recieving a gift from someone you dont like

Discussion in 'Love and Relationships' started by smallrinilady, Aug 21, 2007.

  1. smallrinilady

    smallrinilady Well-Known Member

    From a response from RSX from the not giving gifts thread


    someone keeps giving you gifts, trying to hook up with you
    but you dont like them

    do you accept their gifts anyways?

    would you reject a gift? if so how?
     
  2. Aries

    Aries Well-Known Member

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    I believe its wrong to accept the gift since it sends a message towards the opposite sex. People already struggle in life trying to decipher mixed message. Unless the person understands they are close friends.
     
  3. skid

    skid Well-Known Member

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    if you don't like them, then you should just reject the present or let them know how you feel. i would be offended if someone didn't like me or the presents but say nothing about it.
     
  4. Phoenix

    Phoenix *~Though she be but little, she is fierce~*

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    me and my friends would all recieve cards from a boy..a boy that has mental diosrder, he's a nice boy but because of his condition, other pple would take advantage of him and make fun of him...so me and my friends would help him out..look out for him etc...but because of this, this boy would every month or so like one of us..and when one of us becomes the object of his affections, he would ask us for hugs and us stuff...and we would have no choice but to hug him. and to accept..otherwise we would get into trouble...by the teachers and the boy would then kinda self harm...

    so we have no choice,but sometimes it does get a bit .......we treat him as a friend and we dont dislike him...but it affects us if we refuse....what can we do?
     
  5. NOLEE

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    I usually don't like taking them and give them back... but if it looks like they'd get hurt if I didn't take it then I guess I would.. I would still treat them like a friend even though he didn't like it b/c it would hurt him more if I led him on
     
  6. ProjectD

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    just say you dont want to recieve gifts or something, cause if you take them they might think the wrong way so yeah
     
  7. xdly

    xdly Well-Known Member

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    what if you say that to him... and he says: it's a gift from me... otherwise i'll throw it away...
     
  8. ProjectD

    ProjectD VIP yay :]

    ^ lol just say you dont accept gifts from anyone period, just dont get caught getting a gift from a friend where he could see xD
     
  9. xdly

    xdly Well-Known Member

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    lol... and if he is saying he's giving you as a friend?

    (experience haha)
     
  10. ProjectD

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    naw as a friend you would say, i wont accept because then i have to give you a present

    but if he says its okay i dont want one you say

    eh... okay i really know you wanted to give it to me but i dont feel the same and you should give it to someone else you care for xD

    not much experience with this topic but i think this will help :S
     
  11. xdly

    xdly Well-Known Member

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    well... i accepted it the first time... then he was giving me again =.=
    soooo... i rejected it... i said: ok throw it away... cant accept it!
    and yeahh... he stopped giving so many presents :p
     
  12. ProjectD

    ProjectD VIP yay :]

    lol but thats a bit mean, i was trying to say it in a nice way, but i guess its okay to do that too if you dont mind hurting his feelings a bit
     
  13. xdly

    xdly Well-Known Member

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    yeahhh... but otherwise he wont stop... and that sux more!
     
  14. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    i don see a problem accepting a gift. there really isn;t any reason to hurt the person.

    but you should be CLEAR that it is just a friendship thing and it won;t led to anything else.

    Try telling him to look for a gf other then u. ie. that;s a cute girl, u interested?

    or introduce him to another girl. keep doing it each time u see him.

    He will get the idea.

    and if you help him find a girl maybe you will have a good friend for life.

    also keep telling him any other guy that you don't know ( except for him) is cute

    o. yea. click the thanks button hehe

    :)
     
    #14 adrianc, Aug 21, 2007
    Last edited: Aug 22, 2007
  15. kdotc

    kdotc 안녕하세요빅뱅K-Dragon입니다

    who doesn't want free gifts lol
     
  16. xdly

    xdly Well-Known Member

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    ofcoz... but it should be for the right reasons =)
     
  17. ckthepilot

    ckthepilot Well-Known Member

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    I would just return em :)
     
  18. AViolet07

    AViolet07 Well-Known Member

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    juz take it ... but do tell him not to giv anything after that one ...

    he'll understand that ...
     
  19. 無得頂

    無得頂 Well-Known Member

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    I will make it clear to the person that they have no chance at all, but I will gladly accept the gifts.
     
  20. adrianc

    adrianc Well-Known Member

    oh yea.

    tell him if he really likes you then he should listen to you and look for someone else :)

    click the thanks button already rinrin, or whoever posted the questopn