not giving gifts

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by smallrinilady, Aug 16, 2007.

  1. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    just curious, what do you think about a guy who doesn't give gifts to his gf
    what about if you were that girl?






    one of my ex's was like that, never gave me a single gift, instead he would spend money on going places like events, dinner, and gas for driving
    but i dont have a single phyiscal thing i could say he gave me

    his now gf talked to me about this issue
    she has been dating him for three years
    and he only got her a gift once, but that was more he bought something to replace something of hers that was broken
    but it wasn't like a present

    but he did buy her a (single) flower once, but only because they got into a fight
     
  2. Sephiroth

    Sephiroth Well-Known Member

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    well
    sometimes it is hard to make a choice for gifts
    and it is not easy to know the right time to give gifts
    maybe i will give one on the day i confess lol
    but after that i don't think i will always get my gf any gifts(unless it is a special day)
     
  3. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    Wow...i assume hes not poor because he spends money on other stuff....
    damn that guy is stingy tight ass hahahaha....
    I hate stingy guys!!
    I think i would mind because I am the kinda girl who likes buying gifts for my loved ones...
    and when u give, give, give and never get anything back.....
    =/
     
  4. ProjectD

    ProjectD VIP yay :]

    well some guys think its a big deal to get a gift, it has to at least satisfy the girl, so instead of thinking about all that stuff they just don't, and care more about where to bring the girl and where to eat

    but i think guys should at least give their girls a present on valentines day and their b-day, and if he's a christmas guy then christmas, otherwise theres no point of giving a random gift even though its quite nice to receive one everyone once in a while
     
  5. Sephiroth

    Sephiroth Well-Known Member

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    AGREED! lol if a girl always buy me sth i will do the same
    maybe thats the way it works sometimes
     
  6. yumdedumjenn

    yumdedumjenn Well-Known Member

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    i would think that boyfriend is cheap and go find another boyfriend hehehe!
     
  7. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    oh but he isn't cheap
    he took me to some real expensive places

    just too lazy to think of what to get me
    (weird, he did help my best friend pick out a present for me after we broke up)
     
  8. MissCheekS

    MissCheekS Reconnaîssant ❤

    Ok...then thats just weird...
    & er....u did buy him stuff?
     
  9. BabyRain

    BabyRain Doppelgänger of da E.Twin

    Wow, you are actually friends with your ex's gf now... and you guys talk abt your ex? That's weird IMO :p
    Neway, a guy who doesn't buy any gifts for his gf would appear to be a not so thoughtful guy...
     
  10. yumdedumjenn

    yumdedumjenn Well-Known Member

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    if your boyfriend brings you to expensive places, that still can be technically considered as him getting you gifts, except in this scenrio it's digested.
     
  11. misscrisander

    misscrisander Well-Known Member

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    My current boyfriend doesn't actually give gifts unless it's a special occassion like Valentines/b'days or anniversaries.... he doesn't "think" about surprises or anything like that, but if we're shopping and I point out that I like this or that, he'll get it for me...

    I suppose that's good enough in a way?? But with your ex not even giving presents during special occassions, that's a BIG worry!!!
     
  12. tallgirl888

    tallgirl888 Well-Known Member

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    Gifts being given at certain times is good...but giving all the time is too much...it's more important that you have a good relationship!
     
  13. i like gifts... it doesn't have to b something expensive... it could b something small... a DIY card, a bottle of cleanser i run out or even a hemorrhoid cream... just something to show that he's thinking abt me...
     
  14. zero_c

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    Maybe he has something against gifts?
     
  15. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    that i do understand
    i just wish i could have a physical good i could show off to my friends and brag "look at what my bf/ex gave me"
    ~giggle~
     
  16. xdly

    xdly Well-Known Member

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    what about her bday?
    they're already together for 3 years rite?
    and what about pictures?
    that's a physical thing either?!
    has she ever told him about it?
     
  17. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    he wouldnt give her a picture frame if that's what your talking about
    i mean he will take pictures with her, but he isn't the one so say, let's take a picture
    it would more be she asking him to take a picture with her
     
  18. wheezo

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    u can do that, show them your tummy after a good meal. say "arent u guys jealous that its bigger than yours... " your friends will envy u =)

    i dont buy much for my ex... sometimes she'll say she want this or that n i'd get it fo her.
     
  19. xdly

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    same for my bf...
    well... sometimes when he's got the digicam with him... he'll make a picture of us together... but mostly I have to ask it myself either.
    and gifts... he only gives me presents when we have something to celebrate (birthday, 1 yr together, valentinesday)
    but yeahh.. it's just the way he is... cant change that rite?
    should accept it i guess
     
  20. wheezo

    wheezo Well-Known Member

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    yup u fell in love with him the way he is... cheap and stingy

    if he started giving u gifts more, u might not like him so much. lol
    girls are complicated like that.