what u guys/gals think?? I am not great at keeping a conversation going, infact, when i chat with my classmates or girl-friends, it is normally short and straight to the point. Maybe i am too blunt?? Its like i don;t like to beat around the bush and likes to get straight to the point. The whole idea of saying sumthing for the sake of saying it totally doenst apply for me. I am blessed in that i have a talkative GF who does most of the talking while i just listen and gives my 2cents when needed be. Is it bad for a relationship??
well it's not bad if you're straight to the point, but you have to be at least a little conversational. just because you're blunt, doesn't mean you can't have a nice conversation with someone. I wouldn't want to be with someone who can't talk to me
I dont think there's anything bad about it. Everyone is different and being straight to the point is good.
like everyone said, its good to get straight to the point and not beat around the bush.... but some girls like a guy who can hold up a conversation. if u have nothing to say then just think of something to talk about where u can input a lot into it. change topics once in a while. i like to get straight to a point and then joke around on somethings and talk about it
being a conversationalist doesn't mean being talkative. it means having depth in your conversation. not just rambling but actually talking about something. so i'm sure you're fine. if your gf has a problem with it, she'd probably tell you. besides, nearly all guys don't really talk all that much.
Nothing wrong with your conversation style, just make sure she doesn't get bored hearing herself talk... Once in a while, start (or lead) a conversation on topics which interests you would be a nice change to the relationship. It is possible that she's the type who hates dead air, and assume that there will be uncomfortable silence if she doesn't keep on talking... Just a friendly caution.
its ok imo... i prefer a guy whoz straight to the point and talk less crap.... talking like an idiot like a headless chicken is not that attractive.... then again...i dont like it when a guy is too dry and doesnt show interest =/
I agree... there's nothing wrong with quiet as long as you enjoy the companionship.....better that forcing to be talkative and bored....
nope.. but there must be some other gestures or bodily language to replace spoken.. listening is part of that. shows that you are paying attention despite the lack of words.
hmm.. sometimes you feel like you want to say something, but you really don't have anything to say...is that u? i think i feel like that sometimes, especially to strangers... then i toss up randomness... and if you joke around, you really don't have to say much. can't really joke with strangers, don't know how they'd react...
I agree. I hate it when I'm with someone and I feel the need to say something because the silence is awkward. With my ex, I could sit there for hours and not say anything and it would be comfortable.
thnx for the support. Makes me feel less uneasy. I do try to spring a new topic or try to change topic when there are an awkward pause.in fact, i think i am the one who feels more uneasy when there is dead air. She had never hinted that she feels uncomfortable of our relationship or anything. Maybe i worry too much.
^ Dont try too hard on spontaneous conversation as sometimes it leads to even more awkward situations. Simply be yourself when you are in a relationship.
Well, I believe there are 2 kinds of people, the talkers and the listeners. You're probably just more of a listener. It's good that you listen to what she says and give your thoughts when you think its necessary. It doesn't make you a bad BF. Like ppl said, if it feels right when you two are together, talking or not, it's a good sign. Though, a lot of time, being direct is good, but you should be more careful when you are handling more "delicate" topics.
