Maybe that's also one of the reasons why I'm single right now. First of all, I like to give meaningful and thoughtful gifts and it's rare for me to find stuff like that. I've never given a stuffed toy to anyone except my lil sister since I think those are too common and doesn't have much use. Usually, I get perfume, jewelery, watches, or even hats for birthdays, christmas, new year, valentines, etc. It's getting harder and harder to find good gifts so I rarely buy anything now.
hahahahahahaha men are complicated either! XD but yeahh... take him the way he is... but you can always at least tell him how you feel about everything
"he would spend money on going places like events, dinner, and gas for driving", would you rather he let you stay home, starve, and made you take the bus?... or bought you nice things and be boring?
is it better, then, to tell the girl the spending limit and then let her roam the mall / store for whatever she wants?
we ladies are all complicated. Hard for men to know what we really want unless we tell. Me, my husband used to buy me flowers occasionally until once I told him not to waste money on flowers. Till now its been ages no flowers from him and I do wish sometimes he would surprise me with flowers. But then again if I tell him it wouldn't be fun. women....LOL When comes to gift, men usually do not know what to buy unless we tell them or hint what we like/want. When special occasion is around the corner, I would tell him what I want, he'll buy it for me. If I don't, then I expect nothing from him.
tell you what they want? not all of them my last two bfs wouldn't talk about their problems one would just go out for walks by himself when he was confused and the other one would just shut up, and finally when it was all over he would tell you the whole ordeal he just went through good point i hate that, and for girls who specifically look for boys who would do that for them scream GOLD DIGGER
rini.. when you dated this "ex" of yours, did you two go shopping everywhere together? If you don't give him any gifts or vice versa, I guess the idea of exchanging gifts are out of the question. To further explain this, he might think that since YOU'RE not giving him gifts, he doesn't feel obligated to give you a gift either. Not everyone is self-conscious as they should be and some believe that giving gifts isn't all that important. So if you're really looking forward to adding that gift-giving aspect to your relationship, then you should step up to the plate and give him a gift first and see how he goes from there -- it's only fair. You can't really expect him to give you a gift if you never gave him one (assuming that neither of you exchanged gifts before). If you already gave him multiple gifts and he's not returning it, then cut it and look for a new guy, haha. Anyway, chances are that the bf PROBABLY doesn't realize that he's not giving gifts since you're not giving him any.
I did buy things for him for his birthday and randomly i would give him other gifts that I made i made him a hand made card and drew him a portriat and knit him a scarf do those count?
Yeah... they're gifts with "meaning and time" put into it, I guess. Nothing that I expected, of course. If he received multiple gifts and still doesn't return it, then I'm assuming that he's just not a gift-giving person. It's a very awkward situation.. if you complain to him about it, he'll probably think that you're too materialistic and greedy. If you don't complain to him about it, then you wouldn't feel right since it's not fair that you're giving the gifts yet he doesn't return the deed. I've known couples who struggled through these types of situations and frankly, I don't see too much improvement even when the female complained. It just caused more problems. The way I see it -- it's either he gives or he doesn't. Then there are those who might give you an ample amount of gifts when he's trying to hook up with you, but when you're with him, the gift-giving starts to slowly deteriorate.
LOL you are sooo right in many parts I didn't complain (because he does shell out a lot of money for me, just not for materialist goods) and for the second thing about trying to hook up, I have had many guys do this to me in the past, it really bothered me when it was a guy i didn't like. I hated accepting gifts and giving them false hope. But even feel more worse rejecting a gift
That's not a good boyfriend, he could atleast make u something or take you places, like a walk in the park and giving u a flowers....
Yeah.. I've always felt that "not giving gifts" is not exactly a "problem" in relationships that can be fixed but more of a person thing that varies on each individual. And yeah, I wouldn't accept any gifts from someone that I don't like if they were trying to "hit" on me. Not only will they get the wrong impression that you like him/her, but they'll also think that you're selfish for accepting the gifts even though you don't like him/her. It's definitely a no-no.
