THIS THREAD IS OLD. I HAVE ALREADY GOTTEN OVER IT. SO DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT DIGGING IT UP, KTHX. Ok, so I'm sure everyone here has encountered some cheap people in their lives. I know a lot of cheap people and I know I'm cheap. But you know, that's how we Asians are. But sometimes, I think some people are just a little too cheap. So, I'm like, really obsessed with Monokuro Boo merchandise, and a lot of my friends know that. But then I don't have that much, because most of the stuff I see in stores are really expensive, imo at least. So for my birthday, my friend bought me 5 Monokuro Boo things: white out, a ruler, star paper, a notebook, and a pencil. Supposedly, she spent "hecka money" on them, over $20 she said. Well, OK, I believed her, because in my experience, all the Monokuro Boo merchandise I've bought were pretty pricey. So I chipped in $20-$30 for her birthday present. Well guess what I found out? All the stuff she bought was from a 69 cent store. I mean, that's not cool. 69 cent store? So she spent ... less than 4 dollars on me. I mean, I went to a store yesterday in Chinatown and I saw all the stuff she bought me, all in one convenient section where everything was labeled 69 cents. Now I've thought, maybe this is just a coincidence, but then I remembered how she told me on the same day that she told me she bought my present that she found this "really cool 69 cent store in Chinatown". OK, I'm not saying I don't like the gift anymore. I still like it, and I appreciate that she remembered what I liked. But seriously, is that not a little TOO cheap, or am I just being dramatic? I seriously don't mean to be greedy or anything, but that just made me really mad when I found out. I know that if I knew, I might not have spent so much as $20-$30 on her present, but I still would've gotten her something that was about that much. Oh yeah, and one part of what she said to me really pissed me off. "Yeah you better like it. I spent over $20 on it. And you KNOW I'm poor." Wow, I've never realized how wrong that statement was. First of all, she obviously didn't spend $20, more like $4. Second, SHE IS NOT POOR. She has A LOT more money than me. Her mom and her mom's boyfriend are always giving her money. And you know what she spends it on, HERSELF. I'm not saying it's wrong to spend money on yourself. But I do feel that is a bit selfish, especially when she spent only $4 on me for my birthday. I mean, her mom's boyfriend gave her $500, for no reason. And she spent it on ... clothes, and all these other things for herself. ALL OF IT. And after that, she spent another $800-$1000 on a new laptop, even though her REALLY-CLOSE-TO-NEW computer was working perfectly fine. I know this is a little off topic, but I see a problem here. How can she spend so much on herself and spend so little on other people? I like to spend on myself too, and I do, but I think that a lot of my money goes to buying other people stuff. And the other day, she called me and said she found a $5 Monokuro Boo pencil bag somewhere, and asked me if I wanted it. That day, I wouldn't be suspicious, but now I'm scared that it's actually a 69 cent bag somewhere in Chinatown. And if she bought it for me, I would have to pay her $5, which I'm really skeptical of, since I'm scared she's lying. I really don't mean to think that's she's a cheat, but it's kind of hard to think otherwise. And then she offered to buy it for me as a Christmas present. Oh and did I mention that she didn't buy me a Christmas present either? She said she was really broke. But guess what, that same day, she spent another $100 on clothes for herself. And I got her a $20 hoodie. But now the only thing I'm mad at, is that she lied. I mean the thing that gets me really mad is not even the cheap part. Well, that's a big part of it, but the even bigger part is, that she lied. I mean, did she have to say that she spent over $20 on it? Couldn't she just say, "I hope you like it."? Then I wouldn't be mad, because then I would realize that I had no right to assume that she bought it anywhere else or for any other price. Did she think I would never find out? So seriously, I really want to know if people agree or disagree with what I think. Am I justifiably being angry, or am I just overreacting?
lol id say i hate cheap people too, but then id be a hypocrite. im soooo cheap id rather cut my own hair then go for a haircut, i only buy clothes that im absolutely in love with and will vaselate over the decision for like 30 minutes if the price is more then 50 dollars, and the Louis Vuitton wallet my aunt gave me a year ago costs more then all the cash bills iv ever had in it. lol i also make about 2200 dollars a month and have just purchased a 40 thousand dollar car... so maybe im not exactly cheap, just overly focused. your friend on the other hand, seems like she gets money handed to her like its nothing and then hoards it as though she worked a hard 10 hour day for it. Although this isn't necessarily a bad thing. The bad thing would be that she is lying about things to your face, which isnt cool. She doesnt sound like a person with very good character, and hopefully she shapes up eventually, or else maybe it might not be worth being friends with her anymore.
Thats life. Some people prefer to focus on themselves rather than giving. It is indeed justifiable that you should be angry at her not because of being cheap but the fact that she's lying to you. From now on, you should think twice before doing something with her. Chinese saying is that if you cant trust them with a small issue, you cant trust them with a bigger one. -innocent
well now you how ur friend is, u just need to prepare yourself yeh i understand ho wu feel, but thats how life is, think of it as a lesson to make u stronger she is just being sselfish IMO birthday present is just about gratitute of a friendship it doesnt have to be expensive, even just a birthday card is enough, its the meaning behind it being cheap isnt a bad, but u have to be honest buy her something u think that is easily affortable in her next birthday, tell her is a HONEST present with love your friend shouldnt be lying about wot she spent, thats shitbad
Be angry. I totally would, i mean character and price of the presents aside the fact was that she was willing to lie to you, i'd definitely be angry if any of my friends were liek tht cuz friends are meant to be ppl u can trust
I'd go shopping with her one day and go to exactly the same store, and pick up what she bought you and excalim "OMG!! THIS IS SO CHEAP!!! It must be a fake...." Then see what her reaction is...
yeh she is wrong for lying to you about how much your present was but it depends on how you now want to proceed: either confront her and possible end of friendship or just take it now, and next time a celebration comes up, buy her something cheap back
personally, as long as i like someone's gift, it doesn't really matter how much it was. of course i would hope it's more than a few dollars in the very least but then again i'm more of a card person. i like personalized cards best. the lying part is what would get me ticked off the most. you have a right to angry at her for lying but perhaps not for the gift part (although, even for this case, i'd think in her situation -with her having money and all- she could have afforded something more) because unless you really know what's going on in her life i suppose you can't really judge the way she spends her money? but yeah, the lying part. i don't like people lying to me and that is something i absolutely hate. confront her or do as misscrisander said. i want to see her expression. haha.
well. my friends and i decided since we dont have jobs yet we're not getting each other gifts. but we beak that rule anyways but since we're good friends, we dont care usually about the price difference. if you're truly friends than it shouldn't matter. i always follow a rule of mine. its better to have a few good friends then many lousy ones. friendship takes work on both parts so its up to you to think bout what kind of person you want to be and what kind of friendship is more meaningful to you, what you expect your friends to do/how to act.
Question: Why do girls spend so much time worrying about the petty stuff in life? If your friend is a cheap arse bitch then get your self a new friend. Its that simple. Its the same with smallrinilady, the girl bitches about getting dumped on at work but is too stupid to get a new job. Maybe I find the whole situation of these people all too simple. Or maybe I worry about bigger things in life.
Umm well maybe this person is a good friend of hers? i know i wouldn't go and replace my friend because of this so called "petty stuff" in life. It would really show the kind of person i am wouldn't it
i would call her cheap as well, but you cant blame her i mean she has all that money you have to get greedy at some point right? but if she really was your friend she wouldnt care much if she at least spent 30 dollars on you, so i guess it all depends on what friends you chose to be with
yeh sometimes life can be that simple, but most of the time life is too complicated to just say F you, im getting a new friend Its a valid suggestion, but she could also be looking for other directions of help
yeah i would be more careful with ur friend, ppl that are cheap are ok, but ppl who lie to their friend for small things shows how much they trust u and see u as a friend.
It's not uncommon. people usually don't tell the price of the prezzie they're giving be it cheap or expensive but your friend is really too much. I had a friend, we teamed up and got him this branded bag worth over 200 bucks. He didn't give me or my friend anything for our birthdays though we were a trio. You know, three best friends who are always together? he just wished us "Happy birthday! I didn't know your bday was today". =.= if we were good friends he'd make an effort to find out. This year, i decided to buy him something again. When he asked "how you remember my bday?" I just replied "I gave you something last year too. Of course I'd remember". He gave me nothing again this year with the same excuse. I ain't getting him anything next year.
Agreed. She lied to you over such a thing and is even too cheap to spend 5 dollar on you while she spends hundreds on herself. If I were you I'll review that friendship with her and if you decide to stay friends you can buy cheapo stuff less than a dollar for her instead of chipping $20-$30 for her birthday the next time.
cool 69 cent for Monokuro Boo merchandise. What country is this? I could never find Monokuro Boo merchandise stuff under AUD$1 at the china town stores in Australia. A lying cheap friend...look like you made a bad friend.
