife already =X and i got everything planned out lol and i really wish it will go as plan. but at the same time, im not going to force her to pick, i want her to decide. ill be happy if she choose me, but ill also accept the fact if she chose her family, i will understand. like the old saying : shits happen xD
Yeah... forcing her to pick wont make things easier for her so just wait and see lar... anyway... maybe she can call u with her friends cell when shes at school or send u emails...
does she knows how you think about it ? and damn some girls might get scared of all your planning -bigclap does she also thinks about it like you do?
actually we did xD we talked about when we should marry, honeymoon, when we should have kids, what kind of house, where the location whos going to take care of the house, the kids, and all those future things xD we basically cover almost everything. but all we can do now is wait and see how things go at the moment.
