hitting is a definite no-no. grounding? suspension of toys or whatnot. but most importantly, make them see the wrong they did (if that's the case) & explain why it's wrong. if they've hurt others, try to have your kids imagine themselves in shoes of the person they've hurt. but also if they have something to say, hear em out too.
I will spank my kids when they've reached a certain age and still don't listen. It may not be the best way for many people, but it is an effective way.
^well, my parents would hit me on the hand occasionally for doing something wrong when i was little. that's minor but i don't think hitting of any kind is, i suppose, a good example?
^LOL, my dad has a pretty bad temper, and he used to grab anything he can to hit me. A cane, a stool, even his belt... I guess I turned out OK.
Taking a "chicken feather duster," bamboo stick, or fly swatter to spank a child would be the traditional asian way of teaching/punishing children.
hell no hitting might make yr kid starts to hate u and he might even turn more worst.... that happens to me be4~_~
thats how i think either... in some way.... when they spank my ass when i was young... i knew i would never do it again... so... thats a good thing right?
its hard to say how you gonna raise your child.. since eventho you say now that you will never scream or spank ur child... but can you take it when you actully got a child? a child is SOOO annoying.. you will get crazy lolz
smack em for fear not for pain, and the rest is reasoning. They must fear me though. without fear kids, they dont listen. and thats how the cookie's gonna crumble. Also, never take back what you say. Always stick to it. and dont disagree with the wife/husband in front of the kid, work as a unity or else they sense hesitance and mercy.
If you think you need to hit your child to teach him/her a lesson than you're not ready nor should you be a parent. Plain and simple. You're no better than an abusive pet owner.
I disagree, have you seen the kids these days who weren't hit? IN any case you hit them on the butt where there's the most meat with your own hands not with an object. Kids who aren't hit think they can do watever they want, and then go stand in a corner and count to a hundred which they can do in less than a min and then they can go off and play again. There is no punishment to that. That is like playing a game to them. There is a difference between abuse and letting the kid know you are serious and its not a game when words can't get the idea across. Of course hitting is last resort after you punish them and reason with them and talk to them, but it should be there as an option in case all the above doesn't work out. unless u want to bring them to a psych at 4 years old on why jumping off the dinner table isn't a good idea or why you dont play while you eat..
^ yeah thats why you hit them, otherwise the other alternative send them to military camp and see how long they can last ahah
i would spank them if they dont know what is wrong when you already have given them a chance. but before the discipline, you gotta teach them the respect first. and if they cant respect me, then i would hit them. but who knows... it depends on how you raise your kid in the first place to decide on how much discipline they should get.
