I agree too....how can you have a relationship if there's no talking happening?? So how long did it take before the honeymoon period was over? I've been told that its normally between 3-4 months...then the guys just take you for granted and think that they can just treat u like a piece of ass they have clinging on their arm...hehe...
lol, our honeymoon period is about 4-5 months, he dnt treat me totally bad, but im beginning to phase out of his life it seems. angie is right tho, he just doesnt like to sit and talk, occassionally i manage to get him, but its so rare. i do wna stay with him tho...just its hard...
hmmm..i feel sorry for ya...u seemed to be hooked on a guy who doesnt wanna listen to u.... i guess its just his personality....if so....very hard to change... i dont think i could put up with someone who doesnt wanna listen to me =/
I'm sure your not phasing out of his life, guys have the tendency to switch focus once in a while but as long as the times he does see you it is all about u two and not others....that way i guess it can make up for the times you haven't seen each other!
Sigh.. it's always the females who bring up and make a big deal about the "honeymoon" phase, it's an arduous period where every guy has to go through -- listen to the gf's ramble on and on about how you don't treat them the way you used to. You can't really expect someone to treat you like a princess throughout the whole relationship until the end, it's just impossible. Nothing lasts forever. Being a guy, I had to cope through the endless weeks of torment in hearing the gf continuously remind me of how she misses the "honeymoon phase" and how she thinks that I don't love her anymore because I don't treat her as good as before. It sucked big time. Though in your case Shini, your bf phasing out of your life seems abnormal.
well its because.... we fell for the guy in that honeymoon period....its quite a shock for us when we get a slap in the face and have to deal with no longer being treated as a princess i reckon its a bit fake if a guy treats u sooo good at the beginnin and that suddenly just changes... luckily it never happened to me
@ rsx so true. Guys dont like it when their gfs constantly nagging them about the honeymoon phase. Ppl's views and emotions change, just because not talking as much doesnt mean not loving. Problem with girls is that once the guy doesnt talk as much = not loving anymore. Everyone needs their own space and as bf/ gf, it should be more accomodating.
i guess... its nice to have guys opinions too. I just...i dont know... when I want to talk he just don't want to... I hardly get to express how I feel about stuff to him without him wandering off doing whatever, or just sleeping as i am about to start talking... I'm not expecting him to devote all his time on me, but it's just, he won't listen to me talk about how i feel. don't you guys feel that you should at least listen to what your gf has to say occasionally?
shini...u seem like a cool chick...and i honestly believe that u deserve a guy who listens to u... and of course he should listen to and what u have to say about ur feelings!! like i always say....if he cant fulfill ur needs..it bugs u and hes not gonna change... go find someone else who will instead of finding ways of how u can change him or whatever.... waste of time i know u must be thinkin....its easy for me to talk...but mostly an outsider can see it better cuz that person is sober and from what ur sayin....im thinking....he doesnt really suit u....=/
lol, quite a few people has said that to me. but...i cant...I'm not afraid to be single dont get me wrong... I'm just...well, i do love him, i actually do... And I know he loves me, all his best mates tell me, and I believe they are being genuine... it's just that he wont sit and talk about things that upsets me i guess... I believe communication is just as important as trust, but in his case...talking is just out...
Shini_D....if he really loves u...he should try and fulfill ur needs... its a very normal thing to ask ur bf to listen/talk to u about feelings...=/ of course dont over do it by keep going and going...but....seriously.... if u spoke to him about it....he should listen...=/ walking away or going to sleep... man thats just rude....
haha tell me about it... but we both have things we got to compromise about. I'm not all saintly either in this relationship, I do things that he hates, yet I can't seem to change or adjust it... So we both got problems we need to sort out... I guess I fall under the clingy type lol. Trying to step out of my shoes and see it from a sober point of view lol
hmmm....well...there u go.... then...u guys can work on ur flaws together relationships are givin and takin..... if ur relationship is good.... im sure he'd appreciate it if u'd get rid of one of ur bad habits and he'd consider returnin the fave
hehe....well its how it works with a lot of things in life....imo work hard = u'll get reward be good to ur friends = receive good things from them too and same goes for <3 hehe anyway...wish u goodluck! -flow
attagirl... thats the first step in working out a relationship... i think it would be best if you lay back a bit, he'll come running to you...funny thing with guy is that if you happen to be clingy, a sense of dislike will arise... but if you act cool, he'll start to worry and he'll be the one wanting to talk
