Hi All, I've been around the forums, but havent really posted. Here's my situation I met this girl a couple years ago, and we became good friends. I actually met her from her boyfriend first, but we all worked at the same place. We started chilling and all, and as time went on , her boyfriend quit his current job (which we all worked at). I stopped talking to her boyfriend all together because we only talked at work and somehow me and her started to get closer. At first, it wasn't too bad, Ill lend a hand if you need my help. I was always the go to person if she and her boy had a fight, had an argument anything. We started sharing out past relationships and as we got to know each other more, it seems like I started to get attracted to her. As I didint think much of it since she was already seeing someone. She user to drive me home from work since it was along the way to her boy's house, and she would give me a hug before I leave her car. I felt so jealous knowing she could be with someone better , since she tells me all her negatives about the guy she seeing. For the first couple times, I just gave her a peck on the cheek before I left her car. Just one night, as i was giving my usual kiss on the cheek, she coincidently turns her head, and I accidentally kiss her on the lips. I couldn't stop myself from kissing her as it felt so right. We didin't stop till a full minunte later. At that point, it was really awarked and I just told her thanks for the lift. I'll see you soon. First forward till march this year,Me and her are involved in a underground relationship. I just don't know how much more of this I can take. The guy she still seeing emotionally abuses every single week, and I just wanna take my baseball bat and beat the crap out of him. I asked her WHAT KIND OF FUTURE DO YOU SEE WITH HIM? He isn't hot, he's not romantic, he terrible in bed (she told me this!), He's not rich, He has the worst personality! I'm really angry and I can't tell any of my friends about this. I guess this what makes this forum a cool place to hang out at. She tells me I'm everything in a guy she's looking for. I just don't know what to do. I'm too weak to get out of this relationship, but at the same time I know she doesn't know what she really has till its gone. I'm just writing here to vent my frustration. It's late. I should be sleeping. Feel free to comment if you like guys, girls.
yep...how come she doesnt break up with him....? U guys been seeing each other secretly for quite a while now....if she really likes u...whats stopping her from breaking up with her man and make u 2 official?
IMHO, you don't deserve her either if you don't have the courage to ask her to get out of the other relationship.
u reckon? Im more thinking....she doesnt even have the courage to take a decision and is taking advantage of the fact hes not pushin her to make a decision....
I;m IN...dood!!! Hook me up and get me a turn!!! lol Seriouly She sounds messed up!! why would you get try to steal someone else girl...u might be messed up too.... she gonna do the same to u too eventually...lol cheat on yea///haha...
errr...yeah agreed...what makes u think she wouldnt creep on u if shes doing the same thing to her current bf u guys been doing this since march (6MONTHS!!!)...how can she still look the other guy in the eye... kiss him, hug him, have sex with him!!??!! Messed up man...
It's a real bad situation. The only reason I can think that leads to her decision to cheat is because she doesn't get what she needs in her current relationship, and thats where I come in. I'm real close to pulling the plug soon. It's causing me too much stress. Then again, If you were important to her, she will make the effort to save it. And a black guy told me, sorry if im racist, but his advise to me was "yalll mannn, nothing feels better than when its stolen!" I laughed my ass off, and it somewhat true.
IMO, when we try to get a girl, eventually we feel we are better than who she is with. If you both are serious about this relationship, ask her What exactly she wants from this relationship. If she can "cheat" on her bf now, who knows when she finds someone better, she'll cheat on you.
^ very true wind, shes willing to cheat on her bf and what is she gonna do when you guys are official shes doesnt seem very ideal to me and if your not willing to tell her to dump him then you dont deserve her period, simple as that buddy
come on...meng...dont ruin it for the dood...u guys make too much sense... hey dood...just continue with her affair meng, dont tell no one and make sure not to get catch...lol aint this secret affairs fun??? make sure u git her sundays. mondays and thursdays....
Errr....ok? So u feel ok with being her "mr stand-by"??? Id say if u and also her ex bf means anything to her....she'd break up.... just to have a fair game....he might mistreat her....but shes the one whos cheating now.... Hey btw...once u stole something its yours....right? but thats not the case here....
uh well. the people up there are right. if she could cheat off of her bf, what guarantees that she might not do the same with you later on? it's not worth getting frustrated off of this. if you're important to her then she'll prolly do something to be with you, and it's been 6 months. still she hasn't. all i can say is that she's not worth ur time if she acts like this. well you can take a chance if you want and ask her to break up with her bf, but knowing the situation, i dont recommend that, well after all it's ur choice. so g'luck whatever you do
I'd say the biggest problem here is that she's not doing anything about her relationship with her bf. and yeah like everyone else says, she'll probably cheat on you if you two ever get into a real relationship. technically, she is already cheating on you ... but if you really like her that much and you think she likes you a lot, then you should confront her and get her to break up with the bf. and if she doesn't, I'm sorry if this is mean, but that's just stupid, and it just shows the kind of commitment she's willing to make to you
tbh its just stupid of you to let urself get abused like that... if she really likes you she would have break out with him.. dont be stupid.. dont let that girl abuse you further...
My friend was in a similar situation to you, i remember making a thread about it on PA. Anyways if she's not going to leave her bf for you then she's not worth your time, it's better to try and find someone else. I think you should tell her straight up that if she really likes you, then she should break up, otherwise you'll leave her. Now if she knows whats good for her, she'll do the right thing hopefully.
